I've just recently started attending events at my Uni building up to Fresher's Week. I'm living at home (at least for my first year) mostly to save on costs.
The events have all been fun so far, but I always feel awkward at them. I know that's natural to an extent, but I feel a little bit like the odd one out.
I've always been somewhat shy, but I get on well with most people I talk to. I'm finding socialising hard so far because everyone else already seems to be in groups of 3-5 chatting away, I'm guessing this is because they are in halls of residence together.
On the other hand I know a couple of names, but that's about it. So sometimes I end up standing about like a lemon
Now normally I'd be happy to wander up to a crowd and chat away, but unfortunately since a year ago I have a pretty annoying hearing problem.
The docs think it was caused by some kind of viral infection, but basically I lost half of the hearing in my left ear, plus I get quite loud tinnitus in it.
That makes it pretty hard to chat in crowds for me, as distinguishing the voices is very difficult. I've already tried to talk in a crowd at the events and I end up missing someone addressing me.
Makes me feel like a total tool, since I only notice when I get a weird look most of the time.
Should I be telling people about this problem yet? I don't want to be wandering around moaning about my ear all the time.
And is it best to approach crowds or wait for people to peel off? I've never really been particularly at home in large crowds of people anyway.
Any advice appreciated, thanks in advance
Meeting people and hearing loss watch
- Thread Starter
- 29-09-2010 00:37
- 29-09-2010 00:44
Can't really say much for most of it, but I have tinnitus too along with hearing loss. To be honest, there really is no point telling people your problem (I didn't). You just have to endure it and do the best you can!
- PS Reviewer
- 29-09-2010 00:50
I have hearing problems too and tend to get by through lip-reading, or using tone of voice/info I know to make assumptions about what the other person is saying. I tend to only join a crowd conversation if I think I can get away with not needing to say/respond much.
My general policy is not to mention my hearing unless someone gives me a weird look. Then I tend to go, "sorry: wasn't being rude, I've actually got a slight hearing problem and just didn't hear you/catch what you said"