Boyfriend received dirty texts on his phone. Help

He's a very lucky boy :smile:

Reply 4

god Lauren is loads nicer than me theres no way that I would not have another snoop. Did you get to see whether the number was saved under a name in the phone book?

Reply 5

Hayley_2k4

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viviki

god Lauren is loads nicer than me theres no way that I would not have another snoop. Did you get to see whether the number was saved under a name in the phone book?

no, it wasn't a saved number. :rolleyes:

typical

Reply 6

fleur-de-lis

Hayley_2k4

I was at my boyfriends today, when someone sent him a text message. He looked at his phone, and typed something (I presumed he was answering the message) a moment later his phone went off again (I presumed it was someone replying to the message he sent) when I asked him who’s texting, he replied ‘oh it’s nothing’. I know this is wrong, but curiosity got the better of me, so while he was downstairs I had a look at his phone (wrong I know) in his inbox were two messages, one saying ‘hey horney. I really want you. what you doing?’ another said ‘how much do you want it’ when I checked his ‘sent messages’ all the messages were deleted. Now I don’t know what to think. Maybe it was a friend messing around? It’s been going around in my head, I was wondering if you guys could give me some input/advice on what to do.

Thank you

I see some probs...
1. You checked his phone messages, which is an invasion of privacy
2. He might be up to some mischief
3. If so, he lied to you

In any way, you have to deal this quite tactfully. You could ask him once again what the texts were about and if he says again- 'oh, its nothing', you might either have to turn a blind eye or confront him. The latter might cause a lot of tension in your relationship.
Think of what is important: Do you want him to be true to you? or do you want to just salvage the relationship?

Reply 7

well its unlikely to be a friend then but if it was a girlfriend (so he was cheating on you) you'd think that he'd have the number saved in his phone too.

Reply 8

Lauren Hart

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sometimes my texts come through from people in my phonebook as their nos, not their names. i spose if you really cant confront him, you could always take the number and confront her. Im not advising it, but its an option.

Reply 9

Icy Ghost

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His sent messages were deleted, but he didn't delete the recieved messages? :confused:

That wouldn't make sense if he's trying to hide anything from you...
Just be honest and say what you did. He shouldn't get mad just because you looked at some of his texts. It's not like he has anything important to hide.
As the above post said, you could write down the number of the girl/other person and ask them about it... Or just give subtle hints that you "know" what he's up to.. and see how he reacts.

Reply 10

Hayley_2k4

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Icy Ghost

His sent messages were deleted, but he didn't delete the recieved messages? :confused:

That's weird...
Just be honest and say what you did. He shouldn't get mad just because you looked at some of his texts. It's not as if he should be hiding anything from you...

your right. thank you. x

Reply 11

Now theres no way I'd do that. If she turns out just to be a mate you'd look like a psycho jealous girlfriend.

Reply 12

I'd go mad if I found out my boyf had looked at my messages without asking.

Reply 13

Hayley_2k4

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I'm off now, (up early for work in morning - new job) I will read any new replies in the morning (if any) thank you SO much, to everyone who has helped. you've all been great. I feel rep coming on :smile:

thanks again. xx

Reply 14

grace

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i always look through my bfs phone. i got pissed off with him when i saw his porn video clips (tacky tacky tacky), can't imagine what i'd do if i found texts like those!

the only thing to do is ask him what they were about.

to be brutely honest i don't really see how it's possible that it has an innocent explaination. i mean, even if it was just a mate messing around it's unlikey it would carry on like that, message, reply, another message...that's just wrong even if it is two blokes messing around!

Reply 15

lou p lou

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viviki

I'd go mad if I found out my boyf had looked at my messages without asking.

yeh i would too, but then again i think sending/ recieved dodgy messages is worse...

lou xxx

Reply 16

fleur-de-lis

Calling the other girl/person mightn't be a good idea- He/She might tell your bf and then he would be quite angrier

Reply 17

grace

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lou p

yeh i would too, but then again i think sending/ recieved dodgy messages is worse...

lou xxx

why is it an issue if your bf reads your texts?! i have no problem letting him read mine or vice versa, if you have nothing to hide i don't see why it's an issue??!?

Reply 18

because theres such a thing as mental privacy. I've always needed a space in my head thats just for me and what I text to my friends is not a boyfs business. It could be confidential stuff between my friends that he isn't to know about.

Doesn't mean I'd cheat but I hate the thought that i would have to share everything with a partner.

Reply 19

fleur-de-lis