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    My god, if this had been a white person saying there are too many Asians at their uni the vitriol on this thread would be overwhelming
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    Race has nothing to do with anything, don't let yourself think it does!

    I came to my uni last week knowing no one at all (no one from my hometown came here, I am not forigen) and I haven't seen anyone any differently because of their race. One of my mates is Chinese, another is black, it makes no difference!

    Whats more, they have no bother at all making friends. There are a group of Chinese people in my course who only talk to each other but they only have themselves to blame if they feel lonely - everyone is very accepting and looking to make friends, not judge you on your skin tone.
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    It doesn't matter if you don't like the people on your course, they're only colleagues there to work the same as you; you don't have to do everything that they do. It's the same when you have a job, there will be people of a variety of ages, ethnicities, backgrounds, religions, etc....and you just have to work with them whether you like them or not. Seriously, nobody ever has a job where they like everyone, there is always someone who is a pain in the rear for at least one reason.

    If you're looking to make friends at Uni who are more into your interests then you can do that through clubs and societies or meeting people at the coffee bar. It's actually good to socialise with people who aren't on the same course as you as well for a bit of variety.

    It's a matter of priorities; you pay those fees for an education and a degree so that you can get a decent job that pays good money, you didn't decide to pay £3,300 per year to make friends. It's a means to an end.
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    (Original post by a112)
    i go to brunel ow and i took a gap year already ast year. Im living at home and HATE uni people on my course are not the type of people i have anything in common with. Im asian and most people in my course are black and white. They prefer drinking all the time and i do like going out and having fun but not getting 'hammered' as they say.

    i have given it time and i dont know what to do. im thinking of dropping out and reapplying somewhere else but im terrified nxt year the uni i go to might be the same full of people i dont get on with. i was thinking of applying to city uni but im worried in halls there might be white people who are diff to me.

    im so sad and i cried on my way home. what should i do?
    What makes you think when you drop out and apply somewhere else that there's going to be any different? Everyone at uni likes drinking and getting hammered which is typical of the student lifestyle.

    Most people are white and not as many asian as we are not in asia, but England, a predominantly white country. Basically you can't expect people to conform to what you want them to, you are either going to have to accept them or accept that you're going to be friendless.
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    Join clubs and societies. Brunel has loads to offer, and you never know you'll meet people who you will have more in common with. I met some really nice people last year and the begining of this year by getting involoved.
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    Brunel = FULL of asians. I'm confused. Make friends through societies.
    Or just go to Queen Mary.
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    (Original post by js374)
    My god, if this had been a white person saying there are too many Asians at their uni the vitriol on this thread would be overwhelming

    This. I grew up with so many asians and non were ever like this. Now every ten minutes I see a thread by a asian complaining that he/she can't find any other asians or don't get along with the white and black people at their university. Like seriously, what the **** man?

    Seem to be the most anti multicultural race nowadays.
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    ok so you don't want to go out and get hammered, what do you want to do?
    I agree with other posters - you stop being a [email protected]"((r and do something a bit positive for a change.
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    You'll learn to cope with it, Brunel even though i don't go there must have a large diversification of people there will be people you get along with just keep looking for these people, don't give up you'll settle in.
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    Go back to your own country! You racist!
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    wow non-Asians huh? You REALLY don't help the stereotype which seemed to exist back in my secondary where exactly this happened, all the Asian guys hung out in a huge group and wouldn't associate with anyone else, walked across the school field in this big intimidating group of 40-50 of them. When there were PE lessons it was always "US vs everyone else football!"

    Try not using race as barrier to friendship, look at all the threads posted daily about how people don't like noisy flatmates, or clubbing etc, I'd bet a fair few are white or black people....
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    maybe you should be more interested in the course than the people

    me for example, i am going to uni to get a degree - not party
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    RAAAAAAAAAAAACCCCIIIIIIIIISSSSSS SST (at least thats what most would be saying if you were white)
    There are plenty of black and white guys who are not obsessed with drinking yo're just not looking hard enoug.

    But if you really need it I have a yellow friend doing biomedial sciences at brunel. Try be friends with him (though i'm not sure he could stomach your appaling views).
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    (Original post by a112)
    i go to brunel ow and i took a gap year already ast year. Im living at home and HATE uni people on my course are not the type of people i have anything in common with. Im asian and most people in my course are black and white. They prefer drinking all the time and i do like going out and having fun but not getting 'hammered' as they say.

    i have given it time and i dont know what to do. im thinking of dropping out and reapplying somewhere else but im terrified nxt year the uni i go to might be the same full of people i dont get on with. i was thinking of applying to city uni but im worried in halls there might be white people who are diff to me.

    im so sad and i cried on my way home. what should i do?
    Just out of curiosity what course are you studying OP?
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    (Original post by a112)
    First off all why does race matter? Every university is going to have black, white and asian students, and there will always be people who are different to you. And if you move to a city uni then it's likely to have even more people who as you said, 'prefer drinking all the time' as cities tend to have better nightlife.
    Race really does matter... especially in London. The black students especially all tend to be into smoking weed and fighting. I know it's a stereotype but unfortunately one that most black people tend to live up to.
    I do sympathise with him, as I can see how this could be a problem. I know quite a few people that go to Brunel (of all races), and most of them are troublemakers, owing to the fact that a lot of Brunel students are from London.
    Acting as though race isn't an issue is extremely naive, especially for an asian student as the lifestyle and principals are so different.
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    im so sad and i cried on my way home. what should i do?


    You shouldn't run away, as others have accurately argued. It promotes the concept of "running away" from everyone of life's trials and misfortunes. You will not develop as an individual, you will not gain much from that response.

    You need to be able to ignore the overwhelming majority and their petty culture of binge-drinking and meaningless sex. You need to be able to motivate yourself by utilising your own interests, and hobbies. But also by placing an emphasis on the purpose of your presense: to further your education, and in preparation for your successful future.



    Don't make these major choices on reflection of the majority, because they won't face the consequences. Only you will; when you eventually find out, later down the track, that jobs are difficult to come by, and they don't make you happy.
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    Daaaaym boy, yous a troll fo'sho!
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    I just cant believe you're willing to give up UNI because theyre not like you... that's a bit silly don't ya think. If you are not at uni to be social and want to work hard then stop crying and focus on what is more important!!!
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    (Original post by a112)
    i go to brunel ow and i took a gap year already ast year. Im living at home and HATE uni people on my course are not the type of people i have anything in common with. Im asian and most people in my course are black and white. They prefer drinking all the time and i do like going out and having fun but not getting 'hammered' as they say.

    i have given it time and i dont know what to do. im thinking of dropping out and reapplying somewhere else but im terrified nxt year the uni i go to might be the same full of people i dont get on with. i was thinking of applying to city uni but im worried in halls there might be white people who are diff to me.

    im so sad and i cried on my way home. what should i do?
    Why are you basing your University experience off of the people that attend it with you, and their drinking habits? It looks like you need to put your priorities in check, because I don't think you have any idea what you ought to be doing there.
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    FACE REALITY. You must finish your course or else you'll end up getting stuck.
    Think about this, if you move somewhere else and they have the same people like what you just said, are you going to move again or what? if you do, you'll end up graduating too late and stuck with some debt or you can just finish that, focus on yourself and be successful and grad. at the right age. Your choice.
 
 
 
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