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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Have you got a bucket for a vagina
    beat me to it. this is clearly the problem.
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    The term for it is 'retarded ejaculation' IIRC. Make him go cold turkey from self love, that might help.
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    He ***** too much
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    He sound gay to be honest... straight men have no problem with sex, and would never choose porn over a girl they are attracted to. Just a hunch but perhaps he's watching the porns to watch the guys rather than the girls in it.
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    I know what you mean about the lasting a long time and being sore, but I have never encountered the problem of the guy no being able to finish. I would say maybe try more foreplay, it will get you wetter so may feel nicer for both of you, and will also mean that you can stimulate him a lot beforehand, hopefully meaning he can finish with you. Try things such as the 69 position or watching porn together and touching each other for a while before you even have sex, or roleplay where you can prolong the time before you start to have sex.

    You could also get him to teach you how he likes to be touched when he masturbates, so you can do it for him after instead of you just having to sit there and watch him?

    Have you tried things like sexy underwear to try and give him the added visual stimulation without having to watch porn?

    I don't know whether he would let you 'ban' him from masturbating for a few days, so maybe try and make it fun like a challenge instead of making it sounds like it is necessary. Bet him he can't last 5 days and if he can you will give him a very special reward (you can decide something you know he will love) and just see whether that helps.

    Hopefully you will be able to help yourself by just stimulating him more beforehand, but make sure you look up positions which will help you feel tighter to him (such as your legs over his shoulders in missionary) and other things that may help him feel more sensitive. Ultimately, you should be able to discuss this if you are in a serious relationship and sort it out together, so please do try. He may be embarrassed, but if he loves you then he will try, if not then maybe think about if you want to be with someone who won't compromise with you on things like this or consider your feelings.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I prefer it as well, unless the woman is exceptional, and it's virtually impossible to get anywhere with them!
    Wow, you must all be bedding absolutely hopeless girls . Tbh though it does not surprise me as most UK people know nothing about being any good in bed.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Is there something wrong with me :confused: Its making me feel inadequate, or is this normal for guys :confused:
    Let me explain this for you through analogy.

    Porn's like fast food, quick shallow pleasure and you feel a bit dirty afterwards. Sex of course is more like a three course meal in a fancy restaurant. Now obviously a big mac once in a while never hurt anyone, but if your BF is always turning down prime rib for a continuous succession of greasy binges then he's clearly got no tastebuds. Find someone with a more developed palate asap.

    Hope that's made it a little clearer for you. :sexface:
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    Anal.
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    w*** him off at the end?
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    (Original post by -beads-)
    w*** him off at the end?
    Hate to break it to you, but most women are **** at that sort of thing

    OP, just a hunch, do you guys use condoms?
    I imagine you:
    a-need some better ones
    b-if all else fails need to find an alternative

    I had EXACTLY this problem (barring the ******* in front of my girlfriend to porn, that's kinda weird) when my girlfriend and I were using bog standard durex condoms. They were too thick and too tight and the wrong material (latex sucks, seriously).
    So yeah, that could be the issue.

    Or he has a **** like a pepperami from ******* too much so he can't get off to normal stimulation...
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    Might be obvious, but he could be gay?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Is this normal :confused:

    When we have sex, he lasts for a long long time (yes I know thats meant to be a good thing), but it's just too long! I start to go dry and after a while it gets uncomfortable and I just want him to finish.....but he can't Eventually we just stop and he just masturbates, and sometimes even watches porn while I'm just sitting on the bed bored Infact, he only actually cums about 1 in 10 times :eek:

    Is this normal I'm not really experienced with loads of guys so I don't know....but I didn't think it was THAT hard for guys to.....:confused:

    I asked him about it, and he told me that his hand feels better than having sex.....

    Is there something wrong with me :confused: Its making me feel inadequate, or is this normal for guys :confused:
    That is extremely unusual, it must be something you're doing wrong. Maybe he's not that attracted to you and the girls in the porno are better looking? Try watching one of the pornos he watches and see what the girls do which you aren't doing.

    Also most girls wouldn't be complaining with that 'problem'
 
 
 
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