How to get over insecurities?

Basically, here's the thing
I feel like I'm too insecure about things with my boyfriend at the moment, I love him so much, but I feel like my worrying is going to ruin things
I'm a natural worrier anyway, which doesn't help
It's not like i'm insecure about my appearance or 'any random girl he talks to I get worried about' or anything like that, it's this one girl who he used to be really close with that I worry about him starting to like as more than a friend again

I know myself that I should get over it, and worrying doesn't help things, but it's like however much reassurance I get it still stays in my head

I just wondered if anyone's been in a similar situation or has any advice on how to stop myself from being so insecure?

Thanks!

Reply 1

Barbara Novak

sucks eh

know how you feel. its really, really hard to get over, and im not totally either, makes two of us :smile:

. just try and think yourself as your own person, not the other half. concentrate on what makes you feel good

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

Anyone else?? :smile:

Reply 3

gdnb

You just have to learn to accept yourself and work on it. I think some of it comes with age. I used to be terribly insecure, but these days I'm alot better. I think you have to highlight the things you are insecure about and try overcome them specifically. We all go through hurt, it's part of life. I think in truth, I wouldn't be to harsh on yourself, your not on your own at all. The majority of us have issues, some of us, BIG issues which we tend to ignore and live life pretending they are not there. Atleast you are aware of your insecurity and insight is the first step to change.