REALLY upset with my life :'(

I go to a Birmingham uni and pretty much everyone on my course is Asian or extremely weird.

What happend during your first year? Was it the same situation then?

Try befriend other 2nd students on your course.

Can't really tell if this is a joke or not, if it is, you've actually done it quite well, and if it isn't, then i'm afraid you're deluding yourself a little bit.

What's wrong with making friends with Asians, do you naturally think they won't like you? And don't say they are different to you, because a lot of them are westernised over here and I've seen groups mixed with asians, blacks, whites etc. It is true that people of their own kind are more likely to stick with their own (asians with asians, blacks with blacks, whites with whites, whatever) but it doesn't mean you can't get in their social circle.

No I just can't generally get on with them. They are either freshie, too quiet/boring/not interested in being friends, or too over the top sociable that they don't like me.

Anyway why aren't you going out to the freshers ball?

Surely there's gotta be someone you get along with? I can describe a lot white people like that (except for the freshie bit).

Who says you have to go early.

Are you at Birmingham or Aston?

Most of the time, when people have this problem, it's cos they're afraid to put themself out there & i know this is easy to say. but what i mean is, you gotta pluck up the courage to go up to someone and strike a conversation. Conversations can end quickly if you don't sustain them.. and by this I mean, ask lots of questions about their lives, their friends, their halls, their subject. Make comparisons with the stuff they're saying 'oh I used to have a friend who liked ____ ' 'Really? I've always wanted to do that'. I know this sounds wrong, but to make yourself interesting (if you're not), you can exaggerate or 'big yourself up' just a tiny bit.. i don't mean boast. i mean things like just throwing in things about your past experiences with ur friends.. 'me and my friends used to go to ____ and do ____ '. Make people think you have had experiences with girls/lots of friends in the past. 'Why do girls always take so long to get ready?!'

And the biggest problem with people like you (and me) I think, is that we're too afraid of sounding like idiots if we say something and 'getting rejected' if we put ourselves out there. Once that fear has gone, the problem disappears trust me.

You gotta become confident enough to say things, and talk to people, and the first step to doing that is accepting that your just the same as all the other people at uni. Just cause they've had conversations and sex with girls and you haven't, doesn't make them better than you or a different species of human.

I know the weirdest and most eccentric people who have finally made friends because they just put themselves out there. Just engage. Be curious about people. Be interested in something cool that you can talk about - music, sport, travel. It may seem like it, but it's not hard to get someone to like you. & most of the time, all this 'they don't like me' ******** is all in your head.

Good luck

xxx