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I think that there are some misconcepetions about arranged marriages going around. I dont know about other religions (namely Islam, Hinduism) but for Sikhs residing in England, the marriage isn't forced! There is a big selection process where you look through available boys/girls "on the market". Also, it is not just the parents that have the say in the marriage. I'd say that the final word is your own and you get to talk to the person to see if you like them first- it's not like blind date or something :eek:
Furthermore, I know of a few couples (three of my cousins) that have got married through a "love marriage", where they met their partner and asked their parents if they could marry them. The parents then check out the person to see if they agree (I think).
Although I haven't got any stats to back it up, I reckon that the % for divorces in arranged marriages is lower...
That should clarify some things for people...I dont really know about the divorce rate though, if people could agree to an arranged marriage they choose to keep silent about their probelms perhaps?

I'll move on to what I think are some of the positive and negative impacts arranged marriages might have on young men, when I am ready, and if I can be bothered.
This is just a discussion, I dont see why you have to get angry...?
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That should clarify some things for people...I dont really know about the divorce rate though, if people could agree to an arranged marriage they choose to keep silent about their probelms perhaps?

I'll move on to what I think are some of the positive and negative impacts arranged marriages might have on young men, when I am ready, and if I can be bothered.
This is just a discussion, I dont see why you have to get angry...?
Apologies. Didn't mean it to come across that way......
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Apologies. Didn't mean it to come across that way......
hehe...no worries! truce?
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hehe...no worries! truce?
Absolutely!
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i like the idea of arranged marriage, in my family. we meet a guy/gal thru parents, and we get to know each other, have convos over dinner and by ourselves. get to meet the fam. its rlly cool. like a whole datin agency thing! u meet as many times until ur sure u like this person nd then get engaged! u take asian sweets (mithai) over to their house, sweeten everyones mouth and blah blah! awww!
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(Original post by Dil)
I think that there are some misconcepetions about arranged marriages going around. I dont know about other religions (namely Islam, Hinduism) but for Sikhs residing in England, the marriage isn't forced! There is a big selection process where you look through available boys/girls "on the market". Also, it is not just the parents that have the say in the marriage. I'd say that the final word is your own and you get to talk to the person to see if you like them first- it's not like blind date or something :eek:
Furthermore, I know of a few couples (three of my cousins) that have got married through a "love marriage", where they met their partner and asked their parents if they could marry them. The parents then check out the person to see if they agree (I think).
Although I haven't got any stats to back it up, I reckon that the % for divorces in arranged marriages is lower...
yes for hindus is not a 'forced' marriage usually either. an arranged marriage is more like when the parents help their kids find suitable life partners from a good background and good families, but you have the final say.

for example my parents had an 'arranged' marriage but they werent forced or anything and theyve been happy together for 20 years.
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its still strange
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Some of my friends are going to marry their cousins, which seems odd to me.
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Some of my friends are going to marry their cousins, which seems odd to me.
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