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    I am taking 5AS in the sciences and maths at pretty-good comp, but I am feeling quite down-hearted due to some people's attitudes and feel that I've made the wrong choice by going to a local school.

    Although I usually get pretty similar reponses when someone asks which A-levels I'm taking ("You must be clever" or "You're going to kill yourself"), for no reason at all, I find there's some negativity from certain students usually towards others but also sometimes towards me.

    I'm generally a very friendly guy who doesn't boast or look-down on people, but some pessimists in my classes have some skewed views. In Biology, I quickly worked out a straightforward mathematical question to which I learnt to answer well before GCSE level, and yet some smug guy makes a remark out loud "Oh did you learnt that at Further Maths Statistics?" and I felt like telling him, what's your problem if I know how to work out a basic maths problem, this person whom I've never met or talked to at all, and judging by his character in other lessons, surprises me he has a few A*s.

    In Further Maths, there's two people, one of whom is one of my close friends whom I've known for 5 years, and for no reason at all just look-down on me for being resourceful or knowing the answer, and even when I try to help them they are ungreatful and dismiss me. Although I ignore such people, my classes aren't that large (max 20 for some of them) and yet there are a few bad nuts here and there, even the smartest among them hold strong opiniated views.

    Perhaps it's the school that has an aura of inflicting negative views to some of its students or maybe they're jealous, like a boy who's a few years lower than me but is in my kickboxing club is quite arrogant and bossy towards me, using his 'belt' as an excuse. I feel like knocking some sense into these people to teach them that such attitudes aren't going to do you any good, but I'm stuck.

    Even when I tell people I have ambitions of going to Cambridge or New England Universities or that I'm taking 5AS and maybe some more to boost my portfolio, I don't understand why some people mock my hardworking ethic and it's quite discouraging because they believe I won't get into these places because I'm not good enough, I go to a state school so I'm not that clever.

    Yet, I quickly get shut out before I can explain to them that I have actually had offers at grammar and private schools, but due to fees, travel distance, sometimes boarding or all-boys school, positive discrimination - they think I'm lying and honestly, I thought I wouldn't expect such harsh views from a good state school (best in the LEA), though it's only a small group but an evident group as they are almost always present in my classes, but I generally sit and associate myself with the smartest and kindest of people, but still eminent force in class.

    Now though, I feel like I made a wrong choice by going to state school in fear of positive discrimination if I'd have gone to grammar or private schools, amongst distance, boarding or single-sex schools. The school is OK, some lovely teachers, normal maths I don't have the greatest of teachers, but that won't stop me as one of the reasons I went to local state school was because I could excell and shine much more than if I'd have gone elsewhere, thereby increasing my chance of an offer from top unis due to my 'disadvantage'.

    And a week doesn't go by where I'm not reminded that I'm stuck at a state school and will always be associated with it for the rest of my life, even one of the teachers said that a boy from private school joined couple of years ago to see how it was like to live with the 'common' people, and it's disgusting. Reminded ever day how I'm always going to be disadvantaged and it will impact my social class, my group of friends, my life... and I can't help but feel like I want to leave the state school and ask if I could go to the grammar or private school that gave me the offers, but I feel it's too late (a month!)

    Ideally, I'd like to write off my life and not mention where I've come from, but people never look as far back (I've been educated privately when I was young, homeschooled, state since middle/secondary school)... but I'm always made to feel like charity and second-rate, despite my intellect and hardworking manner and large ambitions.

    Could someone offer me any suggestions on what I could do? And sorry it has been a long read.
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    Don't be ashamed of your school! Life is what you make of it so don't go around wondering what other people will think of you or the stigma thats attached to it, you made the decision to go there!

    Also, people are jealous and insecure, the people who make snide comments probably just wish they had known the answer, you get people like that everywhere! Just learn to ignore them...grow a thick skin and laugh it off or make a joke...dont let it put you off!

    OP, if you really are deeply unhappy then its never too late to change school. Its better to start a month later than leave it for a year and then find your school work is being compromised!

    Dont know if this helps you, but I hope it does!
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    It's probably just jealousy.
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    (Original post by bonjourholly)
    It's probably just jealousy.
    Yeah I think so too, but sometimes it isn't just that. By the way, impressive grades - from state or public/private school? =P
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    Thank you and I've been in state schooling for all of my education and not a grammar one at that.
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    You should be proud that you went to a state school.
    You had to work a lot harder then most people at grammar schools.
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    Maybe it's just an impression you give off? There was a girl in my gcse art class who came across as a little arrogant and up herself. She was quiet and I never knew why, but when I started talking to her I found she was actually quite nice, and she told me stuff like she'd felt quite shy and wasn't totally comfortable speaking to people she didn't know well until she got to know them better.

    EDIT: Sorry I've just realised I haven't explained properly. Basically, are you sure you're not taking yourself a little too seriously? I don't know you personally so I could be completely wrong, but just a thought...
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    (Original post by adam271)
    You should be proud that you went to a state school.
    You had to work a lot harder then most people at grammar schools.
    *go to
    I'm still there, just in year eleven.
    Personally, I don't think I've worked harder. I always seem to be within the top 1-5 pupils of my classes since the intelligence is of a broader range, there is no level to aim for when you tend to be the people in the class setting the top levels, if that makes sense?
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    (Original post by RedCasino)
    […] I am taking 5AS in the sciences and maths at pretty-good comp, but I am feeling quite down-hearted due to some people's attitudes and feel that I've made the wrong choice by going to a local school.

    Although I usually get pretty similar re[strike]ponses when someone asks which A-levels I'm taking ("You must be clever" or "You're going to kill yourself"), for no reason at all, I find there's some negativity from certain students usually towards others but also sometimes towards me.

    I'm generally a very friendly guy who doesn't boast or look-down on people, but some pessimists in my classes have some skewed views. In Biology, I quickly worked out a straightforward mathematical question to which I learnt to answer well before GCSE level, and yet some smug guy makes a remark out loud "Oh did you learnt that at Further Maths Statistics?" and I felt like telling him, what's your problem if I know how to work out a basic maths problem, this person whom I've never met or talked to at all, and judging by his character in other lessons, surprises me he has a few A*s.

    In Further Maths, there's two people, one of whom is one of my close friends whom I've known for 5 years, and for no reason at all just look-down on me for being resourceful or knowing the answer, and even when I try to help them they are ungreatful and dismiss me. Although I ignore such people, my classes aren't that large (max 20 for some of them) and yet there are a few bad nuts here and there, even the smartest among them hold strong opiniated views.

    Perhaps it's the school that has an aura of inflicting negative views to some of its students or maybe they're jealous, like a boy who's a few years lower than me but is in my kickboxing club is quite arrogant and bossy towards me, using his 'belt' as an excuse. I feel like knocking some sense into these people to teach them that such attitudes aren't going to do you any good, but I'm stuck.

    Even when I tell people I have ambitions of going to Cambridge or New England Universities or that I'm taking 5AS and maybe some more to boost my portfolio, I don't understand why some people mock my hardworking ethic and it's quite discouraging because they believe I won't get into these places because I'm not good enough, I go to a state school so I'm not that clever.

    Yet, I quickly get shut out before I can explain to them that I have actually had offers at grammar and private schools, but due to fees, travel distance, sometimes boarding or all-boys school, positive discrimination - they think I'm lying and honestly, I thought I wouldn't expect such harsh views from a good state school (best in the LEA), though it's only a small group but an evident group as they are almost always present in my classes, but I generally sit and associate myself with the smartest and kindest of people, but still eminent force in class.

    Now though, I feel like I made a wrong choice by going to state school in fear of positive discrimination if I'd have gone to grammar or private schools, amongst distance, boarding or single-sex schools. The school is OK, some lovely teachers, normal maths I don't have the greatest of teachers, but that won't stop me as one of the reasons I went to local state school was because I could excell and shine much more than if I'd have gone elsewhere, thereby increasing my chance of an offer from top unis due to my 'disadvantage'.

    And a week doesn't go by where I'm not reminded that I'm stuck at a state school and will always be associated with it for the rest of my life, even one of the teachers said that a boy from private school joined couple of years ago to see how it was like to live with the 'common' people, and it's disgusting. Reminded ever day how I'm always going to be disadvantaged and it will impact my social class, my group of friends, my life... and I can't help but feel like I want to leave the state school and ask if I could go to the grammar or private school that gave me the offers, but I feel it's too late (a month!)

    Ideally, I'd like to write off my life and not mention where I've come from, but people never look as far back (I've been educated privately when I was young, homeschooled, state since middle/secondary school)... but I'm always made to feel like charity and second-rate, despite my intellect and hardworking manner and large ambitions. […]
    It seems to me that the problem is your attitude. For example, in the second paragraph you take something relatively positive and interpret it negatively. In the third paragraph, you suggest that you are 'a very friendly guy who doesn't boast or look-down on people', but at the end of the same paragraph you announce that you are surprised a fellow pupil 'has a few A*s', and in other paragraphs you do the same thing again and again. In the fourth paragraph (I ignore the third because it is ambiguous, though you probably impose yourself when your help is not wanted), you accuse a boy of jealously despite the fact he has a higher grade than you in martial arts, and admit that you 'feel like knocking some sense into these people to teach them that such attitudes aren't going to do you any good'. What is that even supposed to mean? The entire second half of your post about private education and your university aspirations is simply ridiculous.

    Try being a little quieter for a while and actually listen to people; you will come across less arrogant, and people will not give you such a hard time as a result.
 
 
 
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