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    Does it mean he doesn't desire you enough? and that you are not enough

    MY boyfriend watches it alot....he even suggested to have it on while we have sex

    I really don't like porn for a few reasons, I am quite insecure about my body (as are most girls), my body isn't perfect...... and I feel like he probably finds those girls in porn more attractive than me, and maybe even thinking of them while we do it.

    I know that maybe single guys might feel the need for it, but why guys in relationships??:confused:
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    For God sake these insequrity threads are getting stupid. He cannot shag you 24/7 so when you are not there he jacks off to porn. If he is having sex with you he finds you attractive. porn is a fantsy a bit of fun not an obsession
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    I have no problem with my guy watching porn, but I'd draw the line at having it on whilst having sex. He's meant to be looking at me, not the tv.
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    My girlfriends in a lot of porn, so I'm sorted.
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    It means he will try something new later on.
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    I watch porn. If my GF complains I will say get lost
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    There is nothing wrong with porn at the end of the day he's not cheating on you plus he wouldn't be with you if he didn't like you would he.
    You need to sort out your own insecurities and stop blaming the media.

    Sorry if it came across harsh
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    (Original post by Antonia87)
    I have no problem with my guy watching porn, but I'd draw the line at having it on whilst having sex. He's meant to be looking at me, not the tv.
    LOL. Itd probably be the most awkward thing ever
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    (Original post by Aj12)
    For God sake these insequrity threads are getting stupid. He cannot shag you 24/7 so when you are not there he jacks off to porn. If he is having sex with you he finds you attractive. porn is a fantsy a bit of fun not an obsession
    Yeah ok, it is insecure to stress about your partner watching porn. But this thing about him wanting it on during sex - you can see why that's making her feel worried, right? Her boyfriend is making it clear here that he wants to be able to imagine he's f***ing porn girls and having porn sex whilst his actual girlfriend is lying there in front of him. There's clearly a genuine problem here.

    OP, you need to loosen up about porn in general - virtually all guys watch it. But don't stand for him having it on during sex if you don't want it. If you are giving up your time and your body for your boyfriend to enjoy he can damned well treat you with respect and make you feel appreciated. Your boyfriend should be helping you to feel attractive, not making you feel worse about yourself.
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    Absolutely not. I have watched porn and still fancied the pants off my partner. Regardless of how you feel about your body he does like it, or he wouldn't want to have sex with you!

    We have even had porn on twice while we have had sex, but that was more of a starter that got abandoned when we moved onto the main course rather than a conscious decision :p:
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    it's because you're never going to do the 'piledriver' position, so he has to get his fix somewhere
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    (Original post by Drumzilla)
    it's because you're never going to do the 'piledriver' position, so he has to get his fix somewhere
    EPIC.

    On a serious note, do guys actually want to do that? Maybe I should suggest it to my boyfriend :holmes:
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    (Original post by Antonia87)
    I have no problem with my guy watching porn, but I'd draw the line at having it on whilst having sex. He's meant to be looking at me, not the tv.
    I tried having porn on while having sex once. It was kind of pointless, I was too busy having sex to watch the porn.
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    I watch porn with my boyfriend because we can find it funny, and we can laugh about it, and even get new ideas if we need them one day lol. I told him he could watch as much as he wanted because he said he just thought of me whenever he watched, so maybe your guy thinks that too. Try not to be too insecure about the idea - guys need porn.

    I would have a problem if he wanted to watch it whilst we were having sex though. :P
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    My bf watches porn sometimes. I don't understand it but I don't think it's my business what he does in his spare time. I'm also not insecure and intent on undivided attention, which probably helps.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Does it mean he doesn't desire you enough? and that you are not enough
    He may also watch stand-up comedy, and read complex philosophical literature. Does that mean that you aren't entertaining enough? Intelligent and engaging enough? For God's sake, grow up.

    MY boyfriend watches it alot....he even suggested to have it on while we have sex

    I really don't like porn for a few reasons, I am quite insecure about my body (as are most girls), my body isn't perfect...... and I feel like he probably finds those girls in porn more attractive than me, and maybe even thinking of them while we do it.

    I know that maybe single guys might feel the need for it, but why guys in relationships??http://static.thestudentroom.co.uk/i...s/confused.gif
    I watch porn because my girlfriend isn't always around, and doesn't always want sex when I do. That said, asking for it to be left on during sex seems decidedly untoward.
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    Hrm? I'm sure I watch more porn than my boyfriend, but I'm completely devoted to him; I'm guessing that he feels the same so I don't care how much he watches. Porn is auto-sex, partner is love-sex, there's no comparison. I do think there can be space for watching porn together from time2time if you both want to, but it depends on each couple - in mine, he doesn't want to (in fact he doesn't even like doing it by the mirror too much cos I'm not looking at him direkt ) so we don't. Basically, sex is fun, so enjoy it, don't take things too seriously, but also communicate with your boyf, and make sure you're comfortable with what you're doing. Like what everyone always says.
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    Haha what do you mean 'if'?!
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    (Original post by Roloqueen)
    If you are giving up your time and your body for your boyfriend to enjoy he can damned well treat you with respect and make you feel appreciated.
    lol. You make it sound like women get nothing from sex. When you have sex you're not giving up anything. You're having sex. End of.
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    (Original post by Chelle-belle)
    I watch porn with my boyfriend because we can find it funny, and we can laugh about it, and even get new ideas if we need them one day lol. I told him he could watch as much as he wanted because he said he just thought of me whenever he watched, so maybe your guy thinks that too. Try not to be too insecure about the idea - guys need porn.

    I would have a problem if he wanted to watch it whilst we were having sex though. :P
    I've asked guys this before, and none of them say they imagine their own girlfriends, or even girls they know. It's sex on the screen, how are you supposed to imagine anyone else?

    OP, porn is fine. It doesn't mean he doesn't find you attractive, or you don't satisfy him. If you feel uncomfortable having it on whilst smexing it up, then don't do it.
 
 
 
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