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    My girlfriend and I have been dating nigh on two years now. We're pretty serious about each other. We don't see each other that often ever since we started going out which probably plays a part in all this... She's always been an insecure girl, and whenever i even mentioned another girl to her she'd fill with jealousy. That was the beginning of our relationship, now however she's more accepting of things... Now that we've both started uni, I'm naturally meeting new friends, and naturally some of them are girls. Whenever i mention any of them to hear, she blows up with jealousy and fear that I'll leave her for one of them and gets depressed, which pees me off quite a bit...
    We had an argument about this, and haven't spoken since. I tried texting her for the past few days but with no reply.

    What should I do? Is it a trust issue that she has with me? I really don't know what to do or feel.
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    Don't mention girls then? Keep it your yourself, it's none of her business. Just behave and discuss stuff which won't upset her.
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    Jealousy is a good to a certain grade, if it's over the top it's just gonna hurt the both of you. You need to decide if her jealousy problems are interfering with your relationship to be honest. If you can live with her moaning at you about getting to know other girls.

    And about her not replying to your texts: I guess all you can do is appologize if you hurt her in any way and just hope for her to "forgive" you, cool down and make up with you.

    Hope that helps?
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    give her time to get used to it. and reassure her
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    (Original post by porn induced coma)
    give her time to get used to it. and reassure her
    I've reassured for the past two years. At first I just let her get jealous, help her thru it etc etc but after two years, it's still happening!!
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    does she really matter that much to you?

    its hard to keep a relationship going through uni anyway without the jealousy thing. I can't tell you to cut a relationship off because I don't know you and I don't know anything about your relationship, but it sounds like things are only going to get worse..
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    (Original post by rugbyladosc)
    does she really matter that much to you?

    its hard to keep a relationship going through uni anyway without the jealousy thing. I can't tell you to cut a relationship off because I don't know you and I don't know anything about your relationship, but it sounds like things are only going to get worse..
    She means everything to me but so does trust in our relationship...

    I thought with time she'd mature a little and accept that we'd meet other people. The moment after she said she's accepted this fact, she went and got jealous again, hence the argument.
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    I was like that, but i have a reason why though.. but eventually i got used to it, until something bad happens again. She'll get use to it OP, as long as you dont let temptations get into you. Just behave and focus on studies, friends/ family and her. Set your priorities and tell her how much you love her and how faithful you are.. She just loves you too much..
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    It's your decision.

    Are you better off in a relationship dealing with jealousy or single/looking for a new gf?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    She means everything to me but so does trust in our relationship...

    I thought with time she'd mature a little and accept that we'd meet other people. The moment after she said she's accepted this fact, she went and got jealous again, hence the argument.
    fair enough

    well only you can make up your mind, i'm sure that whatever you choose to do will be best, you have to choose between your social life or your gf, uni will probably be a funner place if your not tied town, but idk.

    good luck mate
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    (Original post by kristinaalovesu)
    I was like that, but i have a reason why though.. but eventually i got used to it, until something bad happens again. She'll get use to it OP, as long as you dont let temptations get into you. Just behave and focus on studies, friends/ family and her. Set your priorities and tell her how much you love her and how faithful you are.. She just loves you too much..
    That's the thing, I've never done anything, I've been loyal to her with all my heart, it's just her mind that makes her think I'm up to something. It's not nice being accused of being unfaithful when all I've done is befriend girls.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've reassured for the past two years. At first I just let her get jealous, help her thru it etc etc but after two years, it's still happening!!
    Dump her. It should be clear to you by now that she is fundamentally emotionally and psychologically ill-equipped to handle an adult relationship.
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    (Original post by rugbyladosc)
    fair enough

    well only you can make up your mind, i'm sure that whatever you choose to do will be best, you have to choose between your social life or your gf, uni will probably be a funner place if your not tied town, but idk.

    good luck mate
    Its just that we've come so far, and I don't think I'd find anyone else after her.. I dont know...

    Thanks anyway... :o:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    That's the thing, I've never done anything, I've been loyal to her with all my heart, it's just her mind that makes her think I'm up to something. It's not nice being accused of being unfaithful when all I've done is befriend girls.
    Maybe she's paranoid? Does she have a history about this? I mean, did one of her ex cheated on her or something?
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    (Original post by kristinaalovesu)
    Maybe she's paranoid? Does she have a history about this? I mean, did one of her ex cheated on her or something?
    Yeah her ex cheated on her a few times. But i've helped her through that (it was many years ago)

    I'm not her ex, I'm nothing like him, she knows that.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've reassured for the past two years. At first I just let her get jealous, help her thru it etc etc but after two years, it's still happening!!
    it doesnt sound like a trust issue. she just has zero confidence and is scared she got someone she doesnt deserve but after two years she should understand that she has you. tell her she needs to work on the issue because it's grating on your nerves. be gentle but firm
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yeah her ex cheated on her a few times. But i've helped her through that (it was many years ago)

    I'm not her ex, I'm nothing like him, she knows that.
    Thats the thing thats making her paranoid. Prove to her that you love her, take her to dinner and whilst on the dinner talk to her about this, or give her something that will make her feel secure. A lot of girls like some ring. :P
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    Tbh I don't think she'll ever be able to change the way she is, she might be able to reduce the amount she shows her jealousy/insecurity but she'll still be feeling it inside. Is it beyond a point where you can put up with her? How long distance is your relationship, can you not try and go to hers/her come to you every weekend? That way she'll be able to see that they're just friends of yours and nothings going on behind her back, if she can see for herself. Another thing, for every day you are apart, let her know how much you love her, be it via a text message/soppy note on her facebook wall/love letter in the post etc. This should make her feel more secure.
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    She fears you will cheat on her.
 
 
 
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