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    She basically started to lose contact with me, didnt return my calls or answer 95% of them. She lied to me quite a bit, about things you dont lie to your best friend about. And now I feel like she is hiding a lot of things from when she could have trusted me. In some ways she has manipulated me. We used ot be so close and honest to each other.

    This has gone on for a year now and now I almost feel used and treated like a nobody. After feeling sad and frustrated with her behaviour I have this temptation to go tell her parents that she has been dating someone and due to the culture her parents are from, they would be seriously pissed off.
    I would tell them anonymously by sending a letter saying 'your daughter has a boyfriend callled 'xyz from xyz''

    So should I do it? she has made me bitter I know, but after 10 years of friendship, for her to become a ***** I think she needs a reminder not to **** about.
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    I say go for it. She's been doing all this sh*t to, send some sh*t back.
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    I wouldn't. I understand how you feel but clearly, she isn't really worth the effort now. If you do it, you'd just be stooping to her level - or maybe even lower. Just leave it and move on.
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    Be the better person and leave it. If she doesn't treat you right then why waste your effort on her?
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    You should never deliberately mess up somebody's life, no matter what they've done. It's simple really
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    If you want to be pathetic and immature do it. If you want to be a civil person and avoid possible greater conflict then don't.
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    Just let it be.

    Make new better friends.
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    (Original post by rach.)
    I wouldn't. I understand how you feel but clearly, she isn't really worth the effort now. If you do it, you'd just be stooping to her level - or maybe even lower. Just leave it and move on.
    I've tried to move on but I can't, she has really messed with my emotions by just cutting contact and becoming so manipulative, and I have this urge to go to her level and see how it affects her. Who knows, maybe she would 'come crying back to me' and I can be like 'where were you when I needed you?'
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    She basically started to lose contact with me, didnt return my calls or answer 95% of them. She lied to me quite a bit, about things you dont lie to your best friend about. And now I feel like she is hiding a lot of things from when she could have trusted me. In some ways she has manipulated me. We used ot be so close and honest to each other.

    This has gone on for a year now and now I almost feel used and treated like a nobody. After feeling sad and frustrated with her behaviour I have this temptation to go tell her parents that she has been dating someone and due to the culture her parents are from, they would be seriously pissed off.
    I would tell them anonymously by sending a letter saying 'your daughter has a boyfriend callled 'xyz from xyz''

    So should I do it? she has made me bitter I know, but after 10 years of friendship, for her to become a ***** I think she needs a reminder not to **** about.
    wait so her boyfriend's name is the same as where he's from?
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    (Original post by unborn-soul)
    Just let it be.

    Make new better friends.
    I have made friends who are nicer. But I'm frustrated that the person I used to be sooo close with compared to how close I am with my other friends could become this horrible person.
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    Her parents may send her back to wherever she's from and marry her off to an impotent octogenarian - don't do it.

    What's wrong with a good old *****slap?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I've tried to move on but I can't, she has really messed with my emotions by just cutting contact and becoming so manipulative, and I have this urge to go to her level and see how it affects her. Who knows, maybe she would 'come crying back to me' and I can be like 'where were you when I needed you?'
    It feels like that now but it'll pass - trust me. I reckon you'll probably regret it down the line...being able to say 'where were you' isn't worth it. If anything, doing that will just involve you in the situation more and you might get more upset etc. Try and get your mind off it.
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    (Original post by CityOfMyHeart)
    Be the better person and leave it. If she doesn't treat you right then why waste your effort on her?
    BS.

    Go for it OP. You won't be wasting your effort, it's for a good cause and you'll be teaching her a lesson in the manners of trust.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I have made friends who are nicer. But I'm frustrated that the person I used to be sooo close with compared to how close I am with my other friends could become this horrible person.
    Forget about her. Don't waste your time on something that isn't worth it.
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    Do it, shes got to learn, hurt her as much as you can and the stupid b*tch will never make the same mistake again
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    She basically started to lose contact with me, didnt return my calls or answer 95% of them. She lied to me quite a bit, about things you dont lie to your best friend about. And now I feel like she is hiding a lot of things from when she could have trusted me. In some ways she has manipulated me. We used ot be so close and honest to each other.

    This has gone on for a year now and now I almost feel used and treated like a nobody. After feeling sad and frustrated with her behaviour I have this temptation to go tell her parents that she has been dating someone and due to the culture her parents are from, they would be seriously pissed off.
    I would tell them anonymously by sending a letter saying 'your daughter has a boyfriend callled 'xyz from xyz''

    So should I do it? she has made me bitter I know, but after 10 years of friendship, for her to become a ***** I think she needs a reminder not to **** about.
    Make sure she knows that you were the one who told. Revenge doesn't quite sit right unless they know it was you and can't do anything about it.
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    (Original post by Final Fantasy)
    BS.

    Go for it OP. You won't be wasting your effort, it's for a good cause and you'll be teaching her a lesson in the manners of trust.
    Wow you sound like a nice person.
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    I had a friend like that - we had enough and just stopped talking to her.

    She lied about loads of things like having a boyfriend and being pregnant, so once when my friend and I saw her in town with her dad, we went up to her and asked how the baby was. Her dad did not look impressed.
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    (Original post by CityOfMyHeart)
    Wow you sound like a nice person.
    So I've been told.
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    (Original post by unborn-soul)
    Just let it be.

    Make new better friends.
    This.
 
 
 
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