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I think my friend has fallen for me...help?

Right now I think my friend of eight years has feelings for me. We were highschool buddies and shared the same group of friends and kept in contact through msn mostly. We tell eachother everything, he's the one i go to when i cry, laugh, bitch, whine, or just need advice and vice versa. Out of the blue he told me how we should go to a restaurant, then was quickly to say "it's not a date" and then he changed the subject so fast as if he was nervous. I feel like he's always trying to hint something to me, and then backs out. He told me at one point that he was going out ask me out which was a shocker to me, and since then he's been saying things that I wouldnt expect from him I dont know if it's just in my head or what. We had gotten into an arugment because I felt like he wasnt letting me in not telling me stuff like he usually would (not about us but stuff in his life), i told him he never tells me anything anymore, i reminded him that could tell me anything and just said that it's personal, which is weird because he would tell me...and i have a feeling its about me.
I dont want to say anything because I dont want things to be strange around us especially if im wrong. But I know this guy like the back of my hand, and something is up. Should I wait for him to say something or what!

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

OP

By the way I would like to add..

I dont think he was going to ask me out back then, I think he just said that to see how I would respond, I laughed and didnt believe him. Couple days after that He asked me if I have any regrets, i told him no, he said that he has regrets but that I would take it seriously, so he didnt tell me....and i didnt beg. Is that a giveaway?

Im pretty sure he didnt like me back then, as he was so inlove with this other girl at the time.

Am i over thinking?

Reply 2

kristinaalovesu

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Confront him is the only way to go. Do you like him though?

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Anonymous

By the way I would like to add..

I dont think he was going to ask me out back then, I think he just said that to see how I would respond, I laughed and didnt believe him. Couple days after that He asked me if I have any regrets, i told him no, he said that he has regrets but that I would take it seriously, so he didnt tell me....and i didnt beg. Is that a giveaway?

Im pretty sure he didnt like me back then, as he was so inlove with this other girl at the time.

Am i over thinking?

wouldnt take him seriously*

Reply 4

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kristinaalovesu

Confront him is the only way to go. Do you like him though?

The thought of liking him more than a friend never crossed my mind until he said something. I dont know if I like him...he's my go to person, i care about him and he cares for me.. :eek3:

Reply 5

kristinaalovesu

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Anonymous

The thought of liking him more than a friend never crossed my mind until he said something. I dont know if I like him...he's my go to person, i care about him and he cares for me.. :eek3:

Oh wow.. Thats odd, i've felt that too, but i just ignored it until i got over it.
I think you need to talk to him about this really.. I do think that he likes you though, he was just acting like that because he thought you rejected him by saying (it's not a date) so he acted that way to not show you that he's affected.

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kristinaalovesu

Oh wow.. Thats odd, i've felt that too, but i just ignored it until i got over it.
I think you need to talk to him about this really.. I do think that he likes you though, he was just acting like that because he thought you rejected him by saying (it's not a date) so he acted that way to not show you that he's affected.

Then maybe I should let him get over it (assuming he does like me) it might ruin our friendship if we talk about it.

Reply 7

kristinaalovesu

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Anonymous

Then maybe I should let him get over it (assuming he does like me) it might ruin our friendship if we talk about it.

Yes indeed. He'll get over it eventually, just dont lead him on or else he might think you like him back and acts completely different about it.

Reply 8

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kristinaalovesu

Yes indeed. He'll get over it eventually, just dont lead him on or else he might think you like him back and acts completely different about it.

I would never lead him on I wouldnt hurt him ever :smile:

Thanks for ur advice.

Reply 9

kristinaalovesu

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Anonymous

I would never lead him on I wouldnt hurt him ever :smile:

Thanks for ur advice.

Good and you're very welcome.
Thanks for the +rep as well. :smile:

Good luck

Reply 10

awais590

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wow, this guy must have some balls. :/ I'd probably never, ask. ;o

Reply 11

paradox13

Yes indeed. He'll get over it eventually, just dont lead him on or else he might think you like him back and acts completely different about it.

Wow what stupid advice.

If there is a possibility that you might like him back, then I think should talk to him about it.
There is no risk of 'losing him as a friend'..it'll only be awkward if you're scared that that will happen. If you know it won't happen, it won't be awkward.

Besides, true friendship is unconditional, and it sounds like you two are so close that something like this wouldn't affect it. Honestly, talk to him about it (if you honestly consider him a true friend)..not communicating is the worst way to handle a friendship issue.

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awais590

wow, this guy must have some balls. :/ I'd probably never, ask. ;o

Why must he have balls? why wouldnt u ask??

Reply 13

awais590

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Anonymous

Why must he have balls? why wouldnt u ask??

Because, I'm skeptical about almost everything.

Reply 14

Anonymous #1

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lol

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

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paradox13

Wow what stupid advice.

If there is a possibility that you might like him back, then I think should talk to him about it.
There is no risk of 'losing him as a friend'..it'll only be awkward if you're scared that that will happen. If you know it won't happen, it won't be awkward.

Besides, true friendship is unconditional, and it sounds like you two are so close that something like this wouldn't affect it. Honestly, talk to him about it (if you honestly consider him a true friend)..not communicating is the worst way to handle a friendship issue.

How do I bring it up without making things awkawrd tho? Reading what I wrote, do you think he sees me more than a friend? or is it just in my head. I wonder why he felt the need to tell me about past feelings after so long of being friends...only he could answer that...i know.

Reply 16

ChocoLoco

9

A guy is never close friends with a girl just like that. The guy who either likes the girl, or the girl likes him. Boys and Girls can't just be friends like that.

Reply 17

Pinball_heart

13

I found out that my mate of four years fancies me.
I choose to heavily ignore it.

Reply 18

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ChocoLoco

A guy is never close friends with a girl just like that. The guy who either likes the girl, or the girl likes him. Boys and Girls can't just be friends like that.

I use to not think that, I use to think you could be friends with the opposite sex without having feelings for them until now. I have male friends, but at some point the all liked me, they got over it tho. But this guy, we have been friends for yeaaaaaaaaaaarrrrrrrrrrrssssssssssss and I never saw him as anything more.

Reply 19

username242619

i've been in that guys position before and ya no what....and it sounds really harsh but just be blunt not in a bad way jst be bluntly honest with each other coz believe or not if he tells you yeah he likes you and you don't feel the same way then he'll accept that and yh may not speak for a bit just so he can ahve some space but with a friendship as close as yours i don't think it will last that long and then he'll think back on it and be like what was i thinking?!?! eventually...

if he was to just never talk to you agen then sorry but he's not a friend...and not worth it.
thats just from my exprience anyway.

xx

I think my friend has fallen for me...help?

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