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What are the rules of "taking a break"?
Hey everyone, its me again. Long story short to get everyone up to speed, my girlfriend and I have decided to "take a break" for two weeks and see what happens. I was just wondering a couple things. 1) What are the rules? Can I see someone else? Can she make out with someone else? 2)In your opinion do relationships that "take a break" ever "get better" or does it allow for more distance to grow from whence things will never be the same again as they were before and 3) If we decided to do this on Wednesday is a really good sign thats shes already moved on and is tryin to spare me if she's already found a date to go to a highschool football game with somebody else two days later? Thing I don't get is if she did..why does she still want to see me on "our day" Sunday. We have spent the last 6 months seeing each other on Sunday and dispite our "taking a break" she still wants to see me Sunday. Could there still be something there or should I cut my losses and get on? Please help....
just make sure you are prepared for it to all fall apart, im not saying it will, but if it does and you're not prepared then it could mess you up...(this kinda happened to me quite recently, dunno if uve read my thread...)
does she want the break more than you? if so then maybe its best to end it now, in that case she probably doesnt want to be with you as much as you do, and just cant face telling you straight out or something. Either that or she wants to date other guys to see what its like + then she'll come back to you, do you want her back like that?
if its a mutual thing, and you are both in the same place, both wanna see other people and stuff then theres not really any harm in it, but then if u wanna do that why is it a break and not just splitting up?
to be honest, i dont think after a break a relationship can get better, its usually because there are some kind of problems which wont go away, or simply that one of you doesnt want the relationship enough.
as for rules, thats for you two to decide! i would try and have a proper talk to her, not any of this break ****, ask her y she wants a break, y do u want a break if u do? and try and sort the relationship out by talking, a break is something that people sometimes feel they have to do, but i dont think it actually ever helps things, u need to talk...
hope this is useful advice
does she want the break more than you? if so then maybe its best to end it now, in that case she probably doesnt want to be with you as much as you do, and just cant face telling you straight out or something. Either that or she wants to date other guys to see what its like + then she'll come back to you, do you want her back like that?
if its a mutual thing, and you are both in the same place, both wanna see other people and stuff then theres not really any harm in it, but then if u wanna do that why is it a break and not just splitting up?
to be honest, i dont think after a break a relationship can get better, its usually because there are some kind of problems which wont go away, or simply that one of you doesnt want the relationship enough.
as for rules, thats for you two to decide! i would try and have a proper talk to her, not any of this break ****, ask her y she wants a break, y do u want a break if u do? and try and sort the relationship out by talking, a break is something that people sometimes feel they have to do, but i dont think it actually ever helps things, u need to talk...
hope this is useful advice
I think you should decide if you want to be in the relationship or not. If you see the two weeks as a window of opportunity during which you're hoping to cop off with someone else I don't expect you are serious about the relationship. A "break" is to evaluate how much you mean to one another I would think - not a chance to go get with someone else. Think about what she means to you - there are no fixed "rules" for this situation, but either the relationship is something you want to work out or it's not. That's the first thing to decide.
its just this whole thing kills me. It would tear me up if I knew tonight she kissed somebody else. I know I might have pushed her away a bit, but I don't want to lose her. Im just lost. She seems so unaffected by it to which is what really hurts. What should I do?
to be honest it does sound like you want it more than her, if u can do it then break up now, it'll b easier in the long run (well it wont be easy at all, but you'll get over it quicker, if u know what i mean) you dont wanna wait until she cheats on you or something do you? its probably best to make a clean break if thats possible in your situation. me+my ex are trying to stay friends, its not working though...i just hope u have some good/ close friends that can help u and stuff, u might need them.
A break for me is much like how Englishstudent put it. A time for reflection. Don't bother going to other people for satisfaction until you've decided to split up with your current partner. Just because you're "on a break" doesn't meant that you can just go and have "fun" with someone else... You're still with your partner, but just making a decision to not see each other for 2 weeks. Stay faithful is my advice, and use this time for contemplation... rather than consummation.
NakedNinja123
its just this whole thing kills me. It would tear me up if I knew tonight she kissed somebody else. I know I might have pushed her away a bit, but I don't want to lose her. Im just lost. She seems so unaffected by it to which is what really hurts. What should I do?
Perhaps actual dialogue with her would be a wise idea. You need to have a full and frank conversation with her about the state of play here... You're doing your nut over whether she likes you or not and she just seems to be getting on with it as if nothing ever happened. My concern is that her feelings are not as strong as yours. Talk to her about it. I will warn you though, this is pretty much make or break. I get the feeling that you want to have a relationship... you may have to break this off with her, I'm afraid, if she doesnt feel as strongly for you, as you do for her. If that's the case, you could be going through this quite often.
willey
To me, having a break means that you are only delaying what is going to happen sooner or later in the relationship, which is Break Up.
not always..my bf and i went on a break a while ago, as i'd been out of the country for a while and by the time i got back it felt like we'd grown really far apart. so we went on a break but made the rules clear - we weren't allowed to sleep with anyone else but other than that we could do whatever and it wasn't each others business.
well we missed each other so much and got back together, and discovered that neither of us had actually done anything with anyone else, not so much as a kiss, it was almost as though having the opportunity to be with other people made us realise that we didn't actually want anyone else. and we're still going strong
grace
not always..my bf and i went on a break a while ago, as i'd been out of the country for a while and by the time i got back it felt like we'd grown really far apart. so we went on a break but made the rules clear - we weren't allowed to sleep with anyone else but other than that we could do whatever and it wasn't each others business.
well we missed each other so much and got back together, and discovered that neither of us had actually done anything with anyone else, not so much as a kiss, it was almost as though having the opportunity to be with other people made us realise that we didn't actually want anyone else. and we're still going strong
well we missed each other so much and got back together, and discovered that neither of us had actually done anything with anyone else, not so much as a kiss, it was almost as though having the opportunity to be with other people made us realise that we didn't actually want anyone else. and we're still going strong
well im glad that someone can find happiness....good for you guys.
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