Am I being bullied?

Just went down to my college bop which apparantly was ticket only. the student union guys ion the door who really don't like me turned me away, yet let every other person without a ticket thru. 'Prior arrangements' were given as the reason for their admittance.

Do you think I am actually being bullied and what can i do about it?

Reply 1

tis_me_lord

14

I think you should show them that you've changed by not being violent, though I think you already know thats not what to do.

It's quite a difficult problem really, maybe just make sure that you book tickets, so they have to let you in?

Reply 2

Multiplexed

18

I wouldn't call it bullying. You 'claim' you are built to such an extent, why not ask what their problem is and see what happens?

Reply 3

bret

OP

12

Multiplexed

I wouldn't call it bullying. You 'claim' you are built to such an extent, why not ask what their problem is and see what happens?

I did. Only a bigger guy getting the slightest aggresive is gonna turn people against him, even if subconciously. It's really the fact that these guys control just a bit of power and they know that one way they can use it is to make it harder for me to go about my social life. God's sake, its college legend that i was on welfare report last year for my fresher's antics. Ridiculous.

Reply 4

Mad Vlad

19

Its not bullying, it's getting your comeuppance.

If it continues howver, speak to someone with seniority in the SU and demand an investigation take place as you are being discriminated.

Reply 5

Logan

4

tis_me_lord

I think you should show them that you've changed by not being violent, though I think you already know thats not what to do.

It's quite a difficult problem really, maybe just make sure that you book tickets, so they have to let you in?

i should say puncj then in the middle of the face and let them not forget that.

:biggrin:

just joking violence = ciolence, peace = peace, =) just try and get along with them and show them that you are an approachable person

Reply 6

Tyler Durden

17

cambridgemuscle

Basically, last year I pulled a few drunk freshers, had a bit of a bad attitutude, but have since rectified this and tried to makme amends. It's not like i've murdered anyone anyway. this is the reason these guys hate me. Now I am 6' 1'' and built to **** and could deck any one of them, but obviously this isn't the wild West. I feel i'm being victimised over zealously for mistakes i've made and theres **** all i can do about it. Do you think I am actually being bullied and what can i do about it?

Not trying to be funny here, but EVERY SINGLE DAMN THREAD YOU MAKE makes either some passing reference to you being stacked or being a bit of a ladies' man or your "V-shaped physique" or something similar. It cracks me up actually. :p:

Reply 7

timtom

Yeah, you sound like a complete tool. Quit your whining, there are people who have been properly bullied and had it a lot worse then not being able to get into some club.

Reply 8

fleur-de-lis

1

cambridgemuscle

Just went down to my college bop which apparantly was ticket only. the student union guys ion the door who really don't like me turned me away, yet let every other person without a ticket thru. 'Prior arrangements' were given as the reason for their admittance.

Basically, last year I pulled a few drunk freshers, had a bit of a bad attitutude, but have since rectified this and tried to makme amends. It's not like i've murdered anyone anyway. this is the reason these guys hate me. Now I am 6' 1'' and built to **** and could deck any one of them, but obviously this isn't the wild West. I feel i'm being victimised over zealously for mistakes i've made and theres **** all i can do about it. Do you think I am actually being bullied and what can i do about it?

It is quite probable that those drunk freshers and other eye witnesses might have complained to your JCR or MCR and so they didn't want a repeat of that. I would recommend that you can talk to your JCR president and tell him that you regret what you did then, and you didn't have such intentions when coming for this bop. And you could also inform them that they should have informed you before hand if they were going to deny access to you. If it still doesn't work, meet your Junior dean (or the cambridge equivalent)

Reply 9

gt@vetschool

10

Hahaha. 6 foot 1 and worried you might be getting bullied? what are you made of man?

Cambridgemuscle? Cambridgemuscle???!!!?! what the....? Sounds like a gay porn mag for toffs if you ask me.

Reply 10

Tyler Durden

17

gt@vetschool

Cambridgemuscle? Cambridgemuscle???!!!?! what the....? Sounds like a gay porn mag for toffs if you ask me.

.

Reply 11

roff

2

gt@vetschool

Hahaha. 6 foot 1 and worried you might be getting bullied? what are you made of man?

Cambridgemuscle? Cambridgemuscle???!!!?! what the....? Sounds like a gay porn mag for toffs if you ask me.

Reply 12

stratomaster

I say you bring it to those cambridge geeks! :fight:

Reply 13

davestones

1

bet the club has ROAR too, so even if you had a ticket you might not have been let in... :wink:

be a man about it, everyone gets turned away from clubs from time to time. oh and btw i'm 6'2" so i win :p:

Reply 14

bret

OP

12

gt@vetschool

Hahaha. 6 foot 1 and worried you might be getting bullied? what are you made of man?

Cambridgemuscle? Cambridgemuscle???!!!?! what the....? Sounds like a gay porn mag for toffs if you ask me.

Stop bullying me.

See i was only making the point that we talk about bullying in terms of little men getting picked on about looks etc, but i think anyting that's designed to make you feel bad could be a form. I tried to raise a point of where the distinction lies between banter, bullying and as many of you point out- revenge. Sorry if i pissed anyone off by this.

This wasn't a club by the way, just a college bop with no security- nothing. It would just have made things worse if i tried to cause a scene.

jay

Reply 15

roff

2

that wasnt bullying you ninny :rolleyes:

Reply 16

Lirael Abhorsen

1

no i dont think so, but yes you have to express yourself with words and show repentence instead of boasting about actions with freshers... so ramroff what uni did you go to in the end?

Reply 17

davestones

1

ramroff

that wasnt bullying you ninny :rolleyes:

was caling him a ninny bullying though? :p:

in all seriousness, security or not it is the club's choice who they let in, you don't have an automatic right, *especially* as you don't have a ticket. also the fact that you played up last time, and like you said there is no security to "keep an eye" on things would be a deciding factor...

get a ticket next time :biggrin:

Reply 18

roff

2

Lirael Abhorsen

no i dont think so, but yes you have to express yourself with words and show repentence instead of boasting about actions with freshers... so ramroff what uni did you go to in the end?

i was never going this year, im still in sixth form :confused:

im applying but i want to go to warwick :smile:

hows your uni?

Reply 19

Lirael Abhorsen

1

oh ok sorry minor confusion, i just remember you saying stuff about coming to nottingham and seducing izzy. i got rejected from warwick the bastards, despite having straight As but i guess that doesn't count for much these days.. im at nottingham which is absolutely cool! :biggrin:

in the past week ive done salsa, latin american and ballroom, sci fi club, christian union - although im not-, rock society, its all good:d hopefully going to a gay bar next week wahoo!

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