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i have abit of a problem. . .

basically, i was with my ex- girlfriend for a yr and a half(im 18). i split up with her in febuary because i didnt wanna go out with her anymore, i wasnt happy in the relationship for a while and so thought that should be a sign to end it. anyway, she took it quite badly, i didnt seem too bothered, although she did wanna see me (as friends) for a few weeks/months after, i didnt really wanna do this as i thought it would just **** my head up which it kinda did. anyway, i made no effort to really see her or phone or speak or anything and i was okay with that. but about 2 months, i found out from a friend that she had a new boyfriend and it deeply deeply hurt, ive never felt a pain like that before!!!
anyway, i asked around etc and they were'nt really going out but seeing and they stopped after about 2 weeks. . . .
then, i heard nothing till thursday night when i was in town, and saw her with a newer boyfriend, and it really really really really really hurt. esp coz he was quite fit and she looked better than ever.
anyway, what am i gonna do? coz i cant get it off my mind and i dont know what my problem is. . . .

Reply 1

Surefiredaisy

Could it be a case of you wanting her just because you no longer can? Before it sounded like you were calling all the shots, you chose to end the relationship and so on - you had nothing to be jealous of. Now that you see she is over you and has started again with a new guy - maybe you want what you can't have. If she wasn't with a new boyfriend and you saw her - would you still feel the same way?

I'm guessing probably not.

Reply 2

jonsi

yeah thats definitely true, i did call all the shots
but, its still hard, and i kinda want her back, or at least shag her again, but im not really sure if i do

Reply 3

The Program

It's always "you just want what you cant have" situation. We"ll my friend, I think thats the end of your relationship, its near impossible to come back together after that you called all the shots plus it makes you look kind of an Idiot. I think you'll have to somehow get over it and then find another one. Good Luk in the impossible task and Good Luk in finding another Girlfriend. :smile:

Reply 4

nikk

Classic case of we always want what we can't have! I am such a sucker for that one!

Reply 5

jonsi

and thats it??
wheres my expert advice?
and also, why the **** does she look so much fitter nowadays?

Reply 6

LPK

jonsi

and thats it??
wheres my expert advice?
and also, why the **** does she look so much fitter nowadays?

You can't expect expert advice from people who arent qualified. :\

Maybe this person makes her feel more special. Girls can sometimes know when you are going to end the relationship so they don't go to much effort to please you. She is obviously really happy with him. Maybe she is still the same as ever, but you look at her differently now because she is with someone else.

Reply 7

JonnyB

jonsi

and thats it??
wheres my expert advice?
and also, why the **** does she look so much fitter nowadays?

Here you go. There's not much you can do really, whenever I heard that my ex has got a new bloke I got a bit angry, but it's simply human nature as many have already mentioned: you basically want what you can't have.

I'll tell you this though, she only looks fitter now that you aren't with her, but it's just an illusion. Trust me, if you were going out with her still, you'd be really pissed off and want to get rid of her.

Hope that helps

Reply 8

jonsi

that kinda did abit actually
maybe i should just stop being bothered and at least attempt to move on. . . .

Reply 9

JonnyB

jonsi

that kinda did abit actually
maybe i should just stop being bothered and at least attempt to move on. . . .

It's the way to go mate, trust me. You don't like her anyway, that's why you broke up, just remember that. Someone else will come along soon anyway, you know it's true.