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Obsessed Boyfriends

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Do anyone here has a problem with BF, who is obssesed with any online game and plays it 24/7, dont have time for anything else (you in partucalr), can miss job, and forget to take care about himself (like, he can not clean his teeth, or needs to lose weight, but don't run, and don't do anything about this)? how do you cope with it? does it irritate you??? or you just let it go and dont care? :confused:

Reply 1

Leigh

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As a rule, uber-gamers don't usually get girlfriends. None of the gamers I know do, maybe this is why! Maybe you should talk to him about it? Perhaps ask if maybe you could sit with him while he played for a little while, then you spent the same amount of time doing something you enjoy, like a compromise?
Tell him you feel left out and hopefully he'll understand. Good luck.

Reply 2

CherryGarcia

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KingLeigh

As a rule, uber-gamers don't usually get girlfriends. None of the gamers I know do, maybe this is why! Maybe you should talk to him about it? Perhaps ask if maybe you could sit with him while he played for a little while, then you spent the same amount of time doing something you enjoy, like a compromise?
Tell him you feel left out and hopefully he'll understand. Good luck.

THANKS

WILL TRY TO DO IT AGAIN, THOUGH IT NEVER WORKS... :frown:

Reply 3

danni_bella

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CherryGarcia

Do anyone here has a problem with BF, who is obssesed with any online game and plays it 24/7, dont have time for anything else (you in partucalr), can miss job, and forget to take care about himself (like, he can not clean his teeth, or needs to lose weight, but don't run, and don't do anything about this)? how do you cope with it? does it irritate you??? or you just let it go and dont care? :confused:

I really don't wanna do this, but don't you think you're being a tad too harsh? How much does he play? My BF (well... we're sadly on a break atm but that's another story) digs those war games and is always playing them. I never minded b/c I'd be a hypocrite if I did, considering I prolly spend as much time on TSR :eek:

Reply 4

danni_bella

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CherryGarcia

THANKS

WILL TRY TO DO IT AGAIN, THOUGH IT NEVER WORKS... :frown:

Ah, so you've actually talked to him about this. Well then, yeah perhaps you do have a point :redface:

Meh forget what I said, I sometimes post on the spot when I get distracted *goes back to the academic and career forums*

Reply 5

CherryGarcia

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danni_bella83

I really don't wanna do this, but don't you think you're being a tad too harsh? How much does he play? My BF (well... we're sadly on a break atm but that's another story) digs those war games and is always playing them. I never minded b/c I'd be a hypocrite if I did, considering I prolly spend as much time on TSR :eek:

well, you know I feel bad myself, I feel like a mommy, who needs to make order what to do..I feel so misareble when I am talking he should do smth else and get a bit of real life..the point is that he is 27...right, he is a programmer and ALL his free time he spends on that game, he even built a special site for their guuild. His weight is 116 kg... and he has problems with eyes, now imagine, he goes to his work, sits there in fron of pc like from 9 till 5, then he goes home and immidiately goes to play till late evening, so 1st it is bad for his eyes, then he is not moving at all!!! he is moving just about 30 min a day!!! is it good? In 6 monthes he will be what 200kg? he had visit at dietologist, the doctor said he need to run as min...he just doesnt give a s...
then, I mean playing games when you are 27 is a waste of time, he could get to University distance studies at least, and get diploma as long as he doesnt have it...I am just tired to talk to him about it, because he doesnt hear me... :frown:

Reply 6

CherryGarcia

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Oh and more that that...as i wrote before on TSR we have distance relationships with him, and this week he is comming to me for 4 days, we havent seen each other for 3 weeks...you know, he is planning to bring his pc, he asked if he can play, suggested me to play with him, sure I said yes, I dont have any other choice, but I mean, we havent seen each other for 3 weeks, and during these 3 weeks he played and then now, when we have just 4 days, he wants to play????
I was planning to play, but a bit different games :wink:

Reply 7

Mad Vlad

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If he even thinks about going on that computer for anything but finding out new sexual positions, throw that computer out of the window, tie him up and turn him into your sex slave for the rest of the time he's with you.
The guy needs to get his priorities right. :mad:

Reply 8

Reue

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"As a rule, uber-gamers don't usually get girlfriends"

Hehe, that made me chuckle. I've had a long string of girlfriends in the past and yet im sure many would consider me a 'uber gamer'.

Enjoying playing video games isnt such a bad thing you just have to know how to date a gamer! Be more insistant on actually go OUT somewhere for dates. Simply sitting in their home wont work because (trust me) the temptation is right there.

Reply 9

john171

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Mad Vlad

If he even thinks about going on that computer for anything but finding out new sexual positions, throw that computer out of the window, tie him up and turn him into your sex slave for the rest of the time he's with you.
The guy needs to get his priorities right. :mad:

That's a bit extreme Mr Vlad.

Reply 10

Ferrus

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The exercise may well benefit him however

Reply 11

Mad Vlad

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john171

That's a bit extreme Mr Vlad.

The boy needs teaching a lesson. Its clear what his priorities are... in decending order

Computer Games
Girlfriend

This isn't on. By all means... spend time playing games, but not while you're with your girlfriend :frown:

The poor girl craves some attention from her boyfriend, and she clearly isn't getting it because of his love affair with the computer.

I'm going to be frank here. CherryGarcia, your relationship isn't going to work if it continues like this. You need to sort him out because if he's choosing some MMORPG over a quiet night in with you... theres something clearly awry.

Reply 12

Ferrus

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Is the MMORPG in question world of warcraft by any chance?

Reply 13

Kismet

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You need to bring the guy out from his own little computer game world and show him the real world. He thinks that computer games are the best thing there is but he probably can't even remember how nice other things in life can be as well.

1. Tell him that you don't want him to bring his pc.
2. He's weight is really unhealthy. Force him to go on a walk with you or something. (I know from various other threads that you want to lose some weight to get a smaller butt so it'll be good for you too :biggrin:

) Sex is also a good excercise that burns a lot of calories :wink:

3. Cook him something delicious and healthy so he'll see that healthy food can be good too
4. Do lots of really fun things that are totally unrelated to computers. Go out, go to the cinema, go bowling, go to a gig or a museum or anywhere, just do whatever comes to your mind.
5. Tell him you care about him but he needs to change. I think he just needs someone to push him a little.

Reply 14

MagicNMedicine

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he does sound like a knob, Vlad is right. I play a bit of Football Manager but it's never got in the way of girlfriends or friends generally.

Reply 15

toipot2

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Kismet

4. Do lots of really fun things that are totally unrelated to computers. Go out, go to the cinema, go bowling, go to a gig or a museum or anywhere, just do whatever comes to your mind.

Ugh, bowling.
Give me CounterStrike any day

:p:

But more seriously, I agree with the above posts.
He seems to value his games more than he values you, which is not a good situation to be in. Just explain how you feel.

Reply 16

CherryGarcia

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Kismet

You need to bring the guy out from his own little computer game world and show him the real world. He thinks that computer games are the best thing there is but he probably can't even remember how nice other things in life can be as well.

1. Tell him that you don't want him to bring his pc.
2. He's weight is really unhealthy. Force him to go on a walk with you or something. (I know from various other threads that you want to lose some weight to get a smaller butt so it'll be good for you too :biggrin:

) Sex is also a good excercise that burns a lot of calories :wink:

3. Cook him something delicious and healthy so he'll see that healthy food can be good too
4. Do lots of really fun things that are totally unrelated to computers. Go out, go to the cinema, go bowling, go to a gig or a museum or anywhere, just do whatever comes to your mind.
5. Tell him you care about him but he needs to change. I think he just needs someone to push him a little.

hey you!! thanks a lot for answering all my posts, our countries live togher so we are like neighbors here, anyway, we meet quiote often with u here, I alwasy see you at forumas I am interested in..anyway...I wish I could do all you qrote and some of the things I will do for sure, but I cant 'control' the situation all the time, coz we live in different countries for now...I live in sweden and he in England..so this is a problem...

Reply 17

CherryGarcia

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Well, I just wanted to say that i talked to my BF today and we got something like agreement, he will walk every evenig after his job to try to lose weight...It was also pleasant to hear his words 'if you dont beleive that you are the 1st and the most precious person for me in my life I can prove you and if you say so i will sell on this game everything I have got during my gaming and delete my account' that was touchy...I said no, I dont want it, I just want him to know that there are limits everywhere, and he must point the pririorites, and for now it is his health and weight. Anyway, I told not to delete his account, coz I thought he has no friends in England (he is italian) so, this is at least a little fun for him, but he must know the limits as well, and not be so obsessed...I just get pissed off, when I notice that he cant stop this game for weeks...and is doing nth for losing his weight, missing his job etc. I hope he will keep his word and keep walking (as he said he cant run now, coz his weight is too much now and he can get a heart attact or smth like this, thats what dietologist said :eek: