Just wonderin

I personally wouldnt like it as i would feel uncomforatable with that thought, however i can see how some people wouldnt mind as a longas they have a decent personality thats all that matters. I guess it all comes down to personal preference in the end though.

Reply 2

completely irrelevant! What does it matter whether they were with girls or guys! the past is the past, the present is the present. But then I'm bi and would say that!

Reply 3

Book

I'm afraid it would bother me. I know that's unfair discrimination, but I can't really explain why it would. It shouldn't really.

Reply 4

i dont mean to say this to sound harsh, but i think in some cases it would depend on how they felt about gay people too! I mean, homophobic people arent exactly gonna be open to their bf's having had sex with another bloke¬

Reply 5

See i have nothing against bi/gay people as thats their choice, but i wouldnt feel uncomfortable knowing that my boyfriend had been out with a boy before, i guess its personal prefernce but as lauren said the past is past which i do agree with.

Reply 6

i have 2 admit that it wud probably bother me :/

Reply 7

grace

i would have a big problem with it. no, i'm not homophobic and i have nothing against gay people but it would bother me on quite a few levels knowing my bf had experimented with other men.

i'd probably always wonder if he would swing the other way again, would maybe feel nervous about him spending lots of time one on one with male mates (same as i'd feel if he spent lots of one on one time with another female) and i'd always wonder if he found my body truly satisfying. i'd have a hard time feeling like he was completely platonic towards anyone and also the confusion which is associated with same-sex experiementation is just not the most attractive mind frame in my opinion.

please do not slate me, if people want to experiment it's their business. but when it becomes my business (ie if i were dating someone who had) then i have a problem with it.

Reply 8

Im not sure that your not more worried about him staying faithful than being bisexual! I mean, bisexuals are faithful lovers too!

Reply 9

grace, u think the exact same way as i do :P

Reply 10

Duck and Cover

It wudnt bother me, I mean ive been with girls and one guy and in my opinion they all come under the same bracket, its not like "ok, this is my girl history for you to judge, and this is my guy-file" u no? So nah, dont think id care :smile:

Reply 11

its interesting how men are so much more comfortable with women being with women, yet women cant stand men being with men! Its a societal bred disguised homophobia (im not saying its you guys being unreasonable, but its true that society does still cause us to feel like that in some respects! And the law based about homosexual activities! I swear you'd think there wasnt a single gay man the whole of parliament to object to it!)

Reply 12

grace

Lauren Hart

Im not sure that your not more worried about him staying faithful than being bisexual! I mean, bisexuals are faithful lovers too!

yes but it's also about satisfaction. if you love someone, you want to be able to satisfy them, and knowing that at one point they found the female anatomy unsatifying and had to experiment with the other sex would probably make me very insecure and insecurity leads to problems in relationships.

also it's about attitudes...if i was with a guy who had 50+ sexual partners, no matter how faithful he was to me i'd still question whether he was right for me. I know the past is the past but the past shapes who we are and if at some point in his life the confusion was there, who's to say it couldn't resurface?

i suppose it's a little bit of a different story if someone had a one-off encounter with someone of the same sex and that firmly showed them they were straight, because the confusion's not there. i'd still be uncomfortable with that, but less so then someone who still found other men sexually appealing.

each to his own, but as for grace, i'll stick with completely straight men :smile:

Reply 13

Well, its not actually confusion... its just finding different people attractive. I mean, if your past bf had dated only brunnettes with big breasts and you was a blonde with small breasts, would that bother you....?

Reply 14

its interesting to hear peoples views on it :smile:

Reply 15

If i was witrh someone and they told me this i probablky wouldnt break up with them no, as effectivley they are still the same person, and its good they were being honest with me.

Reply 16

ye, i mean, love the man not the history! You cant be worried about not being sexually desired, as any man could decide one day he finds you unattractive! I think its important to have full disclosure on the topic of any past relationship!

Reply 17

Nice piece of advice there you can have a rep for that, i agree and disagree although id probably find it uncomfortable at first its the perosnality and the man which counts.

Reply 18

i dont mean to generalise here, but ive noticed that guys would be totally fine if their gf was into girls, infact, turned on by the thought. But girls tend to be repulsed by the thought of their bf liking guys. Anyone else notice this? :smile:

Reply 19