Just wonderin

OP

or is my college just full of guys that like girl on girl action lol :biggrin:

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Velocity

i dont mean to generalise here, but ive noticed that guys would be totally fine if their gf was into girls, infact, turned on by the thought. But girls tend to be repulsed by the thought of their bf liking guys. Anyone else notice this? :smile:

i mentioned it back up there somewhere!!! I noticed I noticed!

Reply 23

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Thats so true lauren and lol i have only found out about half the stuff on TSR recently!

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grace

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Lauren Hart

Well, its not actually confusion... its just finding different people attractive. I mean, if your past bf had dated only brunnettes with big breasts and you was a blonde with small breasts, would that bother you....?

but it's not really just about attraction is it?!

the homosexual arguement is that their same-sex tendancies are just as much about being predisposed towards a certain type of physical and emotional fullfillment, that it's not a choice and they feel dissatisfied with someone of the opposite sex. same goes for straight people only our physical/emotional fullfillment is with the opposite sex.

bisexuality is that curious grey space..most commonly associated with confusion because the implication is that the choice is there - straight and gays don't have a choice, it's in our wiring to only be happy with one or the other. bisexuals are either thought to be confused ie make the choice and determine with which sex they are most happy, or greedy (don't bite my head off, i'm not saying i think that way. im inclined to think it errs more towards confusion).

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SilverWings

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I tend to have pre-conceptions about seeing bisexual people... makes me feel like there's twice as much competition and I'm never going to be able to fully satisfy them in the way a guy maybe would.

But if I was straight, I doubt I'd have any problem being with a bisexual guy!? Wierd...

Reply 26

OP

mentioned it back up there somewhere!!! I noticed I noticed!

yup i read it which is why i commented :P

Reply 27

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I am complete unconfused and certainly not greedy! I just find both men and women attractive! That is my perogative! I dont believe that we are designed just to desire one gender, if you do then fine, but in my experience, the bi people i know, genuinely are attracted to both sexes for no reason better than being attracted to blondes and brunettes!

And i would say that people think of it as confusion in many senarios because its seen as "deviant" or they just arent used to the feelings so try to shun them!

Reply 28

OP

i dont want to sound stupid *hides in corner* but whats a rep? :smile:

Reply 29

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A rep is kinda like a reward or a punichment you give someone for writing a good/bad post, it expalins about it in the FAQ. You give them by clicking on the blance in the top right of peoples post.

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Well, i cant tell you how to get one, but its when you get praised (or knocked in some cases) for a post written!

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Like i gave lauren one cos i agreed with her post, that would have added some rep points and eventually she will get a little green gem. You get an extra gem for every 100 points, i nearly have one. But as you get further up gems get harder to obtain. They are just a way of saying thanks.

Reply 32

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aww, so thats what the gems are and come from!

Reply 33

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Lol you need to read the Faq! It has a detailed explanation on it, in your user cp it will teel you how many rep points you have, that way you can see hoe close/far away you are from the next gem.

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grace

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Lauren Hart

I am complete unconfused and certainly not greedy! I just find both men and women attractive! That is my perogative! I dont believe that we are designed just to desire one gender, if you do then fine, but in my experience, the bi people i know, genuinely are attracted to both sexes for no reason better than being attracted to blondes and brunettes!

And i would say that people think of it as confusion in many senarios because its seen as "deviant" or they just arent used to the feelings so try to shun them!

if it's only about attraction, surely it's more of a fetish (maybe less extreme then a fetish but i don't quite know the right word) then a definition of one's sexuality?!

the way i understand it, if you aren't just as happy being in a commited, emotional relationship with a woman as you are a man, you aren't bisexual.

plenty of gay men find women attractive! it's a fact! some even find them sexually attractive.but they aren't bisexual because they can only be emotionally fulfilled by a man.

i think, as i said, it's a choice of lifestyle or a state of confusion.

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Hang on, that really makes no sense! its not all about attraction! But men and women dont love differently! We all have the same capacity for emotions! It was you that put it down to sexual attraction and i was trying to discuss it from your view point! Its not that you can only recieve emotional fulfilment from one or the other! I would be happy with a man or a woman to be honest with you!

Reply 36

OP

thanks for the info on reps, i should read the FAQ lol

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