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Reply 40
Velocity
OP
Actually i think that there are very few people that are actually totally straight or totally homosexual. I feel that most people drift somewhere in the middle, im not sayin every1 is bi, just that most people will feel an attraction with a member of the same sex at some point in their lives.
Reply 41
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grace
yes but it's also about satisfaction. if you love someone, you want to be able to satisfy them, and knowing that at one point they found the female anatomy unsatifying and had to experiment with the other sex would probably make me very insecure and insecurity leads to problems in relationships.
also it's about attitudes...if i was with a guy who had 50+ sexual partners, no matter how faithful he was to me i'd still question whether he was right for me. I know the past is the past but the past shapes who we are and if at some point in his life the confusion was there, who's to say it couldn't resurface?
i suppose it's a little bit of a different story if someone had a one-off encounter with someone of the same sex and that firmly showed them they were straight, because the confusion's not there. i'd still be uncomfortable with that, but less so then someone who still found other men sexually appealing.
each to his own, but as for grace, i'll stick with completely straight men
also it's about attitudes...if i was with a guy who had 50+ sexual partners, no matter how faithful he was to me i'd still question whether he was right for me. I know the past is the past but the past shapes who we are and if at some point in his life the confusion was there, who's to say it couldn't resurface?
i suppose it's a little bit of a different story if someone had a one-off encounter with someone of the same sex and that firmly showed them they were straight, because the confusion's not there. i'd still be uncomfortable with that, but less so then someone who still found other men sexually appealing.
each to his own, but as for grace, i'll stick with completely straight men
grace, I tend to agree with almost every post of yours i've seen in H&R.
That's pretty much my take on the topic..I'd support others, but couldn't see myself in that sort of r-ship.
Reply 42
Velocity
Actually i think that there are very few people that are actually totally straight or totally homosexual. I feel that most people drift somewhere in the middle, im not sayin every1 is bi, just that most people will feel an attraction with a member of the same sex at some point in their lives.
There was actually something about this on tv or somethign a while back about how on a scale of 1 to 6, 1 being utter straight, and 6 being utterly gay, that not many people are either 1 or 6 and the majority fall somewhere else!
Duck and Cover
Erm...yeah...eva heard of something called personality? Love?? I personally didnt go with this 1 guy cos i wanted to experiment with another guys body, i did it for the same reason i do it with girls, feelings, personality, falling in love etc...
Couldnt put it better myself
Reply 43
Velocity
OP
There was actually something about this on tv or somethign a while back about how on a scale of 1 to 6, 1 being utter straight, and 6 being utterly gay, that not many people are either 1 or 6 and the majority fall somewhere else!
Really? And i thought i was being all original lol. Its good to know im not insane and other ppl have the same views as me
Reply 44
To be honest, i dont believe in sexual orientation being classified (which is kinda what that suggests) you fall for who you fall for. Which is the same as the reason i think you can be fullfilled by a man or a woman both sexually and emotionally! If you love them and they love you what does it matter what their genitals say?
Reply 45
Velocity
Im curious what peoples views are about having a bf/gf that is bisexual? Would it bother u that they had been with people of the same sex before or do u think its irrelevent?
nah, it's irrelevant... hmm i kinda like the idea of having a bisexual bf actually, coz most straight guys i know try too hard to not give the impression that they are any else... (ie: homophobes) and is v. annoying...
Reply 46
10
I've never been faced with it but i think it would bother me and it might come between us or stop us even getting together in the first place...i guess it depends on the guy and the circumstances, feelings etc etc
Reply 47
Velocity
OP
Ive got quite a good discussion going on here lol
Reply 48
13
I don't think having a bi b/f would bother me... in fact it could be a turn on 
Reply 49
I wouldn't mind if I had a bisexual boyfriend or girlfriend
Reply 50
I Dnt Like Bi Guys- But Bi Girls Are The Best.
Reply 51
its bad
Reply 52
17
The past is the past, as has been said already.
If you don't like the thought of it, then that shouldn't be a major problem - they're going out with you now, so you're sorted. If, however, you don't like the thought of it and your bf/gf frequently brings up past relationships, then maybe that's an indication that you need to reconsider your relationship with him/her.
I know I'm taking the role of a stereotypical man here, but I would have no problem with having a bisexual girlfriend, myself. It's not the fact that I'm turned on by it, I just don't judge people by their chosen sexuality.
If you don't like the thought of it, then that shouldn't be a major problem - they're going out with you now, so you're sorted. If, however, you don't like the thought of it and your bf/gf frequently brings up past relationships, then maybe that's an indication that you need to reconsider your relationship with him/her.
I know I'm taking the role of a stereotypical man here, but I would have no problem with having a bisexual girlfriend, myself. It's not the fact that I'm turned on by it, I just don't judge people by their chosen sexuality.
Reply 53
12
im bi. and i suppose my boyfriend would always worry that i would desire a girl over him. in a way thats true. but i would never leave him for that. its something i can survive without. (and hes one of the ones who likes bi girl on girl action)
but it wouldnt bother me if he was bi too. because i know he wants and loves me.
but it wouldnt bother me if he was bi too. because i know he wants and loves me.
Reply 54
Velocity
Im curious what peoples views are about having a bf/gf that is bisexual? Would it bother u that they had been with people of the same sex before or do u think its irrelevent? Ive had this discussion some friends before and people seem to have very different opinions on it.
I am one of the friends she has asked btw
WOW so you asked people then lol the answers that are on here are not surpirsing and you know my opinion velocity
for others i agree with velocity that if a girl is bi its ok but for boys its bad but i also feel its hippocritical that one sex can experiment and the other cant.
But saying that i think each relationship deals with it differently i must say it would bother me though (but not that much)
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Velocity
Actually i think that there are very few people that are actually totally straight or totally homosexual. I feel that most people drift somewhere in the middle, im not sayin every1 is bi, just that most people will feel an attraction with a member of the same sex at some point in their lives.
SO AGREE WITH THAT STATEMENT!!!!
WELL DONE VELOCITY!!!!
Reply 55
yeh guys always get turned on by girl on girl!
Reply 56
turkish_delight
yeh guys always get turned on by girl on girl!
They have to be *real* girls though, not just some plastic models from page 3, nah, even better...ur friends!
Reply 57
10
if he liked and respected me it really wouldn;t make a difference its not like id blind fold him and not let him look at any man or woman ever again lol
its all about respect!!
and possibiltys of threesomes lol only joking!!!
its all about respect!!
and possibiltys of threesomes lol only joking!!!
Reply 58
personally i don't mind.girls have a natural tendency to be bisexual tho..what i mean before i get any bashing is that there's that small part of girls (n guys even) that can be prone to liking people of the same sex.i think it's k plus if u're into 3somes ur gf/bf won't mind lol
Reply 59
15
grace
also it's about attitudes...if i was with a guy who had 50+ sexual partners, no matter how faithful he was to me i'd still question whether he was right for me. I know the past is the past but the past shapes who we are and if at some point in his life the confusion was there, who's to say it couldn't resurface?
also it's about attitudes...if i was with a guy who had 50+ sexual partners, no matter how faithful he was to me i'd still question whether he was right for me. I know the past is the past but the past shapes who we are and if at some point in his life the confusion was there, who's to say it couldn't resurface?
It sounds to me like the first part of that statement covers the whole of your, and others', opinion, leaving the gender of their partners' gender irrelevant.
Surely that's to do with them not cheating on you and you trusting them? OK, you may worry that your boyfriend may fancy another guy and run off with them, but that's also completely possible with a straight guy.
If they are faithful and you're in a trusting relationship, ok, you/they may see people in the street or on TV you find physically attractive, but no matter their sexuality, you just trust each other that you won't do anything about that momentary attraction.
I have no experience with the situation, but like (I think) Lauren said, once you are in a relationship, it's you they are seeing, no one else, no matter who else they are potentially attracted to, and any issues with attraction are to do with faithfulness, not to do with bisexuality.
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