Is this just a phase?

Does anyone else feel like this? I haven't got a gf (or bf) and i do like lots of people but i dont feel like i am that bothered at the moment if i am not in a relationship.

I feel as iff i am jsut pressurised to be in a relationship (family, friends etc) when i don't actually want one. Yes it would be nice to wake up every morning with the girl of my dreams but i no that's not gonna happen. I look around and there are some people who look as if they are just in a relationship for the sake of it (then again what do I know), and i dont wanna be like them. It's kind of difficult to describe what i am feeling but can anyone understand any of what i am saying?

Reply 1

SilverWings

14

It's a good place to be...

You're single and you're happy about it :smile:

At least if you end up in a relationship, you'll know it's special and not just because you want/need a partner!! :biggrin:

Have fun - it's what I'm doing!! :wink:

Reply 2

Lauren Hart

3

You're happy with yourself and dont need someone to complete you! I think thats amazing! I wish more people with you! Tell everyone pressuring you to just f*ck off (maybe not your mother or father actually) and that you're happy with who you arent and dont need to be in a relationship to be complete!

Reply 3

Vickstar

yer it's cool. i feel the same way too. s'all good, just be chilled about it. Awesome place to be!

Reply 4

SlyPie

12

brown

Does anyone else feel like this? I haven't got a gf (or bf) and i do like lots of people but i dont feel like i am that bothered at the moment if i am not in a relationship.

I feel as iff i am jsut pressurised to be in a relationship (family, friends etc) when i don't actually want one. Yes it would be nice to wake up every morning with the girl of my dreams but i no that's not gonna happen. I look around and there are some people who look as if they are just in a relationship for the sake of it (then again what do I know), and i dont wanna be like them. It's kind of difficult to describe what i am feeling but can anyone understand any of what i am saying?

You're 16!

Reply 5

Duck and Cover

15

I feel the same way, ive jus started 6th form, first thing i did, get a gf, worst decision ever, split up perfectly amicably and now just enjoyin life!!

Reply 6

brown

OP

4

Hey thanks for all your comments - they made me feel a bit better - but i still feel as if there's something wrong with me :frown:

Reply 7

Max Power

bloody heel, ur 16 and feel like this.

for F sake, solitude does not equal loneliness. They are very different things.

Reply 8

w8wizz

2

i feel the same way, but i think its mostly because im stressed with my A level work, so i dont have the time.

Reply 9

dave

brown

Does anyone else feel like this? I haven't got a gf (or bf) and i do like lots of people but i dont feel like i am that bothered at the moment if i am not in a relationship.

I feel as iff i am jsut pressurised to be in a relationship (family, friends etc) when i don't actually want one. Yes it would be nice to wake up every morning with the girl of my dreams but i no that's not gonna happen. I look around and there are some people who look as if they are just in a relationship for the sake of it (then again what do I know), and i dont wanna be like them. It's kind of difficult to describe what i am feeling but can anyone understand any of what i am saying?

Isn't that always the case. Because you don't want a relationship at the moment - you get slotted into the "hmmm....." category. What the hell is the matter with people!!!
I totally agree with what SW said - if you're happy - then it's right for you. What anyone else thinks is irrelevant.

Reply 10

IzzTheGreat

10

Congratulations on being a thoroughly sensible bloke :biggrin:

My ex was so desperate to have a girlfriend that he ended up going out with me :P In all seriousness, it was such a bad mistake for him; he felt pressured to be in a relationship and wanted everything to be perfect because of all the pressure on him from his friends and family and it scrwed up the relationship. Being single's wonderful - enjoy it!

Reply 11

brown

OP

4

I'll take that advice, thanks :smile:

Reply 12

Choad

1

hell yeah i was the same for quite a while. now im beggining to feel a bit lonely and jealous of all those with gf's, so maybe ill put some effort in to doing something about it. theres this girl i know i think she likes me... meh... thats another story.

needless to say tell everyone else to f**k off :biggrin:

Reply 13

Leigh

15

Being in a relationship is physically and emotionally taxing, and if you aren't ready for it, it won't work. If, like you, you don't feel you even want it, you'll save yourself a lot of hassle by not being pressurised into it. There's nothing wrong with it, a lot of people enjoy being single, others like being in a relationship, it's just the way we are.
Good on you for not feeling like you have to be seeing someone.

Would people say that if you aren't looking for a relationship, girls can pick that up, even if you are only subconsciously telling them?

Reply 14

Velocity

a lot of people feel they need to be in relationships to be normal. I felt totally left out when all my friends had bf/gfs but that just ended up with me goin out wid some1 i didnt really like! Be happy being single, u got ur whole life ahead of u to find a partner. :smile:

Reply 15

Pandy

10

Being single ain't all that bad to be honest. Most of my mates have a boy/girlfriend, but I really don't have much motivation to get one. If someone I like comes along, great, if not, then I won't go out of my way to "fill a void" that isn't there!

Reply 16

SlyPie

12

Max Power

bloody heel, ur 16 and feel like this.

for F sake, solitude does not equal loneliness. They are very different things.

Agreed...he's not 60 and still a virgin! I don't see why he's worried.

Is this just a phase?

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