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Spending too much time together?
This is how much I see my boyfriend:
Every lecture (either 1 or 2 a day).
One practical a week
Every night, he stays over probably six nights a week.
Some evenings from 6pm onwards, some from 9pm onwards.
Sometimes we go shopping after lectures or have lunch or dinner together (maybe twice a week)
Every couple of days we do work together
When we go clubbing, we meet each other there or go together
Do you think this is too much? My friends say we're joined at the hip!
How much do you see your boyfriend/girlfriend? Do you think it's too much/little?
Every lecture (either 1 or 2 a day).
One practical a week
Every night, he stays over probably six nights a week.
Some evenings from 6pm onwards, some from 9pm onwards.
Sometimes we go shopping after lectures or have lunch or dinner together (maybe twice a week)
Every couple of days we do work together
When we go clubbing, we meet each other there or go together
Do you think this is too much? My friends say we're joined at the hip!
How much do you see your boyfriend/girlfriend? Do you think it's too much/little?
its not too much of you like it and you have fun
its not fair of your friends to make you feel as if you have to ask that question either...
its not fair of your friends to make you feel as if you have to ask that question either...
I'd say that was quite a lot, although only you can judge that. Ask him how he feels, if you find yourself wanting to do things without him, he might feel the same way. It's not a bad thing; everyone needs space and time to see other friends etc. But some people don't need as much time apart as others so it's a personal thing really!
I'm not dating at the moment, but if I saw anyone that much I'd probably want some "me time" every so often!
It's your relationship so if you're both happy about the amount of time you're spending together, then carry on!
I'm not dating at the moment, but if I saw anyone that much I'd probably want some "me time" every so often!
It's your relationship so if you're both happy about the amount of time you're spending together, then carry on!
It is an awful lot compared with how much I see my boy but if you're happy with it then it's not too much for you. Perhaps what your friends are really getting at is that they want to see more of you without your bf. This isn't necessarily an insult to him - I really like the boyfriends of my two best friends but sometimes it's fun just to go out as a group of girls rather than have some people coupled up. It's up to you what you do about it though.
L.J
This is how much I see my boyfriend:
Every lecture (either 1 or 2 a day).
One practical a week
Every night, he stays over probably six nights a week.
Some evenings from 6pm onwards, some from 9pm onwards.
Sometimes we go shopping after lectures or have lunch or dinner together (maybe twice a week)
Every couple of days we do work together
When we go clubbing, we meet each other there or go together
Do you think this is too much? My friends say we're joined at the hip!
How much do you see your boyfriend/girlfriend? Do you think it's too much/little?
Every lecture (either 1 or 2 a day).
One practical a week
Every night, he stays over probably six nights a week.
Some evenings from 6pm onwards, some from 9pm onwards.
Sometimes we go shopping after lectures or have lunch or dinner together (maybe twice a week)
Every couple of days we do work together
When we go clubbing, we meet each other there or go together
Do you think this is too much? My friends say we're joined at the hip!
How much do you see your boyfriend/girlfriend? Do you think it's too much/little?
I see my girlfriend about once every 4 months...so i would say that is too little
It depends on how much time you want alone, some people are ok with being by themselves for a bit of time and others like company. If it bothers you (ignoring what your friends think) then ask for a bit of "you time" but if not, just carry on as you are
Helenia
It is an awful lot compared with how much I see my boy but if you're happy with it then it's not too much for you. Perhaps what your friends are really getting at is that they want to see more of you without your bf. This isn't necessarily an insult to him - I really like the boyfriends of my two best friends but sometimes it's fun just to go out as a group of girls rather than have some people coupled up. It's up to you what you do about it though.
He's your boy now, not The boy! That means you're getting serious!I don't get to see Mark anywhere near enough
That sounds really cool! I'm almost in the same situation as my girlfriend and I go to the same uni, are in the same flat and are literally opposite each other. We spend all the time hanging out, talking, playing games, and doing our own work. We don't do the same subjects but having someone to talk to, to listen to - basically by best friend - to be with all the time is the best feeling ever!
So no - doesn't sound excessive to me, sounds lovely!
Hope you and your bf have a lovely time at uni
So no - doesn't sound excessive to me, sounds lovely!
Hope you and your bf have a lovely time at uni
I'm jealous, wish I could see mine that much!
When I'm at home I see him pretty much every day, stay most nights at his house, so it's probably about the same as you. I did start to neglect my friends though, just because I love spending time with him and I was going through a really rough patch and needed his support and he made me feel more secure... I think it's balanced out since I've been at uni though
Just see him as much as you feel is right, and as long as you're not neglecting parts of your life you feel are important (eg friends) then I see no problem!
When I'm at home I see him pretty much every day, stay most nights at his house, so it's probably about the same as you. I did start to neglect my friends though, just because I love spending time with him and I was going through a really rough patch and needed his support and he made me feel more secure... I think it's balanced out since I've been at uni though
Just see him as much as you feel is right, and as long as you're not neglecting parts of your life you feel are important (eg friends) then I see no problem!
if neither of you feel cramped by the other, it's fine. don't worry about it unless it is causing problems. when it starts to cause problems, then worry about it. to be honest, i used to spend a ****ing shitload of my time with my girlfriend, and it never had any detrimental effect on our relationship, althought it could depend on the relationship/people involved. spend as much time together as you feel comfortable with, and no more, otherwise you will find your S.O. annoying you, which you will resent them for, which will lead to a breakdown of your relationship.
jbcubed3
That sounds really cool! I'm almost in the same situation as my girlfriend and I go to the same uni, are in the same flat and are literally opposite each other. We spend all the time hanging out, talking, playing games, and doing our own work. We don't do the same subjects but having someone to talk to, to listen to - basically by best friend - to be with all the time is the best feeling ever!
So no - doesn't sound excessive to me, sounds lovely!
Hope you and your bf have a lovely time at uni
So no - doesn't sound excessive to me, sounds lovely!
Hope you and your bf have a lovely time at uni
All very well, but what about the rest of your friends? What happens when/if you two break up? Suddenly not so ideal.
Juno - I changed because someone said they didn't like me saying "the boy."
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