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strange man

i went to a fancy meal with my friend and her drama groop, and this guy tryed to chat me up and im not very experienced with guys (1 boyfriend ever) but he was 26 which i deemed to old and i didnt fancy him, my mate gave him my number evan though i refused to give it to him, but i felt mean so i danced with him once.
anyway he then texted me the next day and i told him again that he was to old but he kept on texting back so i ended up just egnoreing him to stop him asking.
this was at the start of the summer and today he texted me again asking why girls turn him down and if theres something wrong with him (sounding really depressed), so i felt guilty and texted back saying so long as they didnt say its becausehe is a prick he was ok, but now he keeps on sending me messages back asking if hes still to old (as if hes got younger in the last few months) and he sent me a picture of him and asked for one in return.
i havent texted him back but its sought of creepy stalkerish

has anyone got any advice, or has something like this happened to anyone else?

Reply 1

Mata

16

acoustic-angel

i went to a fancy meal with my friend and her drama groop, and this guy tryed to chat me up and im not very experienced with guys (1 boyfriend ever) but he was 26 which i deemed to old and i didnt fancy him, my mate gave him my number evan though i refused to give it to him, but i felt mean so i danced with him once.
anyway he then texted me the next day and i told him again that he was to old but he kept on texting back so i ended up just egnoreing him to stop him asking.
this was at the start of the summer and today he texted me again asking why girls turn him down and if theres something wrong with him (sounding really depressed), so i felt guilty and texted back saying so long as they didnt say its becausehe is a prick he was ok, but now he keeps on sending me messages back asking if hes still to old (as if hes got younger in the last few months) and he sent me a picture of him and asked for one in return.
i havent texted him back but its sought of creepy stalkerish

has anyone got any advice, or has something like this happened to anyone else?

STOP TEXTING HIM.

Guys like this feed off of your response, and you're just validating his texts. If you're replying, he won't learn that what he's doing is wrong.

Don't even say, "I won't text you anymore" as this might trigger anger, or he might text you all the time in an effort to make you crack and text back. Just stop texting.

Edit: and sort out this friend of yours - if she's giving out your number to this guy, who else is she giving it to?!

Reply 2

saz_1989

2

since you're never going to see him, just text him and say "you're too old for me, and my boyfriend agrees". he'll never know you don't have a boyfriend.

Reply 3

Max Power

100 % agree with LJ.

u have to let this guy know that ur not interested. the only way u can do this without hurting his feelings, is to say u have a boyfriend.

Don't feel bad lying. For f sake, if u told the truth then u should feel bad, given that the truth would be "listen up u damn ******, i think ur wierdo pest. Now leave me alone perv !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!"

Reply 4

Velocity

i met a guy once and he pestered me all day and i eventually gave him my number coz i felt bad. He then began callin me like 24/7 and he kept doin so for about a year! My mum even threatened him coz he wouldnt leave me alone.

Just ignore him and hopefully he will go away! And dont give ur number to random people, ive learnt from that mistake :redface:

Good luck!

Reply 5

mooncheese89

10

Alternatively, you could just ignore the texts completely. He'll soon hopefully get bored, and give up. If it gets too bad, threaten him with a restraining order...that will make him run :p:

Reply 6

acoustic-angel

OP

2

i like the baoyfriend idea, good move if he texts again (which im sure he will) im going to use that.
oh god but what if he rings me instead ahhh.

Reply 7

hippieglitter

19

I had a similar situation, he actually had my mates number too but was interested in me, he ended up meeting her for a drink (maybe in the hope that I would be there too) and she happened to mention that she was violent (a joke, she says that to everyone), neither of us heard from him again.

Reply 8

-TMG-

9

If he rings you, you put the phone down.

If he texts you, you don't text back.

I live in Sheffield too!

Reply 9

acoustic-angel

OP

2

-TMG-

I live in Sheffield too!

but it says bolton

and do you mean there are a large number of people like this about and so you have had to take these measures many a time

Reply 10

MNBStyle

9

acoustic-angel

i went to a fancy meal with my friend and her drama groop, and this guy tryed to chat me up and im not very experienced with guys (1 boyfriend ever) but he was 26 which i deemed to old and i didnt fancy him, my mate gave him my number evan though i refused to give it to him, but i felt mean so i danced with him once.
anyway he then texted me the next day and i told him again that he was to old but he kept on texting back so i ended up just egnoreing him to stop him asking.
this was at the start of the summer and today he texted me again asking why girls turn him down and if theres something wrong with him (sounding really depressed), so i felt guilty and texted back saying so long as they didnt say its becausehe is a prick he was ok, but now he keeps on sending me messages back asking if hes still to old (as if hes got younger in the last few months) and he sent me a picture of him and asked for one in return.
i havent texted him back but its sought of creepy stalkerish

has anyone got any advice, or has something like this happened to anyone else?

Attention seeker again sounds like to me, i had a similar problem with a girl once, choices are,
Text him and tell him if he does give a **** about you then he will leave you alone.
Contact the police about it if its starting to freak you out to much.
1 thing i really hate thoe is when friends give your number to a random person when you clearly said no grrrrrr :mad:

Reply 11

Nicola1986

Its not really a bit problem is it?
Just use some common sense!

Reply 12

MNBStyle

9

Nicola1986

Its not really a bit problem is it?
Just use some common sense!

Did you mean to say big and not bit???

Reply 13

Nicola1986

certainly did thank u!

Reply 14

MNBStyle

9

Nicola1986

certainly did thank u!

Just checking :p:

Reply 15

Scipio

13

acoustic-angel

i went to a fancy meal with my friend and her drama groop, and this guy tryed to chat me up and im not very experienced with guys (1 boyfriend ever) but he was 26 which i deemed to old and i didnt fancy him, my mate gave him my number evan though i refused to give it to him, but i felt mean so i danced with him once.
anyway he then texted me the next day and i told him again that he was to old but he kept on texting back so i ended up just egnoreing him to stop him asking.
this was at the start of the summer and today he texted me again asking why girls turn him down and if theres something wrong with him (sounding really depressed), so i felt guilty and texted back saying so long as they didnt say its becausehe is a prick he was ok, but now he keeps on sending me messages back asking if hes still to old (as if hes got younger in the last few months) and he sent me a picture of him and asked for one in return.
i havent texted him back but its sought of creepy stalkerish

has anyone got any advice, or has something like this happened to anyone else?

He is a loser. Any guy with an ounce of intelligence would releaize this kind of desperate **** puts the ladies off. Tell him to piss off and stop texting back. Be blunt, so he gets the idea.

Reply 16

Beekeeper

13

Tell him politely to **** off.

Reply 17

L i b

19

Really, why is this such a great problem? I get unsolicited messages, emails, phone calls, doorcallers etc every day - most not from strange men wanting to get into my pants, I'll grant you, but it's the same principle. It's not a problem, just don't talk to them.

Reply 18

Trousers

11

Three bits of advice here:
1. Don't text him. If possible, block his number on your phone.
2. Don't worry about hurting his feelings - he only deserves the same amount of respect he's given you. None.
3. Have a word with your friend about giving your number to men you don't like.

Reply 19

Segat1

16

Yeah, have a serious talk to your mate for giving out your number to freaky loser types

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