meeting and getting to know new people

Ok need some advice. If you're going to a new university say and are surrounded by a bunch of complete strangers, what is the best strategy plan with a view to making a group of friends you get on with. In the past in similar suituations I find that you meet someone, and talk for a bit, then barely see them again. When is a good time to exchange contact details? as soon as you meet them or on a 2nd meeting? (is it best to ask for mobile no. and ask for e-mails later, as i find msn more comfortable to use and a lot cheaper obviously).

How do groups of friends get together for example. Doesn't have to be a large bunch of people, just a few really close friends you can rely on etc. ive been around the same people for ages and not used to doing the whole process of meeting new people.

Thanks

Reply 1

Objet trouvé

If you get on really well with someone, then asking for their phone number just seems natural. If you get on with someone at a lecture, you can suggest that you go for coffee afterwards. Meeting new people is really hard but you just have to find common ground. Try not to ask people do much about what they did for a-level etc. as this is really annoying. Instead talk about music or films or anything neutral that most people have an opinion on. Try not to be too shy and just suggest that you meet up again, and that maybe they bring some friends along and you all go out as a group together, which means you'll meet a whole load of people without being in a stressful environment.

Hope this helps a bit!

Reply 2

mathsdave

Thanks objet. Anyone else have any opinions?

Reply 3

*starry_eyed_*

i think when you're in a large group, there will be people you simply click" with and just get on with them instantly. :smile:

this is sooo much easier, as you find that you can talk about what the person above said, almost enerything! just talk about what feels natural and what you feel comfortable- you'll really shine then! :smile:

Reply 4

Spiral Architect

Join a society or something. Although I didn't actually join one in the end I did speak to a few people at the freshers faye and on the majority they were very talkactive.

Reply 5

Apricot Fairy

When you start uni you will collect so many random mobile numbers, and the next day you'll only remember who half of them are.

If you're living in halls, my advice would be to go in self-catered flats. In traditional catered halls, you might meet loads of people at every mealtime, but it will take you ages to remember who is who. Here in my flat, from day one I've had five people who I know I live with, and we exchanged mobile numbers on the first day. Your flatmates effectively become your family, and are a good starting point for socialising.