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Help !!! [scared about school dance]
I have a problem and im a bit depressed now. Well we have a Yr 9 dance in a weeks time at a school and well im guessing its gonna be huge, well its around the 800- 1000 people dance and well im not confident im gonna meet someone there and my friends are all talking about it. Im so scared and a bit depresed. Can you tell me the sucess rate if i weighed 58 kg and a height of 1.64 metres, Im fourteen if your wandering my age and im extremely shy. I just need my success rate in meeting someone and becoming friends there, can anyone tell me and if possible can you also tell me how to be less shy?
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oh babe 
tell your friends how you feel. It is pretty scarey, I still get nervous when walking into a room full of people I don't know, you've just got to take a deep breath and pretend its the most natural thing in the world to do.
Chances are, you're not the only one feeling this way if there is 1000 people going. Its a hella awkward time for everyone, it doesn't matter how much you weigh or your height. Your "success rate" depends on you being happy and comfy - which doesnt mean you have to get off with some bloke you've never met before.
I dont want to do the whole "You'll be fine, just be confident" and "Just be yourself" cos thats vague as.
Talk to your mates. If they are your mates then they'll make sure you feel comfy and you'll have a blast.
tell your friends how you feel. It is pretty scarey, I still get nervous when walking into a room full of people I don't know, you've just got to take a deep breath and pretend its the most natural thing in the world to do.
Chances are, you're not the only one feeling this way if there is 1000 people going. Its a hella awkward time for everyone, it doesn't matter how much you weigh or your height. Your "success rate" depends on you being happy and comfy - which doesnt mean you have to get off with some bloke you've never met before.
I dont want to do the whole "You'll be fine, just be confident" and "Just be yourself" cos thats vague as.
Talk to your mates. If they are your mates then they'll make sure you feel comfy and you'll have a blast.
Your 'success rate' of meeting someone depends on your personality and how you interact with other people on the night, not on what you weigh or how tall you are!
Just relax and be yourself, make sure you talk to lots of people, smile and be polite. Thats about it really. Also make sure you wear something you feel comfortable and confident in, as this will give you extra confidence.
Im sure you will be fine once you get there, its probably just the thought of it making you nervous!!!
Just relax and be yourself, make sure you talk to lots of people, smile and be polite. Thats about it really. Also make sure you wear something you feel comfortable and confident in, as this will give you extra confidence.
Im sure you will be fine once you get there, its probably just the thought of it making you nervous!!!
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Chances are, you're not the only one feeling this way if there is 1000 people going. Its a hella awkward time for everyone, it doesn't matter how much you weigh or your height. Your "success rate" depends on you being happy and comfy - which doesnt mean you have to get off with some bloke you've never met before.
Chances are, you're not the only one feeling this way if there is 1000 people going. Its a hella awkward time for everyone, it doesn't matter how much you weigh or your height. Your "success rate" depends on you being happy and comfy - which doesnt mean you have to get off with some bloke you've never met before.
Umm im not gay. Sorry if i hurt your feeling saying that at you.
Thanks for helping but when you say that acting naturaly, I cant i always mess up somehow or i stumble heaps and blush heaps.
4 of my friends have comfirmed to go but others im not sure. I cant seem to concentrate in class these few days.
OK. What scares you? Making a fool of yourself? Not being able to talk to people?
You will know 4 out of 1000 people there. That's scary as it is. But the beauty of it is that if you do make a dag out of yourself, no-one knows you!
I once got up in front of my ENTIRE school when I was 13 and read a speech and fluffed my lines. EVERYONE laughed at me (incl Headmaster and teachers) and gave me heaps afterwards. I just laughed at myself and made out like it didnt worry me, and I got over it all.
How old are you? I'm guessing 14/15 if you're in Yr 9. Can you talk to your mates about this sort of thing?
God, that really doesn't sound like advice at all... sorry
You will know 4 out of 1000 people there. That's scary as it is. But the beauty of it is that if you do make a dag out of yourself, no-one knows you!
I once got up in front of my ENTIRE school when I was 13 and read a speech and fluffed my lines. EVERYONE laughed at me (incl Headmaster and teachers) and gave me heaps afterwards. I just laughed at myself and made out like it didnt worry me, and I got over it all.
How old are you? I'm guessing 14/15 if you're in Yr 9. Can you talk to your mates about this sort of thing?
God, that really doesn't sound like advice at all... sorry
Yes the thing that scares me is making a fool of myself and also im a very very very shy person except on the net, so i think i'll just be standing their for three hours doing nothing. As i told you,i am 14 turning 15 next year and i only told my best friend about it but i dont really trust that much on my other friends.
Seriously dude, girls aren't that awful. On this dance, make it your goal, no matter what, to introduce yourself to at least 5 girls. Don't worry about after, just introduce yourself, ask their name, then say "cool, nice to meet you, i'm gonna get back to my friends now". The first time will probably be hell, until you say hello. If the girl doesnt wanna know, who cares? She probably wasn't a very interesting person anyway. But, yeah, do that 5 girl thing, don't worry about "success" or "pulling", make sure you enjoy yourself. Just introducing yourself shows you aren't afraid and are comfortable and happy. Enjoy!
Im shy as i tell you, its probably harder to do that then suicide. But thatks for the advice anywayz.
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. Can you tell me the sucess rate if i weighed 58 kg and a height of 1.64 metres, Im fourteen
so thats (age*(height/weight))^gayness = dont be a fag
what do you mean dont be a fag. That is really insulting. Oh well i dont care.
Anyone have any advice to overcome my shyness?
Anyone have any advice to overcome my shyness?
They've been giving you advice.
Just try and relax and have a good time. If you've got an uptight look on your face then no one will want to talk to you. People are most attractive when they are smiling and at ease, and even if you aren't, act as though you are and you'll be ok. I used to be terribly shy in group situations (and I still have difficulty making eye contact with people on the street, I always walk with my eyes down) This was due to being bullied at a younger age. However, now I am much more confident because whenever I felt shy I would picture someone confident that I admired and just do what I thought they'd do in that situation. It worked for me!
Just try and relax and have a good time. If you've got an uptight look on your face then no one will want to talk to you. People are most attractive when they are smiling and at ease, and even if you aren't, act as though you are and you'll be ok. I used to be terribly shy in group situations (and I still have difficulty making eye contact with people on the street, I always walk with my eyes down) This was due to being bullied at a younger age. However, now I am much more confident because whenever I felt shy I would picture someone confident that I admired and just do what I thought they'd do in that situation. It worked for me!
And don't forget, you get the best buzz out of doing something you are scared of. Feel that adrenaline flowing through you.
Dude
omg, its only a dance. Why do people get so worked up about something that doesn't mean anything? You're 14yrs old. You've got pently of time and years ahead to make a fool of yourself in front of girls.
don't you remember when you were 14 and school dances were, like, the BIGGEST deal?! he's scared, bless him, i'm sure you were as well! don't be a meanie
grace
don't you remember when you were 14 and school dances were, like, the BIGGEST deal?! he's scared, bless him, i'm sure you were as well! don't be a meanie
Actually the only dance I went to at High School was the Valentines Dance in year 8, and I didn't start noticing girls till year 10.
Trust me, you're going to have plenty of oppurtunities to look like a fool in front of other people, now's as good a time to start as any. I remember the first time I asked a girl out i was scared s**tless. She said no thanks, but what the hey at least she didn't slap me (at that point, but that's another tale), these things happen, eventually you'll meet someone you like, who likes you back and you'll hit it off.
don't worry about a dance in yr9, you don't have to meet the love of your life there, you could just have fun with your friends.
if you see a girl you want to talk to, just do it before you change your mind. i personally, think shy guys come across much nicer than over confident guys. and if you seem shy it'll seem all the sweeter you made the effort to talk to the girl.
if you see a girl you want to talk to, just do it before you change your mind. i personally, think shy guys come across much nicer than over confident guys. and if you seem shy it'll seem all the sweeter you made the effort to talk to the girl.
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