Crush on an untouchable guy :(

I’ve recently fallen for this guy who I work with, he’s 22, (I’m 18) he’s engaged, getting married next year (in june) I have fallen for him so badly, I admire him as a person so much. He’s young but has done so much with his life. He’s such a great person. It does not help that he’s cute, funny and a generally great guy. I have such a bad crush on him. He’s on my mind all the time, I can’t stop thinking about him. We have such deep conversations, where we talk about our dreams hope and fears ect. I feel as if I have a really deep connection with him. He has no interest in me romantically whatsoever, so there is no chance at all of anything ever happing. I kist don’t know what to do. I can’t seem to get over him. Any advice would be great, and also any stories of other experiences would be great

Reply 1

hanadeka2002

Can't offer any advice but I know what it's like to have a crush on an 'untouchable' guy.

If he's getting married there's not a lot you can do however...it will fade away in time,especially if you see him less.Try to well,not avoid him,but...not see him as much if that's possible.

Reply 2

sassy_j85*

7

Hayley_2k4

I’ve recently fallen for this guy who I work with, he’s 22, (I’m 18) he’s engaged, getting married next year (in june) I have fallen for him so badly, I admire him as a person so much. He’s young but has done so much with his life. He’s such a great person. It does not help that he’s cute, funny and a generally great guy. I have such a bad crush on him. He’s on my mind all the time, I can’t stop thinking about him. We have such deep conversations, where we talk about our dreams hope and fears ect. I feel as if I have a really deep connection with him. He has no interest in me romantically whatsoever, so there is no chance at all of anything ever happing. I kist don’t know what to do. I can’t seem to get over him. Any advice would be great, and also any stories of other experiences would be great

Hey Hayley, no advice of yet as i am in a similar situation my self, and i know how upsetting it is. I have been friends with this guy for over a year, the more i have gotten to know him, the more i like him. I kept it all secret about me liking him for ages, eventually i had to tell someone so i told my best mate who is close to him. She said she had guessed as i had made it so ovious, but she thought he liked me. The night she went to investigate, he actually asked whether i liked him, because of the looks i had given him, the flirtyness etc etc. I didnt realise i was making it so ovious. Anyway in the end i told him (over text because i am a chicken!) and his reply was "oh i know" which wound me up a bit, but he said friendship is more important etc etc. There was no akwardness and i thought telling him and him saying he wasnt interested would help me get over him.

But it hasnt. In fact it has made things worse. Whenever i meet anyone else i compare them to him, i have cried so much over him, it sounds pathetic i know, but i also, like you dont know what to do. I thought that maybe if i just stopped talking to him, i would never have to see him again and that would help but then i realised that wasnt fair to him and i would be losing a good friend. What also doesnt help is the fact that we chat lots and he always asks for girl advice etc.

Oh god i have waffled sorry! :redface:

But i know EXACTLY how you are feeling hun x

Reply 3

Excalibur

15

I don't have any stories to share (hell, I haven't had any romantic experience yet....), but I agree with cherrychocolate. If he's going to get married there isn't a lot you can do. If you see less and less of him, he may gradually fade out the picture... and this time next year, you may be wondering why on earth you had a crush on him in the first place. Plus your feelings to him may not be love at all - it could be more like admiration?

There's always the chance he'll get divorced... :rolleyes:

Reply 4

ChemistBoy

16

Yep, it's a crush, not love. You'll just have to deal with it. I just ask you to please not give him any temptation - he has made his choice, soon to be for better or worse.

Reply 5

Dekota

Kill his fiancee.

:bandit:

Reply 6

john171

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Ricki

Kill his fiancee.

:bandit:

Pure genius.

Reply 7

ChemistBoy

16

Ricki

Kill his fiancee.

:bandit:

Are you the bandito for the job?

Reply 8

Hayley_2k4

OP

12

Ricki

Kill his fiancee.

:bandit:

lol! good one

Reply 9

Amlea

1

this sound s like a soap!!

Seriouslt though its unfair for u to barge in their r'ship!

Hes TAKEN hes gettin maried...try to move on!

Reply 10

MagicNMedicine

20

Amlea I dont think she was asking for tips on how to intrude on their relationship and get him, just how to deal with it !

It is very hard when you are in love with someone who you can't have. It happened for me one time with an Aussie girl who was happily in a relationship, she was older than me anyway (she was 26 I was 19) but she was just so lovely and she listened to me and was fun to be around, basically personified everything that I wanted in a partner. In the end it passed over time because she went back home from her working holiday visa.

I think the worst "untouchable" experience was one which still tears me apart to this day. I was really in love with my ex girlfriend for ages, if I am honest with myself I still am, even though I'm seeing someone else. My ex has a boyfriend now and it is a real killer because I know how happy she is with him and I know that the chance of being with her is probably gone forever. It feels worse because I know I was once with her and that is even more frustrating, I feel like I should have done more. :frown:

Reply 11

Evenstar

13

I know it's cheesy, but I truly believe that everything happens for a reason. If you're in love with someone you can't have, there is a reason - the right person is out there somewhere for you, you just haven't found them yet. When you meet the right person, you'll know....trust me! :wink:

Reply 12

Max Power

if u really want to get over this guy, try it on with him and c what happens.

if he rejects u then there u go, u canot go out with a guy that doesn't want u.

on the other hand, if he wants u bad, then u find out what a disloyal and horrible man he is for betraying his girlfriend.

in both instances, u will end up looking a prat and the situation will be awful and uncomfortable.

i hope that by appreciating the terrible consequences of trying it on, this will scare u into never even contemplating such a thought.

Reply 13

Syntax

13

^ Worst advice. Ever.

I guess I can't say more than what's already been said - try to put it out of your mind, and enjoy your friendship with him.

Reply 14

Max Power

at least i gave advice.

perhaps u didn't understand my point.

fool.

Reply 15

hippieglitter

19

I can't say anymore that hasn't already been said apart from if you try it on with him it could be potentially fatal to your friendship. What do you value more? I agree with Syntax, stupid idea.

Reply 16

Syntax

13

at least i gave advice.

perhaps u didn't understand my point.

fool.

Well unless you've attempted sarcasm, I'm pretty sure I do understand your point - it's just fairly stupid. Amusing, but stupid.

Reply 17

Apricot Fairy

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Max Power

at least i gave advice.

perhaps u didn't understand my point.

fool.

I can't believe you have the nerve to call other people morons when you post rubbish like that.

Reply 18

Max Power

for f sake i am not being sarcastic

i asked her to consider the possible consequences of making a move. if she is successful, she finds out the guy is a disloyal scumbag. if she is unsuccessful, then she can't go out with someone who doesn't want her.

either way, the result is that she is put into an uncomfortable postion. It is by considering the consequences of one's actions that one understands why it is that they should refrain from those actions at all cost.

how dare u say that is bad advice

Reply 19

hippieglitter

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Max Power

for f sake i am not being sarcastic

i asked her to consider the possible consequences of making a move. if she is successful, she finds out the guy is a disloyal scumbag. if she is unsuccessful, then she can't go out with someone who doesn't want her.

either way, the result is that she is put into an uncomfortable postion. It is by considering the consequences of one's actions that one understands why it is that they should refrain from those actions at all cost.

how dare u say that is bad advice, u moron.

Can you please stop using the word moron it is beginning to annoy me, you have used in almost everyone of your posts i have seen.

Crush on an untouchable guy :(

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