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    This is probably a bit of a whiny thread but I'm feeling really down about it and just want some advice.

    Basically what the title says. My 'dad' left when i was 3 and I haven't heard from him since (no xmas/birthday cards or anything), and therefore all family on that side are non-existent. I don't have a clue where they live or of any phone numbers but they know my address but I still haven't heard anything. I'm 20 now.

    My mum basically abused me and kicked me out as a teenager for having an eating disorder and I lived on my own in a bedsit for months before going to uni, which was horrible. Things became ok between us but I never hear from her now. I literally would have no contact with her if I didn't make an effort. I know it's childish but as a test I have not been in touch to see how long it would take her to make the effort. It's been 2 months now. She cut herself off from all her family so I have nobody on that side, either.

    I had a stepdad and him and my mum had my younger sister, but they had a violent relationship and broke up when I was about younger, just before my ED started. This guy was basically my dad, but he's disappeared now. He sees my sister every weekend but never asks to see me or how I am.

    Does anyone else have a situation like this? I feel absolutely worthless sometimes. I have good friends and a lovely boyfriend and am doing a degree to get a career I know I'll love, but not having that basic support does get me down sometimes. People moan about their parents, but I don't think they realise just how lucky they are to have a mum nag them to stay safe.
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    i'm sorry to hear about your family,

    the best i can say is that you could move on, live your life out without contacting your family for a while and then they might miss you and attempt to contact you
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    im glad u have friends and a boyfriend all i can say is try and concentrate on them screw the rest. good luck for the future x
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    Im sorry to hear about that, no one should be treated that way. In all honesty, I would say try to live your life yourself, make a good network of friends, close friends, they can feel like your own family. Try to move on from those bad feelings about your famiyl because it isnt your fault at all and if they dont want to make an effort to contact you then perhaps you should contact them less than you do now, see if they start to miss you. That said you are being successful in your own life, you are at university and going to get a good job when you graduate, try to focus on all the positives
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    thanks guys
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    This is probably a bit of a whiny thread but I'm feeling really down about it and just want some advice.

    Basically what the title says. My 'dad' left when i was 3 and I haven't heard from him since (no xmas/birthday cards or anything), and therefore all family on that side are non-existent. I don't have a clue where they live or of any phone numbers but they know my address but I still haven't heard anything. I'm 20 now.

    My mum basically abused me and kicked me out as a teenager for having an eating disorder and I lived on my own in a bedsit for months before going to uni, which was horrible. Things became ok between us but I never hear from her now. I literally would have no contact with her if I didn't make an effort. I know it's childish but as a test I have not been in touch to see how long it would take her to make the effort. It's been 2 months now. She cut herself off from all her family so I have nobody on that side, either.

    I had a stepdad and him and my mum had my younger sister, but they had a violent relationship and broke up when I was about younger, just before my ED started. This guy was basically my dad, but he's disappeared now. He sees my sister every weekend but never asks to see me or how I am.

    Does anyone else have a situation like this? I feel absolutely worthless sometimes. I have good friends and a lovely boyfriend and am doing a degree to get a career I know I'll love, but not having that basic support does get me down sometimes. People moan about their parents, but I don't think they realise just how lucky they are to have a mum nag them to stay safe.
    I agree with what someone above said, I think you should just concentrate on yourself and your boyfriend and keep reminding yourself that you come first. Do well in your degree, get a good job, live with your boyfriend, have a good life and don't give a **** about anyone else.
 
 
 
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