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    Anon or delete, she might be using TSR.

    This girl's a housemate of two friends. Let's call her M. Of course, I like M. Last Tuesday was her birthday, and two mates (a boy and a girl) came up to visit her. The next day she tried to hide the fact that she had a guy around for what seemed to be fear of judgement (she had previously told myself and all my friends that she does not in fact have a boyfriend). One of my friends was talking to M about all this and he told me that there's no point in going after her. At this point, I thought that she was taken and my gut feeling was wrong.

    The following day, feeling pretty down about it all, I proceeded to try and block M out of my head and focus on the future. That evening and yesterday, my mate (the one who talked to her before) retracted his statement and told me that M liked the guy we thought was her boyfriend (not sure if she still does) but both him and his ex are now close again (his ex is presumably the other girl that came up to visit M). He in fact asked M, "Do you want me to stop looking for other girls?" to which she replied, "No, do what you want."

    During this conversation, my name happened to come up in conversation too, and she said that I was confident, but at the same time, shy like her.

    Whenever I'm around her, I'm always the focus of her attention - I'm the only one out of my group she really talks to, I suppose I can hold a fairly decent conversation, but the point I'm trying to make is that we're both pretty shy. We banter all the time and she takes the piss out of me but she doesn't to anyone else that she knows... and I can make her laugh.

    So, I'm now in a dilemma. I'm confused and to be honest with you, already pretty drained. She's a shy person and so am I, but now I think I'm standing at the brink of a precipice and now I need to make a leap of faith. The problem is, do I have enough to go by to make this leap worth it?

    Thanks to anyone who actually read all of that.

    You won't be able to get anywhere unless you take initiative, if you think your relationship has developed enough then go for it and good luck.
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