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    This is my first time with the forum, I am not sure where else to turn to. I feel stupid if I bring this up with anyone irl.
    Back in march, I discovered I was pregnant, however did not feel I could keep it at this time, I had plans to go to university and was not with the father (however, we are still very good friends). I had an abortion in May, which I am still regretting now nearly 7 months on. If i hadn't had the abortion, it would have been due this december. I feel that my guilt and regret has been going on far to long. Do you think this is normal, should I say anything, or just keep it to myself? I dropped out of uni as i hated the course and am reapplying. This adds to the guilt, as I've wasted the life of the baby for university which has I no longer attend.
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    Go talk to a counsellor.

    It is entirely normal to regret an abortion for a long time (much longer than 7 months). I know some people who feel bad about it years later.

    Confide in someone you trust, tell them how you feel. Talking about it can help.
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    There is no 'normal' for situations like this and don't feel like you should be over it by now.

    You definitely talk to somebody than bottling it up; either to the father, any other close friends, a family member, other women who have been through your situation (found through the internet) or even a helpline. This looks like a useful site: http://www.careconfidential.com/Helpline.aspx

    I have no experience of what you've gone through but want you to know you're not alone :hugs:
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    It's entirely understandable to still feel bad about it.

    If you talk to someone about it, you'll probably feel a lot better. Don't let it eat you up - you felt it was the best thing to do at the time.
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    (Original post by ily_em)
    There is no 'normal' for situations like this and don't feel like you should be over it by now.

    You definitely talk to somebody than bottling it up; either to the father, any other close friends, a family member, other women who have been through your situation (found through the internet) or even a helpline. This looks like a useful site: http://www.careconfidential.com/Helpline.aspx

    I have no experience of what you've gone through but want you to know you're not alone :hugs:

    Thank you, I will take a look at the website. I have people who would listen, I just thought it would be stupid to bring it up again now after this length of time.
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    (Original post by LightOfDark)
    Thank you, I will take a look at the website. I have people who would listen, I just thought it would be stupid to bring it up again now after this length of time.
    Not stupid at all; stop thinking that!! Seven months is nothing tbh :no:

    I hope you start to feel better soon :hugs:
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    Thanks for the replies, I will have a go at talking to someone. I don't find it easy to talk to people about personal things, but i suppose it's better than continuing to feel like this alone.
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    (Original post by LightOfDark)
    Thanks for the replies, I will have a go at talking to someone. I don't find it easy to talk to people about personal things, but i suppose it's better than continuing to feel like this alone.
    Well if you ever need someone to talk to, we are here!
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    (Original post by ily_em)
    Not stupid at all; stop thinking that!! Seven months is nothing tbh :no:

    I hope you start to feel better soon :hugs:

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    Well if you ever need someone to talk to, we are here!
    Thanks, It's just nice to know i'm not being ridiculous Cheered me up a little
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    What's done is done really, you'll have to move on.

    Maybe it was for the best, you may not have been able to support it the way you would after Uni and being in a stable job.
 
 
 
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