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    Ok, I personally hate reading really lengthy problems so I'm going to try and keep this as short and concise as possible.

    • Slept with a guy I really like 2 years ago
    • Didn't see him for 2 years and now I'm sleeping with him on a regular basis
    • Its the best sex ever
    • I want us to be more than just **** buddies
    • He doesn't want us to be a couple because his last relationship was "messed up" and he has thus become cynical about relationships
    • He is very affectionate and passionate, even in public (but not in front of my friends or parents)


    Question: (3 parter)
    a) Wtf is going on in his head (i.e. why is he heavy on the PDA if he doesn't want to go out with me)?
    b) How can I get him to commit to me?
    c) What would you do?
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    a) He wants you to keep sleeping with him, and he knows that girls often like cuddly stuff. He does what he can to keep you around and get regular sex.
    b) You can't.
    c) Nothing. Break it off if I had too many feelings and would run a risk of getting hurt.
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    It sounds like he likes the affection but he doesn't want the commitment of making it official.
    You probably can't make him commit. At the moment he's getting exactly what he wants...
    If I was you I would be honest about how you feel and tell him that what you have at the moment isn't enough for you. Stop sleeping with him. Hopefully it will make him realise that if he wants you he needs to commit.
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    you're his **** buddy.
    thats it.
    unfortunately thats how it works, if you're not happy about it. stop it. find someone else.

    the idea of a **** buddy is no string sex, the second you get feelings is the second you should break it off.
    you'll find someone better anyway.
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    He enjoys the sex, but you're not 'wifey material'.
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    i guess you were DTF, so now you are categorized as being DTF, but not quite the stalking the life of the boardwalk type relationship
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    (Original post by *Lollo*)
    a) He wants you to keep sleeping with him, and he knows that girls often like cuddly stuff. He does what he can to keep you around and get regular sex.
    b) You can't.
    c) Nothing. Break it off if I had too many feelings and would run a risk of getting hurt.
    THIS!
 
 
 
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