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    Keep anon please.

    To sum this all up, this girl who I do not know keeps commenting on my boyfriends status', not just a normal reply like you would do, but something that's like been planned to start a conversation. Maybe that's just me.

    It came up on my news feed that he'd 'liked' one of her photos, this I don't mind 'too' much, I mean it's better than him commenting saying something, I guess. The thing is, i'm sure he doesn't like my photos - unless I just don't take notice. This photo is a very...revealing photo, took on purpose to 'enhance her assets' it's not exactly subtle, she might as well be in her bra!

    On one of his status' she said she'd text him to another person. Surely, if you have a girlfriend then you don't go around giving your number to other girls?

    I'm not saying he's not allowed to text other people, I don't really text any other guys, okay, the odd friend who he knows and they're just boring texts say about work and so. He's not exactly a guy who hangs around with a lot of girls either, I don't mind if my best friends text him 'cause that's different.

    Am I going crazy?
    If you was in my position, how would you be reacting?
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    I think I'd react a bit to that too.
    It's difficult with facebook because it's new and there is really no real-life equivalent to "liking" someone's photo or commenting on them. People can say "It's just a click", but I think it depends on the photo. If it's an obviously funny picture or taken from a very special event, that's cool, but if it's just of her and the obvious "message" of the photo is "look how hot I am", then it's different. (I'm not saying there is something wrong about posting pictures of yourself where you look pretty, unless it's one of those taken with a pout where we can see your arm holding the camera, obviously).
    If you were out somewhere together and you met this girl, he wouldn't stand in front of you and tell her "I really like the way you look in that tight dress".

    EDIT: If you bring it up, do it in a non-strict way or make some ironic comment, just make sure he gets it.
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    Unless his behaviour has changed and he suddenly isn't making time for you/ isn't being as affectionate as he was before/ is otherwise acting suspiciously, I wouldn't read too much into this. Guys and girls can just be friends, even if the girl in question seems flirty. I don't stop talking to guys or meeting new people just because I have a boyfriend. As long as he's being faithful I see nothing wrong with him socialising with other people.
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    You sound a bit paranoid, it's healthy to flirt with other people, don't necessarily mean he likes them though
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    (Original post by *Lollo*)
    I think I'd react a bit to that too.
    It's difficult with facebook because it's new and there is really no real-life equivalent to "liking" someone's photo or commenting on them. People can say "It's just a click", but I think it depends on the photo. If it's an obviously funny picture or taken from a very special event, that's cool, but if it's just of her and the obvious "message" of the photo is "look how hot I am", then it's different. (I'm not saying there is something wrong about posting pictures of yourself where you look pretty, unless it's one of those taken with a pout where we can see your arm holding the camera, obviously).
    If you were out somewhere together and you met this girl, he wouldn't stand in front of you and tell her "I really like the way you look in that tight dress".
    Hmmm...let me describe the photo in detail:

    - heavy orange make-up.
    - a lot of eye make-up.
    - looks like a ****.
    - a top which is far too small and she wants people to see her boobs.
    - a 'pout' - okay not a real pout, but a bad version of her.
    - she's not pretty.
    - a very 'posed' photo.

    Oh, and i've just noticed, he's liked two photos.
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    ~ Because I can't edit the other posts.

    I joined a group a while ago called "Calm down, they only like your photos because your boobs are hanging out." and he's joined it.

    Do you think he's just being a guy? and I'm just really paranoid?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    ~ Because I can't edit the other posts.

    I joined a group a while ago called "Calm down, they only like your photos because your boobs are hanging out." and he's joined it.

    Do you think he's just being a guy? and I'm just really paranoid?
    If you're that worried about it, casually bring her up in conversation. Be warned though, if he's innocent he might not take kindly to you not trusting him.
    How long have you been together?
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    (Original post by Captain92)
    If you're that worried about it, casually bring her up in conversation. Be warned though, if he's innocent he might not take kindly to you not trusting him.
    How long have you been together?
    We broke up a couple of months back, it's been about a year.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hmmm...let me describe the photo in detail:

    - heavy orange make-up.
    - a lot of eye make-up.
    - looks like a ****.
    - a top which is far too small and she wants people to see her boobs.
    - a 'pout' - okay not a real pout, but a bad version of her.
    - she's not pretty.
    - a very 'posed' photo.

    Oh, and i've just noticed, he's liked two photos.
    dump him gurl? if he gunna waste the poonani das in front of him n go for some loggerhead gonorrhea girl on da web den he aint worth ur time. he got wiv u for lust, not love. dat much is clear doe. standard, one ting xxx
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    Why don't you stop lurking her photos in order to find whether he's 'liking' them or not?
    You're just driving yourself a little bit crazy.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    We broke up a couple of months back, it's been about a year.
    What? :confused: that doesn't make sense.
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    Fecking Facebook is going to be the death of our generation.
    So hang on are you actually together or broken up?
    Confuzzled.
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    Post her facebook profile and we'll all judge if she's a **** or not :wink:
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    (Original post by kRaeTwin)
    Post her facebook profile and we'll all judge if she's a **** or not :wink:
    pahaha
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    How about I just kill you all?

    The youth of today are so irritating.
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    I like other people's pictures all the time. . . .
    Maybe I should just go and check to make sure the BF isn't sharpening his scalpel :rolleyes: and I thought I was the jealous type. . . .


    Edit: you broke up a couple of months ago?! WTF?! He's not even your boyfriend anymore!?

    HOW OLD ARE YOU?!
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    Well... I'm afraid now the jealousy process has already started, it's only downhill from here.

    You saw he liked someone's picture on your newsfeed? OR you saw on his profile that he'd liked a picture, and you clicked on it?

    As far as I can see, the jealousy has already begun, so it doesn't matter what anyone says or thinks; it's been triggered in your mind and the only way to stop it growing is by confronting him about it. You've already subconsciously or not, decided that something is going on with them. You wouldn't make a thread about it if you weren't worried! Therefore, EVERY connection/conversation/'liked' status you see between them is going to emphasise their relationship, just because you've already decided it to be true.

    A confrontation could be very bad for your relationship, especially as it may seem very petty to your boyfriend and jealousy is often not a desired attribute in a girlfriend.

    Despite this, the only way I can see the jealousy going away is if you erupt. Which will eventually happen!

    Personally, I wouldn't be bothered by it. It's what happens in the real world, people DO flirt, and this just exaggerated by the fact that it's on facebook and therefore you can see it 24/7.

    I'd suggest that you just breathe and don't worry about it but... I think it's too late for that :-)
    Maybe you have some insecurities that are coming out in this scenario?


    EDIT : Ok, if you broke up.. This is completely irrelevant. Get over him! Dear me. It's girls like you that give us a bad name!
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hmmm...let me describe the photo in detail:

    - heavy orange make-up.
    - a lot of eye make-up.
    - looks like a ****.
    - a top which is far too small and she wants people to see her boobs.
    - a 'pout' - okay not a real pout, but a bad version of her.
    - she's not pretty.
    - a very 'posed' photo.

    Oh, and i've just noticed, he's liked two photos.
    This is the key part. If it's true then you don't have anything to worry about. If you're being *****y and she actually is better looking than you are, then the jealousy might be founded. Men will trade up, but they are not likely to trade down ie if they are with an attractive girl, why risk it by flirt/cheating with a less attractive girl?
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    "dump him gurl? if he gunna waste the poonani das in front of him n go for some loggerhead gonorrhea girl on da web den he aint worth ur time. he got wiv u for lust, not love. dat much is clear doe. standard, one ting xxx"

    Anyone got a translation? Anyone at all?
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    It serves you kids right for using Facebook.

    Why don't you grow up?
 
 
 
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