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    Basically I've kinda been 'off the radar' for a few years due to personal/health problems so I feel like I've missed out on a lot of the things my peers did socially/sexually/etc kinda from age 15-19 so since I got to uni I've been drinking, partying, getting laid and making up for lost time a bit

    problem is, alongside pulling guys on nights out and having some one night stands I'm also sleeping with my flatmate (kind of, he has a weird thing that if we have sex again -drunken one night stand on my first night but we havnt done it since- then it'll be 'crossing a line' so we just fool around a bit) and I like this guy quite a bit, like I'd quite happily be in a relationship with him APART FROM the fact it'd be a serious committed type thing which I think is A. bad because we live together (and cos Im off campus theres only like 10 freshers in my private halls, if that) and B. bad because I really just wanna have fun and sleep around, maybe a couple of flings, nothing serious yet

    I feel like if I get together with him and commit Ill resent him cos Ill have missed the fun Im having now...but then again I feel like Im being totally unfair on him asking him to wait for me (even though he says atm he gets jealous but he understands why I need this)

    EDIT: and cos we;re in this tiny hall (where most poeple know each other as well) he's like my main close friend here and I dont want to mess that friendship up cos I genuinely enjoy spending time with him, he makes me happy and I would like to be in a relationship with him in the future...
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    The grass isn't always greener on the other side.

    Random one night stands won't make you a better person, give you better sex or make you have more fun.

    Looking back i would NEVER choose fooling around and one night stands over being with someone i have a genuine click with. Finding someone you like a lot who actually likes you back is rare - don't waste it. One night stands are over rated, quite often crap and moreover lead to nothing good, only a hangover.
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    omg happened to me. you need to lose him to realise how much you want him
    you will tho
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    I don't think you are being horrible. Some people enjoy sex without the complication of a relationship. As long as people know all you want is a bit of fun and they are still willing to go ahead with that then it's fine. Just make sure you tell people of your intentions!
 
 
 
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