Last weekend I found myself in a strange city due to a conference I got sent to by the company I work for..
anyhoo whilst I was there I met up with a guy I've known on the internet for a little while. I also managed to drink quite a lot especially after having had a ridiculously stressful day and ended up quite legless to the point where I couldn't get the train home...so the guy from the internet let me 'crash at his'.
I have a vague recollection of being in his bed and he was doing things to me - not full on sex but essentially being 'down there'.
I left at about 6am he walked me to the train station from his because I didn't know where it was and was pleasant enough....
....just I keep feeling....I can't describe it.
I dunno I needed to speak to someone about it so I guess an internet forum full of teenagers is as good a place as any.
Feel Violated Watch
- Thread Starter
- 30-11-2010 17:11
- 30-11-2010 18:41
whats your worry? that he went down on you without your conscent? doesn't sound like a big deal really and he sounds like he was nice to you afterwards so maybe he just likes you and misread the situation?
- 30-11-2010 19:04
Situations like this are grey areas. If you didn't ask him to stop it then it's not technically assault, but then, you were drunk at the time.
It can be argued that he shouldn't have taken advantage, but it can also be argued that he didn't mean to, and genuinely thought you wanted it.
Maybe you should talk to him about it, if you feel comfortable.
- 30-11-2010 19:54
maybe he took advantages of your drunkness, licked you out and you were too dazed to even know what was going on.
- 01-12-2010 01:12
maybe you need to talk to him about it. I know that would be rediculously awkward but its probablly the best way for you to get over it.
- 01-12-2010 01:15
What happens drunk doesn't count :P
nah but seriously, maybe talk to him about it, then try put it behind you
- 01-12-2010 03:25
doesnt sound like you objected to what he was doing to you. You might have agreed to it unknowingly in your state of drunkness , plus the guy obv likes you. If you enjoyed it and he didnt try anything bad without your consent , id say there isnt much to feel violated for.