Drinking too much alcohol

I've got a friend who has recently been quite down and stuff, but the thing that is realy worrying me is that in the last week i think she's been drinking quite heavily. And she's ben hiding it from her housemates as well. When i went round i found a box of empty lager cans (about 20) and an small empty bottle of vodka. At first she said that was from when she's started uni, about 4 weeks ago, but then she kinda broke down and told me it was all from the last week.

Shes been really depressed and she says that when she was drunk it was the only time she didn't feel down, she felt like she didn't care. I begged her to go and see someone but she's scared of going to see her course tutor and doctor. She's also been hiding it from her boyfriend, who apparently has his own issues atm.

I don't want to think she might be an alcholic (or have alcholic tendancies), as i'm pretty sure this is the first time (and week) that she's done this but i'm really worried. :frown:

Reply 1

sassy_j85*

7

Hey,

I am really sorry to hear about your friend. But at least you now know and will able to help and support her. I'm sure you already have done, but have a sit down and have a real heart to heart with her, maybe if you can find out why she has been feeling down that will be a start, and it may even solve things. If not, she does need to talk to her personal tutor, when you are having problems they really are helpful.

Good luck, keep us informed

Sarah-Jane x

Reply 2

Hanzing

13

Im really sorry about your friend. I can see though she may not want to talk to a doctor or Tutor though as theymay be quite intimidating and uncomfortable, Does the uni have a student councelling service, a outreach program or maybe a nightline or something? This way you could speak to oter students and councellers about the issues which may be a bit less informal and help your friend feel at ease.
Its great your helping her, and I really hope she sees her way out of the sitation. Good thing she has you around :smile:

Reply 3

Dalimyr

17

Shes been really depressed and she says that when she was drunk it was the only time she didn't feel down, she felt like she didn't care

Even if you'd only said she's been depressed, I would have said that was the cause of her drinking problem...and drinking is not the wise course of action to take. Alcohol's a depressant. While she may feel that she doesn't care, it's probably only worsening her depression.

Best cure for depression, in my experience, is to talk about it. You say she's scared to talk to her tutor, doctor or boyfriend...what about you? Do you think she'd be capable of talking to you about what is making her feel depressed?

Reply 4

xXMessedUpXx

OP

15

Perhaps. I thik a lot of it could be uni isn't quite how she expected it. i know she's had depression before, and used to self harm. Maybe she felt she needed something to help her cope? I don't know. I'll try to get her to talk to me/someone :smile:

thanx

Reply 5

Beekeeper

13

Take her out and encourage her to do more social drinking.

Reply 6

xXMessedUpXx

OP

15

(BK clear out your PM inbox )

thanx for the advice

Reply 7

scutt

1

Dalimyr

Even if you'd only said she's been depressed, I would have said that was the cause of her drinking problem...and drinking is not the wise course of action to take. Alcohol's a depressant. While she may feel that she doesn't care, it's probably only worsening her depression.

Alcohol is a depressant in that is dulls the senses, not your mood. Whilst it can bring emotional issues to the front, it's not what is meant when it described as a depressant. :smile:

Reply 8

Beekeeper

13

xXMessedUpXx

(BK clear out your PM inbox )

thanx for the advice

Done

Reply 9

Laursy

10

i know it sounds a little bit silly but take her out, and drink non alcoholic drinks and have a laugh and stuff cheer her up then what she feels when she is having fun without drink will mean she may feel she doesn;t need drink any more, i done that for one of my mates and it worked it took a few trys but we got there in the end, she even had to do it for me when i turned to getting bladdered now i only got drunk last week coz it was a birthday party and i hadn't drank for ages and ages!!

Reply 10

MNBStyle

9

xXMessedUpXx

I've got a friend who has recently been quite down and stuff, but the thing that is realy worrying me is that in the last week i think she's been drinking quite heavily. And she's ben hiding it from her housemates as well. When i went round i found a box of empty lager cans (about 20) and an small empty bottle of vodka. At first she said that was from when she's started uni, about 4 weeks ago, but then she kinda broke down and told me it was all from the last week.

Shes been really depressed and she says that when she was drunk it was the only time she didn't feel down, she felt like she didn't care. I begged her to go and see someone but she's scared of going to see her course tutor and doctor. She's also been hiding it from her boyfriend, who apparently has his own issues atm.

I don't want to think she might be an alcholic (or have alcholic tendancies), as i'm pretty sure this is the first time (and week) that she's done this but i'm really worried. :frown:

I think shes got a good person to talk to already.
and thats the person who did this thread :wink:

shame theres not more girls like you

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