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Really confused...please help.

Ok, this is probably going to sound like a really weird problem because I haven't heard of anyone in this situaton before, but I hope someone can help me.
I have been at uni for 5 weeks and in those five weeks I have seen my boyfriend once and only because I went home. I am now home for a whole week so will probably see him at some point, but I have loads of people at home and at uni telling me to break up with him, mainly because he can't be bothered the come down and see me at me uni, there is also this guy at uni that i like, who I feel is putting pressure on me to break up with my boyfreind so I can start a relationship with him.
I don't want to break up with my boyfriend but I am finding the long distance relationship and lack of contact really difficult.
Also the other day i got a text from my boyfriend after briefly seeing him, saying something along the lines of 'We could've flirted and pretended we are still together' This confused me a lot because it implies that we are not together at all, so I'm not sure if he has broken up with me an not told me which is unlikely or he has taken it a a given that we have broken up because we have not seen each other, but it is even more confusing as the same night when i saw him he hugged and kissed me, how many people would do that with someone they considered as an ex?
Its just all too confusing as I don't know what my boyfriend is thinking and I don't know whether to break up with him or not. I hope this all makes sense. Please help.

Reply 1

Apricot Fairy

16

Talk to your boyfriend. Now.

Reply 2

Kondar

1

susiemakemeblue

Talk to your boyfriend. Now.

Get dinner, have an honest conversation, and decide what you both want.

Reply 3

Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX

14

Yeah sweetie you and your boy better get talking quickly and find out what is going on......meet up somewhere and then you can analyse his facial expressions etc to see whats really going on is he lying or whatever....has anyone told you anything about this? and why are your friends and people at uni telling you to break up with him? do they know something? - you would need to have a real heart-to-heart with this fella and sort out things sweetie :hugs:

xoxo

Reply 4

hippieglitter

OP

19

I want to, i texted him saying i needed to talk to him asking him to come over but he said he couldn't today but said he would later in the week. He often says that, when i use the phrase 'We need to talk' hoping that by the time he does come over i will have forgetten what we need to talk about.

Reply 5

Xx Tomásíona - Mháire xX

14

Ant93

I want to, i texted him saying i needed to talk to him asking him to come over but he said he couldn't today but said he would later in the week. He often says that, when i use the phrase 'We need to talk' hoping that by the time he does come over i will have forgetten what we need to talk about.

write it down somewhere sweetie you two really need to sort something out :frown:

xoxo

Reply 6

Apricot Fairy

16

Why don't you go and see him?

Reply 7

Purple

18

susiemakemeblue

Why don't you go and see him?

Reply 8

hippieglitter

OP

19

No transport, my parents won't take me over there, i'm scared of his mum and he hates me turning up without telling him first.

Reply 9

Kondar

1

no offense, but doenst sound like you have the best relationship. Maybe thats a sign...

Reply 10

-sophie-

11

Perhaps his text wasn't meant for you? To me, he sounds like a bad boyfriend. I mean you come home from uni for the week and he can't come round? If he hasn't seen you for 5 weeks you'd have thought he would want to make a special effort, and if he thinks something is up he should be trying to make the special effort too. The guy from uni sounds like he wants you and you deserve somebody who cares about you and is bothered about seeing you. I wish you every luck in your decision but if I were you I would break it off for the best. :smile:

Reply 11

happydinosaur

15

Kondar

no offense, but doenst sound like you have the best relationship. Maybe thats a sign...

I agree. Not that I am the best person to comment but I realised earlier this year that some of those things are not good signs!!

Reply 12

-sophie-

11

Things always seem worse when you do them, ie break ups, but after when you look back you'll think 'my god why didnt i do that sooner'

Reply 13

Mike_Davies

Something is wrong here, he obviously does not think too highly of you if he cant be arsed to come and see you if he really cares 4 u that much he will make the effort.

Reply 14

SamTheMan

17

Kondar

no offense, but doenst sound like you have the best relationship. Maybe thats a sign...

I dared not say that but I kind of agree. A relationship where this kind of thing is not clear and you can't communicate easily.

I personally don't know how you can go out with someone and do god knows what, without being able to have proper conversations about pretty much everything.

Reply 15

willey

4

As good or bad your relationship may be, I think you seriously need to tell that other guy u like and your friends at uni to stop pressurising u to break up with him. Its only making things worse, by the sounds of it you don’t want to break up with him, so tell that guy to back off. Phone your boyfriend and be honest tell him what your thinking etc.

Really confused...please help.

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