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    Hi, I registered on this site because I really, really need some advice about what to do
    I'm living with 2 other housemates in a private house- when we first moved in I decided to put my wii, my PS3 and my TV in the living room so the house would be more social (I play on them from time to time, but I'm usually quite busy with work, so I figured they could too). I've lived with one housemate, lets call her A, for 2 previous years, so was fine to do this. The previous house we lived in, we had trouble with other housemates, so the house was very divided and there wasn't any socialising at all.

    Housemate A got a boyfriend last March and everything was fine- they spent about equal time around each others places, but since we moved into our new house (July) stuff's started to change.

    He started to come round more and more, and it's got to the stage where he's living here- he actually spends more time in the house than I do. I confess I don't particularly like him as a person, but I think I could deal with the situation, but for the other stuff that's happening.

    He's on my playstation- all the time. That's not hyperbole- he plays COD for hours and hours during the day and at night. Whenever I ask him (politely) to move, he goes in a strop and so does she. They slam doors and won't speak to me- sometimes he just refuses. When I do get him off it, as soon as I leave, he's back on- I was watching a film the other night- it finished at 3am, he was back on it as soon as I'd left. Because he's playing COD online so much, he's eating up our bandwith, so I can't even watch anything online without it stuttering.

    I found he'd created accounts on my PS3 with tons of saved game data. I admit, I did say he could borrow it in the beginning, but I didn't say he could create new accounts and fill up the harddrive downloading poo.

    He's got a PS3 and apparently a "better tv" at his home too, but is never there. I asked A about this, and wondered why they didn't split it 50/50, but she said it was cold in his house, cause the heating wasn't on enough. I asked if they could put the heating on more. She just kinda shrugged uselessly.

    In the rare occasion that he's not playing COD, they're making out in the living room, so I feel as though I can't be there. It's really getting me down- I put my stuff in there so we could be a shared house and both me and my other housemate feel ostracised from our own living room.

    I really don't know what to do- I spoke to her about it and she went in a strop with me. I don't want to move my stuff because I genuinely want everyone to feel like they can chill and watch stuff in there.

    I forgot to add- he doesn't contribute to anything, no bills, no internet etc.

    Help? Please?
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    Take away the ps3. Job done.
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    I would, but he'll just bring his over, and still hog the living room and my TV. I don't mind him using it a bit, but it's all the time. By taking it away, I worry I harm my leverage to get him to stop or cut back at all.
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    I know you don't want to, but moving the PS3 looks like it'll be the only way to stop him. You say you want people to be able to share but it's not as if you can anyway with them being in the living room all the time!
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    He prob wouldn't be bothered bringing his ps3 over, and even if he does at least he's not downloading stuff on to yours. Just take yours out and see what happens.
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    Take your PS3, your TV and all the rest into your room - sorted!
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    Yeah definitely take everything thats yours out. And if youre asked why youve done it, be blunt. They seem to have been very blunt with you.
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    Take the tv and ps3 out of the living room. Job done. If they don't like it, they know where to go. (Y)
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    Take all of your stuff out of the living room. If they ask why, just be honest. They'll figure it out anyway. I don't think he'd bring his own TV over, surely.
    Maybe have a rota, where flatmate A is allowed to have their friends in the communal space at a certain time, the same for flatmate B, and the same for you. A bit ridiculous, but maybe your flatmate will see how fed up you are.Be blunt with her, civil, but not exactly friendly.
    Maybe you could and your other flatmate could threaten that you both will find a place together after Christmas and leave her if she doesn't start being more considerate. You don't have to really find your own place, but it might change her attitude if she believes you will. Leave your laptop open on the flatshare website for her to see. Make an ad on there for 2 people looking for a place. You can always delete it later.
    Or you could always move out after Christmas. You shouldn't have to, but maybe it's for the best. Or spend more time in your room? Again, you shouldn't have to.
    Sorry I couldn't be of more help. Hope things work out for you xxx
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    They sound like right douche bags, I feel sorry for you. As other people have suggested, take everything out that is yours!
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    You paid for the PS3, take it into YOUR room!!!
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    (Original post by mrmoose167)
    I would, but he'll just bring his over, and still hog the living room and my TV. I don't mind him using it a bit, but it's all the time. By taking it away, I worry I harm my leverage to get him to stop or cut back at all.
    Well you do fix the problem of him saving **** on it. And it makes the most obvious message you can. Just put it in your room.
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    (Original post by mrmoose167)
    I would, but he'll just bring his over, and still hog the living room and my TV. I don't mind him using it a bit, but it's all the time. By taking it away, I worry I harm my leverage to get him to stop or cut back at all.
    1. Move your ps3 and go online when he's online(aka he brings his ps3 round) so the internet stutters so much he gets sick and tired and deceides not to play.
    2. Start torrenting so that it'll slow down the internet so bad when he's on it, he'll get annoyed and go off it.

    Dont tell anyone what you're doing and just act all 'i dont know whats wrong with the internet'.

    Keep doing that everytime he goes on the ps3 and i'm sure he will give up playing COD round yours...
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    1. Take away your PS3
    2. If he brings his over learn how to MAC Spoof so you can stop him from connecting to your network and raping your bandwidth
    3. Hide COD

    And if all else fails politely tell him to "**** off" or try and seduce 'Housemate A' if possible.

    Okay forget that last bit. xD
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    Start charging him rent.
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    delete his ****, every night when he finally leaves, then if he doesn't get the message within a couple of days take it away and unplug the tv and stuff.
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    Thanks for the suggestions guys- I have tried asking her not to let him play so much on mine- the result was he just bought his PS3 over, and started playing endlessly on that (she must've given him the login details to the internet) when I asked them if they could leave the tv free for a bit, I just got them going in another strop.

    I would threaten to move out, but I think that's kinda what they want- I think they'll probably move in together next year. But first I have to deal with this one.

    As far as moving the tv goes, I'm not sure where I'd put it tbh! It's a pretty big tv (my baby lol! :blushing: ) I thought about locking the PS3 and the tv, but it seems really petty and liable to cause retaliation.

    I also contacted my lettings agency about how long people can stay over for and he's far exceeded the permitted amount.

    I thought about giving them the email stating the maximum number of days on it, so they'd maybe spend more time at his- but he's not a very nice person. With our old housemates, he broke their stuff, wrecked their shoes, messed up their rooms etc. and that was without them even doing anything directly to him (just being snide with housemate A)

    I'm worried what he will do if I take things any further- I don't have a lock on my room, and there's literally nowhere else for me to store my stuff- I don't have a relatives house or anything I could use.

    So yeah. I'm completely stuck. Any ideas how I can get round this mess?
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    (Original post by mrmoose167)
    Thanks for the suggestions guys- I have tried asking her not to let him play so much on mine- the result was he just bought his PS3 over, and started playing endlessly on that (she must've given him the login details to the internet) when I asked them if they could leave the tv free for a bit, I just got them going in another strop.

    I would threaten to move out, but I think that's kinda what they want- I think they'll probably move in together next year. But first I have to deal with this one.

    As far as moving the tv goes, I'm not sure where I'd put it tbh! It's a pretty big tv (my baby lol! :blushing: ) I thought about locking the PS3 and the tv, but it seems really petty and liable to cause retaliation.

    I also contacted my lettings agency about how long people can stay over for and he's far exceeded the permitted amount.

    I thought about giving them the email stating the maximum number of days on it, so they'd maybe spend more time at his- but he's not a very nice person. With our old housemates, he broke their stuff, wrecked their shoes, messed up their rooms etc. and that was without them even doing anything directly to him (just being snide with housemate A)

    I'm worried what he will do if I take things any further- I don't have a lock on my room, and there's literally nowhere else for me to store my stuff- I don't have a relatives house or anything I could use.

    So yeah. I'm completely stuck. Any ideas how I can get round this mess?
    Well for the PS3 situation, do you have the router login details? if so find out the MAC Address of his PS3 and look for mac spoofing on the router settings and filter that mofo.

    For everything else just keep nagging at your housemate until she goes over to his house.

    edit: you could also just go on his PS3 when he isn't around and leave freaky porn in the browsing history, maybe that would put his girlfriend off him a bit xD
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    (Original post by mrmoose167)
    Thanks for the suggestions guys- I have tried asking her not to let him play so much on mine- the result was he just bought his PS3 over, and started playing endlessly on that (she must've given him the login details to the internet) when I asked them if they could leave the tv free for a bit, I just got them going in another strop.

    I would threaten to move out, but I think that's kinda what they want- I think they'll probably move in together next year. But first I have to deal with this one.

    As far as moving the tv goes, I'm not sure where I'd put it tbh! It's a pretty big tv (my baby lol! :blushing: ) I thought about locking the PS3 and the tv, but it seems really petty and liable to cause retaliation.

    I also contacted my lettings agency about how long people can stay over for and he's far exceeded the permitted amount.

    I thought about giving them the email stating the maximum number of days on it, so they'd maybe spend more time at his- but he's not a very nice person. With our old housemates, he broke their stuff, wrecked their shoes, messed up their rooms etc. and that was without them even doing anything directly to him (just being snide with housemate A)

    I'm worried what he will do if I take things any further- I don't have a lock on my room, and there's literally nowhere else for me to store my stuff- I don't have a relatives house or anything I could use.

    So yeah. I'm completely stuck. Any ideas how I can get round this mess?

    Does he work? It doesn't sound like he does. How would they afford moving in together?
    Make room in your bedroom for your TV.
    Have you got a friend or relative who is a bit scary and will be able to stick up for you? Lol. If so, invite them round so he gets a bit intimidated. I sometimes can be a bit of a pushover just to keep the peace, but my partner always encourages me to toughen up and not take any crap from people.
    Get a lock on your bedroom door, don't leave things lying round. I'm not sure what you do about your food though? I hope he doesn't eat your food! :eek:
    You and your other flatmate need to stick together, sit them both down and tell them you won't tolerate any more of this immature crap. You all pay rent, except him. He's a loser.
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    (Original post by mrmoose167)
    Hi, I registered on this site because I really, really need some advice about what to do
    I'm living with 2 other housemates in a private house- when we first moved in I decided to put my wii, my PS3 and my TV in the living room so the house would be more social (I play on them from time to time, but I'm usually quite busy with work, so I figured they could too). I've lived with one housemate, lets call her A, for 2 previous years, so was fine to do this. The previous house we lived in, we had trouble with other housemates, so the house was very divided and there wasn't any socialising at all.

    Housemate A got a boyfriend last March and everything was fine- they spent about equal time around each others places, but since we moved into our new house (July) stuff's started to change.

    He started to come round more and more, and it's got to the stage where he's living here- he actually spends more time in the house than I do. I confess I don't particularly like him as a person, but I think I could deal with the situation, but for the other stuff that's happening.

    He's on my playstation- all the time. That's not hyperbole- he plays COD for hours and hours during the day and at night. Whenever I ask him (politely) to move, he goes in a strop and so does she. They slam doors and won't speak to me- sometimes he just refuses. When I do get him off it, as soon as I leave, he's back on- I was watching a film the other night- it finished at 3am, he was back on it as soon as I'd left. Because he's playing COD online so much, he's eating up our bandwith, so I can't even watch anything online without it stuttering.

    I found he'd created accounts on my PS3 with tons of saved game data. I admit, I did say he could borrow it in the beginning, but I didn't say he could create new accounts and fill up the harddrive downloading poo.
    He's got a PS3 and apparently a "better tv" at his home too, but is never there. I asked A about this, and wondered why they didn't split it 50/50, but she said it was cold in his house, cause the heating wasn't on enough. I asked if they could put the heating on more. She just kinda shrugged uselessly.

    In the rare occasion that he's not playing COD, they're making out in the living room, so I feel as though I can't be there. It's really getting me down- I put my stuff in there so we could be a shared house and both me and my other housemate feel ostracised from our own living room.

    I really don't know what to do- I spoke to her about it and she went in a strop with me. I don't want to move my stuff because I genuinely want everyone to feel like they can chill and watch stuff in there.

    I forgot to add- he doesn't contribute to anything, no bills, no internet etc.

    Help? Please?
    Delete his stuff from your PS3 and if he asks you why, tell him you need it for yours and remind him it is yours and if he doesn't like it to use his own. As for actually stopping him using it, I cant see a solution other than moving it but you've said you don't want to. As for not feeling comfortable in the living room when they're there, take the TV control and turn the tv up really loud or something to remind them of your presence and that you have as much right to be there. Or get your other housemate there and start a really loud conversation.
 
 
 
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