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    Last Saturday me and my girlfriend almost had sex, until we heard the scraping of they key as my Mum returned home early...
    Secretly, I was quite glad because I've never had sex before and I'm really afraid that I won't be able to maintain my erection because I'm nervous about it being rubbish for my girlfriend. This in turn makes it less and less likely for me being able to keep the fire burning, making me more worried - you can see where this is going...

    I've spoken to my girlfriend about it and she was very understanding (she isn't a virgin) and reassured me that she loves me and doesn't care what happens - that it will get better quickly as I get used to it. But for some reason, I still find myself really nervous about it because I just don't like failing at things... especially something as awesome as sex!!!

    Can anyone offer me any help/words of advise?
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    TSR was a bad place to ask huh?
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    Lol I'd be more worried about blowing your load in 30 seconds. Getting it up is the easy part trust me!
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    If you watched videos on Xhamster, then you'd know that they can sell you certain pills for a great price... :moon:
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    Don't worry, sex is **** the first few times. Then you turn pro, start recording yourself and then you can post videos on the internet for all of us to see.
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    You have to do it at some point, if she is a virgin... she won't exactly be pro.
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    Losing your virginity will be a disaster, no easy way of putting it. It'll be either 2 strokes and done or 45 minutes later and no erection. The latter is personal experience :')
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    (Original post by StephenP91)
    Don't worry, sex is **** the first few times. Then you turn pro, start recording yourself and then you can post videos on the internet for all of us to see.
    Pfft if porn on the internet is anything to go by most guys are **** at sex.
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    Chandler: But what did you do then?
    Joey: I did it anyway! :cool:
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    (Original post by Xhotas)
    Losing your virginity will be a disaster, no easy way of putting it. It'll be either 2 strokes and done or 45 minutes later and no erection. The latter is personal experience :')
    When i lost mine it was for 2 hours , but i was drunk.
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    (Original post by karateworm)
    Chandler: But what did you do then?
    Joey: I did it anyway! :cool:
    Ok that was good...
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    (Original post by Swimmer)
    When i lost mine it was for 2 hours , but i was drunk.
    Ha! It's always awkward when you've too much to drink that junior has decided he doesn't want to stand to attention when ordered.

    Although some times it is a good thing, if you are that drunk, you can be pretty sure that she isn't anywhere near as good looking as you think - almost like a built-in fail safe.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Last Saturday me and my girlfriend almost had sex, until we heard the scraping of they key as my Mum returned home early...
    Secretly, I was quite glad because I've never had sex before and I'm really afraid that I won't be able to maintain my erection because I'm nervous about it being rubbish for my girlfriend. This in turn makes it less and less likely for me being able to keep the fire burning, making me more worried - you can see where this is going...

    I've spoken to my girlfriend about it and she was very understanding (she isn't a virgin) and reassured me that she loves me and doesn't care what happens - that it will get better quickly as I get used to it. But for some reason, I still find myself really nervous about it because I just don't like failing at things... especially something as awesome as sex!!!

    Can anyone offer me any help/words of advise?
    If your girlfriend isn't a virgin, then she'll probably know better than most that a guys first time isn't as successful as he'd hoped as a wide-eyed horny teenager.
    You're not in a bad position, its much better than losing it to a girl who's a virgin and is expecting you to blow her mind - trust me on this one.

    Even if you're terrible - short of you cumming in her eye, falling off the bed and breaking her lamp, you can't really do anything terrible enough to put her off. She'll enjoy it because its you, and she loves you, and she'll be terribly excited about having sex with you.

    If you know its going to happen, try to be as relaxed and confident as possible. Tease her and do some foreplay, and once you see she's turned on, your nervousness might disappear.
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    At our age you should be having trouble keeping it down to be honest.
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    (Original post by Swimmer)
    When i lost mine it was for 2 hours , but i was drunk.
    God if a guy hasn't jacked his load in 2 hours then **** it, I'm putting the telly on.
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    What if, what if, you were a fish?!
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    (Original post by Boobies.)
    God if a guy hasn't jacked his load in 2 hours then **** it, I'm putting the telly on.
    Seems like you've never had any good sexual experiences.
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    (Original post by Swimmer)
    When i lost mine it was for 2 hours , but i was drunk.
    I didn't shove my penis in deep enough :'D Silly Xhotas :')
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    (Original post by HumanNature1992)
    What if, what if, you were a fish?!
    Look out for Kayne West.
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    (Original post by Law123mus)
    Seems like you've never had any good sexual experiences.
    Seems wrong then.
    Non stop humping for just shy of 2 hours without orgasms?

    I'd rather sex it up for 40 mins and *** a few times, thanks.
 
 
 
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