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Becoming insecure/clingy after first few months of r/ship :( watch

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    Hey everyone,

    I've been "official" with my boyfriend for just over 6 months, and I know naturally the sparks and initial excitement go, but as this is my first relationship they seem to have stayed longer than his!

    It's long-distance, so we rely a lot on text/instant messaging. On paper he's still absolutely amazing and caring (by which I mean he's always keeping in contact, asking about my day etc.), but a lot of the verbal affection seems to have cooled down, and he seems more reserved when talking about his feelings these days.

    These worries have made me really insecure and I find myself acting in a way to elicit more "romantic" statements from him, which I'm sure just makes him back away even more I don't really know how to get out of this cycle where I constantly feel he likes me less and less (he hasn't told me he loves me yet, and considering our high point seems to have been a while ago I don't know if he ever will).

    Any advice? Any couples out there, did you experience this stage too?
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    BTW just realised the title is slightly wrong, 6 months = more than a "few"! Sorry
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    (Original post by panda_baby)
    BTW just realised the title is slightly wrong, 6 months = more than a "few"! Sorry
    Don't worry so much, the thing with reading texts and instant messages is that it's really down to how you interpret what is typed out, and its very easy to misinterpret them. Just stay calm, and try not to get too worked up if he doesn't constantly say that he loves you, as this doesn't do anything at all to suggest he likes you any less. At least you two are keeping in touch, and I can only imagine that you will feel great when you see each other again after being away from each other for a while.
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    (Original post by Andrew Mooney)
    Don't worry so much, the thing with reading texts and instant messages is that it's really down to how you interpret what is typed out, and its very easy to misinterpret them. Just stay calm, and try not to get too worked up if he doesn't constantly say that he loves you, as this doesn't do anything at all to suggest he likes you any less. At least you two are keeping in touch, and I can only imagine that you will feel great when you see each other again after being away from each other for a while.
    Thank you
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    Just relax, remember he is dating YOU! which means he likes you!
    Focus on the positives, remember why he likes you, then you'll be less clingy.
    Oh and also remember how beautiful and fantastic you are, thus you'll feel more confident =D
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    I feel the same way, although over slightly less time than you

    I find myself getting really jealous easily now and remembering EVERY LITTLE THING he's ever said about his exes

    I guess just be glad you're not as bad as me??
 
 
 
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