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Paranoia!!!

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Does anyone else find they get really paranoid around people of the opposite sex especially ones they fancy? Or do you think you jibber the most amount of crap to them? How do you get over it?

Reply 1

Icy Ghost

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I'm paranoid all the time, so don't worry :biggrin:

Reply 2

Johnny 5

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Yes. And there is no way, it just goes on, and on, and on, until you're a gibbering wreck in front of the object of your desire and end up settling for the less attractive, obnoxious one that is similarly settling for less, to create children destined to be at the bottom of the gene pool in every respect, and guaranteed to be left far behind when the elite jet off to start Earth mk. 2.

Or, in short: "yes".

Reply 3

frank01277779

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Sometimes I find its actually better to be talking to somebody you fancy, it means you put more effort in and you wanna spend time with them and stuff, being with them makes you happy and things, and just little touches+stuff you can convince yourself that they may actually like you! sometimes with other people thinking of things to say is more effort than it is worth...

Also im not sure it is that you actually do talk more rubbish, it may just be that because you fancy the person you are more aware of it, you analyse what you have said more than if it was somebody else, infact you probably talk rubbish to everybody and just dont notice/dont care when its not somebody you fancy!

The most scary thing is when you know somebody fancies you and you are not interested...

Reply 4

Lidka

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punkskamonkey

The most scary thing is when you know somebody fancies you and you are not interested...

:dito:

I went to an all girls' school for my first 3 years of secondary school... when I moved schools I was in awe of the fact that a) guys were real, and b) they would actually talk to me :eek:

My method for getting over it was immunity by prolongued exposure... at the end of the day, you have to be self-confident, else you're going to come away from that conversation feeling like an idiot. So talk to lots of the opposite sex, realise it's not that daunting, actually, and that the world won't end if you do end up babbling or saying something stupid. If it helps, try view the ones you fancy as friends - makes things a lot easier. :smile:

Reply 5

Helen_w

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Lidia

I went to an all girls' school for my first 3 years of secondary school... when I moved schools I was in awe of the fact that a) guys were real, and b) they would actually talk to me :eek:

Well, I was in awe of the fact that by the time I was in about year 9, the 6th form was admitting more boys, and for ages my friends and I were like " :eek:

There's BOYS in our school!!!"

Reply 6

LawQueen

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Helen_w

Well, I was in awe of the fact that by the time I was in about year 9, the 6th form was admitting more boys, and for ages my friends and I were like " :eek:

There's BOYS in our school!!!"

yeah I started of in a private Christian school then a Convent school until goin to sixth form and it was such a big shock!

Reply 7

saz_1989

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Boys don't scare me. Not even the ones I fancy. If I don't know them I admire from a distance and perve, if I know them I talk to them more and flirt at suitable opportunities (especially when they're drunk). :biggrin:

It's all about confidence.

Reply 8

graveyarddreams

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yes i'm paranoid all the time, not only in front of people i find attractive... they are after me... *looks around*

Reply 9

cameleon

YES! I get really really paranoid around everyone, especially guys I fancy...I hate it so much! It restricts me in so many ways. I only ever get talking to guys really when Im drunk, and then I make a total idiot of myself. How sad is that? Grrrr...its soooo annoying. I sometimes think the tinyest things people say are aimed at me and I always think negatively. :confused:

I really have got to stop it!

As Richard Ashcroft sings...paranoia, the destroyer.

I'm hoping that when I get to Uni, everything will all turn around.

:redface:

Reply 10

LawQueen

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cameleon

YES! I get really really paranoid around everyone, especially guys I fancy...I hate it so much! It restricts me in so many ways. I only ever get talking to guys really when Im drunk, and then I make a total idiot of myself. How sad is that? Grrrr...its soooo annoying. I sometimes think the tinyest things people say are aimed at me and I always think negatively. :confused:

I really have got to stop it!

As Richard Ashcroft sings...paranoia, the destroyer.

I'm hoping that when I get to Uni, everything will all turn around.

:redface:

Yeah same here-I analyse everything!!! I always think I'm making a total prat out of myself around people in the most teeniest and most silliest ways!

Reply 11

cameleon

ruthiepooos

Yeah same here-I analyse everything!!! I always think I'm making a total prat out of myself around people in the most teeniest and most silliest ways!

Yea, I wish there was some kind of therapy...but I probably wouldn't do it if there was- I'd be thinking 'oh what will they think if I say I do so and so?'!!
The other day I crossed the road just as this guy I knew crossed to the other side and all the way home I was thinking- 'I bet he thinks I dont like him now'. He probably didnt even notice me. Gotta shake this paranoid feeling. ASAP.

Paranoia!!!

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