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    Long story short, took a girl I know on 3 dates, decided to make a move on the final date, she told me she wasnt ready to get into a relationship with me but told me I was a really awesome guy. I asked her if the problem was me, she told me it wasn't and not to take it personally.

    But yeah, still really bugging me.

    Since then I have been ignoring her, we texted each other a bit, and I basically told her not to worry about it, how I wasnt ready for a r/ship either and wanted to keep my options open. Anyway, I told her about a girl I was going to hang out with the next day, she then suggested we hang out with one another. I basically told her that I would love to, but I would probably try and kiss her again. She called me cheeky and was cool with hanging out anyway as its my birthday soon.

    (She seems to be facebook stalking me a bit, like she knows who my friends are on there, when my bday is and all that stuff)

    But yeah, the rejection is still stinging me, lost a bit of confidence due to it. And I am finding it pretty tough to pick myself back up. I am popular, have a lot going for me, and we have had amazing times together, yet despite all of that she rejected my advances. But to protect myself I am ignoring her, cos I know I Am attracted, so if I spend time with her, it would be frustrating if I can't kiss her.
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    Give it another go I reckon. This isn't really rejection... Might be games, or just that she wanted to slow things down. There are much worse ways to get rejected!
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    Friend zoned.
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    I wouldn't say rejected. It feels **** at the time, in a few weeks you will be fine.
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    Man up a little bit.
    The fact that you told her you were interested in another girl will probably drive her crazy, so basically you've won her back anyway.
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    (Original post by Oh my Ms. Coffey)
    Friend zoned.
    Yeah she seems to be very attracted to my lifestyle; the way I do things. Like she calls me inspirational and all this ****. Keeps quizzing me about my friends, career, activities. Probably because I am younger then her, and doing really well for myself atm.

    But either way, if it is friendship she is after, just allow that. It's not about being friends with someone who you are attracted too.

    Still, SO SO disapointed. After I got rejected she was texting me a bit telling me how I was so awesome, and I sent her a cheeky reply "yeah, not awesome enough clearly ". Just kept on telling me not to take it personally.

    Apart of me is thinking her reasons were genuine, but tbh I don't know.

    Since I have been ignoring her, she has been leaving random comments/deleting them about feeling guilty etc.
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    My advice is to act quirky. For example, turn up wearing bowling shoes etc. This will make her realise that a) you’re care free and b) you’re a maverick who says NO to the system.

    A big no-no, in my opinion, is a Sunday roast at a pub. This will often be huge factor because it’s easy to get put off by one another. For example, mint sauce, horseradish etc etc. Take it easy and it will be ok.
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    (Original post by CountMancula)
    My advice is to act quirky. For example, turn up wearing bowling shoes etc. This will make her realise that a) you’re care free and b) you’re a maverick who says NO to the system.

    A big no-no, in my opinion, is a Sunday roast at a pub. This will often be huge factor because it’s easy to get put off by one another. For example, mint sauce, horseradish etc etc. Take it easy and it will be ok.
    Nothing says rebellious maverick badboy quite like bowling shoes..
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    (Original post by Bubbles0ox)
    Man up a little bit.
    The fact that you told her you were interested in another girl will probably drive her crazy, so basically you've won her back anyway.
    Yeah I think it did drive her crazy, cos as soon as I mentioned the other girl, she proposed we meet up. Next day, she left a comment on my status update (in reference to the other girl) basically saying "I am glad you had a great night " Ignored it.

    I actually dont know tbh.

    Do you reckon I should just wait and see what she does for my bday?
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    man up, its women's mind games. they think there not easy all the time :ninja: - adversly it might be true. have another crack.
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    She's not into you and that is ok. Stop ignoring her and find someone else. She probably isn't attracted to you.
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    (Original post by CountMancula)
    My advice is to act quirky. For example, turn up wearing bowling shoes etc. This will make her realise that a) you’re care free and b) you’re a maverick who says NO to the system.

    A big no-no, in my opinion, is a Sunday roast at a pub. This will often be huge factor because it’s easy to get put off by one another. For example, mint sauce, horseradish etc etc. Take it easy and it will be ok.
    I like your style.
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    (Original post by Trigger)
    She's not into you and that is ok. Stop ignoring her and find someone else. She probably isn't attracted to you.
    ...so lead me on? Given she knew I was into her. :rolleyes:

    Well, either way, not chatting to her.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    ...so lead me on? Given she knew I was into her. :rolleyes:

    Well, either way, not chatting to her.
    She probably realised you were a spoilt child with a tendancy to tatrum when he doesnt get his own way...thats the impression im getting from you right now.
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    I thought you were talking about university offers.



    but...
    Dont give in to any stupid mind games shes playing.
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    (Original post by Trigger)
    She probably realised you were a spoilt child with a tendancy to tatrum when he doesnt get his own way...thats the impression im getting from you right now.
    Well when you go out on a date with a girl whose number you got a party, and pay (although I started splitting it) for the second and third, you want to at least get a kiss. Otherwise, what's the point, if I wanted to hang out with my mates, I would call them up.

    Makes sense? No.

    It's not like we were friends, before we started dating.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Yeah I think it did drive her crazy, cos as soon as I mentioned the other girl, she proposed we meet up. Next day, she left a comment on my status update (in reference to the other girl) basically saying "I am glad you had a great night " Ignored it.

    I actually dont know tbh.

    Do you reckon I should just wait and see what she does for my bday?
    Yeah, do what ever feels right.
    At the end of the day, if you're meant to get together you will, if you're not then you wont.
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    Maybe she really just wants to take things slow.
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    (Original post by chocolat321)
    Maybe she really just wants to take things slow.
    yeah i thought that too, but she leaves the country in feb.

    So we dont have the time.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    yeah i thought that too, but she leaves the country in feb.

    So we dont have the time.
    Permanently?
    If so, are you okay with a potential long distance relationship?
 
 
 
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