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    Hello everyone,

    Basically I am 22 and feeling as though I cannot ever be with a guy in life. I am still a virgin and have had relationships with males before. Each of them ended in their sad own ways unfortunately and caused me hurt and pain. Somehow I get on with males in general far better than females and by this I mean that I can talk to them about anything and everything, be relaxed, have good banter, without the hassles, jealousy and *****iness that occur between friendships with girls.

    Currently, I see myself going it alone in life with many friendships, but nothing beyond this as I could never let that happen. I cannot see myself being married, having a family and children, but just pursuing a career in life.

    I'm not bad looking or anything, have a good figure, intelligent with some achievements, talented, funny as described by others because I can make them laugh or have fun with them, and also described by others as a very nice person - kind, generous and sympathetic.

    The reason why I haven't lost my virginity yet is because I haven't met the right person. I do believe in sex before marriage. However, I am against having sex with multiple partners in my lifetime. Therefore, you could say I am willing to have sex with one person only because I do not want him to feel obliged to be 'trapped or forced into getting married early' for the sake of it. I have no regrets having not done it with any of the people I have had relations with in the past. I would be far more hurt and damaged with regret if I have proceeded ahead. Another reason I am put off with relationships currently is because everytime I do encounter a male, it has turned out that they were 'working their way to get into me'. This has made me put off men.

    My question is, is there something wrong with me? Have I just not met the right person yet? Do I have underlying issues or something? :confused:

    No sounds like you are doing everything right - doing what you wwant to do and not focusing on trivial things. You seem to be willing if you meet the right man, but truthfully a man is not going to meet you and love you for your with, charm and personality. He is going to like you for you looks and sex skills. The other stuff comes after.

    I think the guy you are looking for died with Jane Austen.
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