My friend and her ex were dating for seven months; he was deeeeeeeeply in love with her, she liked him but not as much. Then come the 6th month and she's not feeling right in the relationship so she talks to me about it. We discuss everything in detail and SHE decides to break up, not me forcing the idea upon her. Now, this love-struck teenager couldn't handle it so he begged all his friends to talk to her, for her to forgive him and take him back. The problem is - asides that he annoys her and never listens - she just doesn't feel any love for him: something which she can't change.
Now, since EVERYONE is talking to her, she's confused and doesn't know what to do so she turns to me for help and I tell her to do exactly what she wants, and not others. She finally decides to officially end the relationship and he STILL won't accept it, which annoys her as it's not particularly appealing to be constantly begged at. To make matters worse he tells everyone about the situation (including those who hate my friend) and he makes her out to be a bad person.
This worsens their relationship. But he knows that she's sensitive and manipulates this: he makes her feel sorry for him so he cried in front of her whilst reading a soppy letter which was in a childlike handwriting. He did this by purpose because I've seen his handwriting and it's neat.
Anyway, she felt sorry for him and starting talking to him again. Plan worked. They got talking, he gave her his ring and she gave him his and told one another that they love each other. This guy is a total tw*t, he doesn't care about her feelings, just his. He's manipulated her, lied to her and never listens to her. I'm just angry that she fell for this.
tl;dr My friend broke up with her boyfriend after dating for 7 months. He's a ****, made her feel like ****. Now he manipulated her and she fell for him again. Me AND a friend know exactly what will be the outcome, but she realllllyyy likes him.
My question: Do I tell her exactly how I feel (knowing that she really likes him, and might end up being angry at me) or do I let her go through with it?
I have no idea what to do! Help! Watch
- Thread Starter
- 04-12-2010 01:26
- 04-12-2010 01:40
I suggest you let them get on with it.
Leave her with her business, if she comes to you for advice then by all means give it to her and tell her what you think, but if she doesnt, it isn't your place to intrude.
- 04-12-2010 01:59
Yep it's not really your call to do anything in this situation. She has fallen for his manipulative ways, but that's her problem. Instead of convincing her to change her mind, maybe advise her to talk to him about his behaviour? As you say, she really does like him.
- Thread Starter
- 04-12-2010 12:07