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    As the title says, my mum will always pester me with text, calls and the likes when i go to visit my dad and will generally get quite arsey with me when she does ring me.

    They're divorced and have both had kids of their own with other partners, leaving myself and my other sibling in the middle of this ****.
    I think she's paranoid that my dad'll try and steal me away (even though i'm 19 and don't live with either of them, my related sibling is still stuck with my mum), it really pisses me off considering my dad never makes horrible remarks towards her like she does towards him when i'm around.

    I really don't know how to deal with it, i would consider just disowning her altogether and cutting all contact with her (like she forced me do with my dad for 3 years). I was going to go back to my mum's for Christmas but after today where she got on my back over the phone for not answering her calls while i was visiting my dad, i'm really just reconsidering it.

    Any suggestions on how i should go about dealing with this?
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    Ask her straight why she's so paranoid, and tell her you don't think *****ing about your dad is a good thing.

    However, don't use accusatory words, i.e. "paranoid" and "*****ing", because then she will feel like she's under a personal attack and lash out at you which will not solve the problem. Think of something neutral (or nice) to say that will get the point across. Unfortunately I can't think of anything at the moment, hence my response.

    Or stop telling her when you are visiting your dad. But this will not solve the problem in the long run.
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    How long ago did they divorce? Maybe she's still hurt by it or something...

    I know how you feel though, my dad does this to me about my mum all the time.
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    (Original post by alissasantiago)
    How long ago did they divorce? Maybe she's still hurt by it or something...
    9 years ago, but that didn't stop her having a kid with a total **** who then left her afterwards

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    Or stop telling her when you are visiting your dad. But this will not solve the problem in the long run.
    I would but relatives who i'm staying with at the moment tell her everything i do (her side of the family, not my dad's).
 
 
 
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