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    Keep anon or delete as I know people on here.

    It's been a while but I've finally established a circle of friends at uni (me and three other people). However, do I bother getting to know more people? If I do I risk bringing people I don't quite know into my circle and they could turn out to be horrible to me and nice to my friends (I've had this situation exist at school).

    Also is it worth investing time getting to know more people, when you can't make the time to socialise between different circles of friends?
    I don't want to have loads of friends where I am not close to them and after I graduate, I never have contact with them becuase I was never that close.

    Finally, the dilemma is that by not knowing enough people (as I only stick to the three other friends), I don't know many girls and so it is gonna be hard to get introduced to women through friends. This is where having the benefit of a hundred fake friends comes in.

    What do you think I should do? Also what do you do?
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    op stop thinking about this stuff and let it all happen naturally and it will
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    What do you think I should do? Also what do you do?
    I think you should stick to the circle of friends you have or you might risk losing them. You can still meet women, you don't need fake friends.
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    (Original post by Broderss)
    op stop thinking about this stuff and let it all happen naturally and it will
    Not really. I literally didn't have any friends in the first 4 weeks of uni. It wasn't until I realised things won't be handed to me on a plate that I started to try hard and get involved in societies, meet more coursemates, get introduced more. That's when I established my circle.
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    Of course you should make new friends! Uni is all about making friends and networking with groups of people you perhaps wouldn't normally have the chance to meet.

    I hang around with three people all the time, but then I also have loads of other people who are close friends.
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    (Original post by Gemma :)!)
    Of course you should make new friends! Uni is all about making friends and networking with groups of people you perhaps wouldn't normally have the chance to meet.

    I hang around with three people all the time, but then I also have loads of other people who are close friends.
    How did you meet so many friends then? Weren't you worried about nasty people entering your circle or anything. Also how close are they?
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    How did you meet so many friends then? Weren't you worried about nasty people entering your circle or anything. Also how close are they?
    Just from talking to people on my course and in my classes! Oh and a few who lived in my halls during first year. I was never worried, they're all lovely! It's just like anything really, I have some close friends, I have others who are just acquaintences..
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    Did everyone else get a warning from this? :rolleyes: I love that even though I was the first person to post the facepalm, I still got a warning that said I was spamming. Sigh.

    Anyway, OP, friends are always good, but you really shouldn't think too much about it. If you're happy with the friends you've got, don't stress about making new ones. If you happen to start getting along with other people too, don't stress about that either.
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    This is how you lose friends...by concentrating too much on quantity and not quality. Life is about flowing...just be normally friendly with others...you don't have to go 'fishing' for more friends if you're not totally alone.

    You don't have to bring everyone you meet into your circle. They don't need your friends' approval. Just go about your business and be friendly to those who deserve it. What will be, will be...
 
 
 
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