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    hey everybody! would appreciate some honest advice on this one:

    I'm in a long term relationship with a guy (almost 4 years now)
    My boyfriend w*nks over girls that we both know...
    Porn isn't great, and he's into that too (obviously!), but I'm far less uncomfortable with him doing that because its people that he doesn't have a personal relationship with: it's just physical attraction. But doing it over our friends makes me uncomfortable, because they're people he and I interact with on a regular basis.

    Girls, would you find this a problem if your man did this?
    Guys, do you/would you do this?

    If it is just me being uptight, any advice on how to deal with it? I don't want to loose him over this, but i also don't want this to fester and become an issue between us.

    thanks in advance for any help
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    when you say over ... does he imagine in head? pics?
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    That's weird... I wrote a really long reply explaining why I thought this was weird, but to be honest it slightly speaks for itself.
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    How do you know he ****s over them and as vee8 said, pics or imagination?
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    Loads of guys do it. He's just being honest about it. And to be honest, it's not really something you can stop. It's not as unusual as you might think. And anyway, you can't stop him having those sexual urges. Prohibiting him from masturbating over them will not stop him finding them highly sexually attractive.

    It doesn't mean your relationship is in anyway threatened though. Guys just need a release, and they do it over whatever is gonna be best for that purpose. I appreciate it might not be a nice thought for you, but it shouldn't cause you concern either.
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    Kelly from Misfits, is that you?
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    WhyTF did he tell you this lol.
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    hope he wipes it off afterwards
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    lol that would really bother me. Fair enough he does it but why feel the need to tell you?!
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    big deal, men are like tigers they cannot be tamed honey get over it
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    If it really concerns you, just talk to him about it. If you're being going out for 4 years, he'll listen to you. And NO, I wouldn't do that, but that's just me...:ssaw:
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    Wow, that would bother me an insane amount. Honestly, do something about it.
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    To be honest yep I would be concerned about this, I dont have an issue with my boyfriend watching porn but if he masterbated over my friends Id have to probably leave him!
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    Personally, that'd bother me I think. I have zero problems with my boyfriend ****ing over porn - it's totally normal and if he said he didn't I'd laugh at him and tell him he doesn't have to lie! Doesn't get to me in the slightest, nor would it with any celebrities. But if he was ****ing over one of our friends/girls we know in real life? I wouldn't feel comfortable with that at all.

    Edit: Whoever negged me for this mind saying why? I never said I'd break up with him, just it isn't a very nice thought is it?
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    I think it's weird that he told you. It's one of those things that's really best left unsaid.
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    How do you know he masturbates over friends? Because I think its rather strange that he would have a **** and then tell you that he did it over friends.
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    He's a freak.
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    give him my regards. he knows how to handle his woman
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    (Original post by Psyk)
    I think it's weird that he told you. It's one of those things that's really best left unsaid.
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    He wan.ks over your friends? What does
    He just go up up to them when they are sitting down and just jizz on their hair?
 
 
 
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