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    I started at uni this year and want to come out about being gay. I'm tempted to spill it into conversation somehow, I'm just worried about people's reactions. I'm incredibly straight acting and I'm pretty sure nobody has a clue.

    In a class today, one person on my table asked if I had a girlfriend. I was tempted to just tell her that, no, I have a boyfriend, but I chickened out. How do you think she, and the rest of my course mates on the table, would have reacted? Would it have been really awkward?
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    That's generally how I let people at uni know I'm gay (except I have a girlfriend). No one has an issue with it. People are (generally) mature enough at uni not to care. I assume you do have a boyfriend? If not, I wouldn't lie; because people will probably interested in your relationship once you say that. It shouldn't be particularly awkward. Good luck
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    That's generally how I let people at uni know I'm gay (except I have a girlfriend). No one has an issue with it. People are (generally) mature enough at uni not to care. I assume you do have a boyfriend? If not, I wouldn't lie; because people will probably interested in your relationship once you say that. It shouldn't be particularly awkward. Good luck
    Lol, yes, I wouldn't lie about it! Thanks for sharing your experience. I'm just paranoid I'd say it and then the whole table would sit there in shock/silence and it would be really weird/awkward. I don't want it to make people act awkward around me or discuss it behind my back, although I expect that it won't take long to spread.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I started at uni this year and want to come out about being gay. I'm tempted to spill it into conversation somehow, I'm just worried about people's reactions. I'm incredibly straight acting and I'm pretty sure nobody has a clue.

    In a class today, one person on my table asked if I had a girlfriend. I was tempted to just tell her that, no, I have a boyfriend, but I chickened out. How do you think she, and the rest of my course mates on the table, would have reacted? Would it have been really awkward?
    I'd not even drop it into conversation. Just be yourself, if something came up where you could say about your sexuality then do it, but until then, i wouldn't make it into this "big thing". Just in general stuff like looking at the cute/hot guys on nights out and making a comment about them should get people realising you're gay.

    I've only told 3 people directly, the rest of my friends have either come and asked (and got told the truth) or have found out when i've been ogling the totty in the clubs
 
 
 
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