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Anon please.
Basically, I've been going out with this girl for a few weeks and we finally had sex for the first time yesterday. It went really well. However, I was not able to orgasm. She had to go back to work, so we left it at that. (We had sex for about an hour.)
I was actually a bit bummed out by my inability to orgasm. It has happened two or three times before but it was with my ex-girlfriend of 3 years and I was wearing condoms. It never happened during the first time with a new partner, and when I was condomless.
So girls, would you find it weird if you were having sex with a guy for the first time and he couldn't orgasm?
If it is relevant at all, I don't drink alcohol that much. Although I did have a few sips of wine yesterday before we did it.
Basically, I've been going out with this girl for a few weeks and we finally had sex for the first time yesterday. It went really well. However, I was not able to orgasm. She had to go back to work, so we left it at that. (We had sex for about an hour.)
I was actually a bit bummed out by my inability to orgasm. It has happened two or three times before but it was with my ex-girlfriend of 3 years and I was wearing condoms. It never happened during the first time with a new partner, and when I was condomless.
So girls, would you find it weird if you were having sex with a guy for the first time and he couldn't orgasm?
If it is relevant at all, I don't drink alcohol that much. Although I did have a few sips of wine yesterday before we did it.
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I wouldn't find it THAT weird. But an hour of sex? Like penetrative sex for an hour? That would kill me.
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#3
mmm I'm confused, seeing as you were condomless, was she on the pill? if not, WHY THE HELL ARE YOU WANTING TO *** INSIDE HER?
besides that, you were probably nervous and the longer you go at it, the harder it is to ***
and it's different from ****ing so your body needs to adjust
besides that, you were probably nervous and the longer you go at it, the harder it is to ***
and it's different from ****ing so your body needs to adjust
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#4
Ummm...its a bit strange but I'd probably put it down to nerves - it's no big deal, I'm sure she won't be bothered.
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(Original post by linkdapink)
I wouldn't find it THAT weird. But an hour of sex? Like penetrative sex for an hour? That would kill me.
I wouldn't find it THAT weird. But an hour of sex? Like penetrative sex for an hour? That would kill me.
3 minutes is more than enough, as I always say.
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#6
I think that it is ok. Why do you expect that everything works right at the first time?
I am quite tolerant and always expect the first time with a new partner being a catastrophe. So it just could be better than i expected it to be.
I am quite tolerant and always expect the first time with a new partner being a catastrophe. So it just could be better than i expected it to be.
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#7
Explain to her that it's not her fault and it's happened before. A guy I was with took aaages to come, if he managed to at all, and I felt like it was something I was doing wrong. We both ended up getting really frustrated (not to mention sore!) which just made it even worse.
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(Original post by Aphasia)
Explain to her that it's not her fault and it's happened before. A guy I was with took aaages to come, if he managed to at all, and I felt like it was something I was doing wrong. We both ended up getting really frustrated (not to mention sore!) which just made it even worse.
Explain to her that it's not her fault and it's happened before. A guy I was with took aaages to come, if he managed to at all, and I felt like it was something I was doing wrong. We both ended up getting really frustrated (not to mention sore!) which just made it even worse.
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A guy that doesn't come is better than a guy who comes too quickly!
However, if you do go on for ages it can get monotonous & very sore so you should experiment sexually to find your equilibrium
However, if you do go on for ages it can get monotonous & very sore so you should experiment sexually to find your equilibrium
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Anon please.
Basically, I've been going out with this girl for a few weeks and we finally had sex for the first time yesterday. It went really well. However, I was not able to orgasm. She had to go back to work, so we left it at that. (We had sex for about an hour.)
I was actually a bit bummed out by my inability to orgasm. It has happened two or three times before but it was with my ex-girlfriend of 3 years and I was wearing condoms. It never happened during the first time with a new partner, and when I was condomless.
So girls, would you find it weird if you were having sex with a guy for the first time and he couldn't orgasm?
If it is relevant at all, I don't drink alcohol that much. Although I did have a few sips of wine yesterday before we did it.
Anon please.
Basically, I've been going out with this girl for a few weeks and we finally had sex for the first time yesterday. It went really well. However, I was not able to orgasm. She had to go back to work, so we left it at that. (We had sex for about an hour.)
I was actually a bit bummed out by my inability to orgasm. It has happened two or three times before but it was with my ex-girlfriend of 3 years and I was wearing condoms. It never happened during the first time with a new partner, and when I was condomless.
So girls, would you find it weird if you were having sex with a guy for the first time and he couldn't orgasm?
If it is relevant at all, I don't drink alcohol that much. Although I did have a few sips of wine yesterday before we did it.
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I've never experienced it before, so I'd be surprised yes, and a bit worried he wasn't turned on enough by me. Of course I know it can be due to several things, but if it happened to me, I'll be completely honest, wouldn't be too pleased.
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#15
Wouldn't bother me, I'd just think he was nervous. As long as a good time was had all round 
In fact I'm not sure the last guy I slept with actually did. Hahaha. And he appears to have taken the condom with him, which is a bit weird...
In fact I'm not sure the last guy I slept with actually did. Hahaha. And he appears to have taken the condom with him, which is a bit weird...
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I've had sex twice in the past few months without coming! Including the first time with my most recent partner, which worried her at first. I can last an hour easily and often have to concentrate hard to come, even with great sex and a super-hot girl.
I think it's strange for some girls of uni age to have sex with a guy who has serious stamina, as before that they have been with inexperienced guys who lack stamina.
Thickness of condom does make a huge difference though. I prefer to wear a super-safe one and knuckle down for a lengthy session personally!
I think it's strange for some girls of uni age to have sex with a guy who has serious stamina, as before that they have been with inexperienced guys who lack stamina.
Thickness of condom does make a huge difference though. I prefer to wear a super-safe one and knuckle down for a lengthy session personally!
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(Original post by Vohamanah)
Wouldn't bother me, I'd just think he was nervous. As long as a good time was had all round
In fact I'm not sure the last guy I slept with actually did. Hahaha. And he appears to have taken the condom with him, which is a bit weird...
Wouldn't bother me, I'd just think he was nervous. As long as a good time was had all round
In fact I'm not sure the last guy I slept with actually did. Hahaha. And he appears to have taken the condom with him, which is a bit weird...
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(Original post by Anonymous)
Anon please.
Basically, I've been going out with this girl for a few weeks and we finally had sex for the first time yesterday. It went really well. However, I was not able to orgasm. She had to go back to work, so we left it at that. (We had sex for about an hour.)
I was actually a bit bummed out by my inability to orgasm. It has happened two or three times before but it was with my ex-girlfriend of 3 years and I was wearing condoms. It never happened during the first time with a new partner, and when I was condomless.
So girls, would you find it weird if you were having sex with a guy for the first time and he couldn't orgasm?
If it is relevant at all, I don't drink alcohol that much. Although I did have a few sips of wine yesterday before we did it.
Anon please.
Basically, I've been going out with this girl for a few weeks and we finally had sex for the first time yesterday. It went really well. However, I was not able to orgasm. She had to go back to work, so we left it at that. (We had sex for about an hour.)
I was actually a bit bummed out by my inability to orgasm. It has happened two or three times before but it was with my ex-girlfriend of 3 years and I was wearing condoms. It never happened during the first time with a new partner, and when I was condomless.
So girls, would you find it weird if you were having sex with a guy for the first time and he couldn't orgasm?
If it is relevant at all, I don't drink alcohol that much. Although I did have a few sips of wine yesterday before we did it.
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(Original post by greenboy)
I've had sex twice in the past few months without coming! Including the first time with my most recent partner, which worried her at first. I can last an hour easily and often have to concentrate hard to come, even with great sex and a super-hot girl.
I think it's strange for some girls of uni age to have sex with a guy who has serious stamina, as before that they have been with inexperienced guys who lack stamina.
Thickness of condom does make a huge difference though. I prefer to wear a super-safe one and knuckle down for a lengthy session personally!
I've had sex twice in the past few months without coming! Including the first time with my most recent partner, which worried her at first. I can last an hour easily and often have to concentrate hard to come, even with great sex and a super-hot girl.
I think it's strange for some girls of uni age to have sex with a guy who has serious stamina, as before that they have been with inexperienced guys who lack stamina.
Thickness of condom does make a huge difference though. I prefer to wear a super-safe one and knuckle down for a lengthy session personally!
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#20
(Original post by Tyrannosaurus Cal)
My kind of woman!
3 minutes is more than enough, as I always say.
My kind of woman!
3 minutes is more than enough, as I always say.
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