Girls, if a guy couldn't orgasm....

Anon please.

Basically, I've been going out with this girl for a few weeks and we finally had sex for the first time yesterday. It went really well. However, I was not able to orgasm. She had to go back to work, so we left it at that. (We had sex for about an hour.)

I was actually a bit bummed out by my inability to orgasm. It has happened two or three times before but it was with my ex-girlfriend of 3 years and I was wearing condoms. It never happened during the first time with a new partner, and when I was condomless.

So girls, would you find it weird if you were having sex with a guy for the first time and he couldn't orgasm?

If it is relevant at all, I don't drink alcohol that much. Although I did have a few sips of wine yesterday before we did it.

Reply 1

linkdapink

15

I wouldn't find it THAT weird. But an hour of sex? Like penetrative sex for an hour? That would kill me.

Reply 2

aws

mmm I'm confused, seeing as you were condomless, was she on the pill? if not, WHY THE HELL ARE YOU WANTING TO CUM INSIDE HER?

besides that, you were probably nervous and the longer you go at it, the harder it is to cum

and it's different from ****ing so your body needs to adjust

Reply 3

DiZZeeKiD

16

Ummm...its a bit strange but I'd probably put it down to nerves - it's no big deal, I'm sure she won't be bothered.

Reply 4

Tyrannosaurus Cal

15

Original post by linkdapink

I wouldn't find it THAT weird. But an hour of sex? Like penetrative sex for an hour? That would kill me.

My kind of woman!

3 minutes is more than enough, as I always say.

Reply 5

Cynthi007

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I think that it is ok. Why do you expect that everything works right at the first time?

I am quite tolerant and always expect the first time with a new partner being a catastrophe. So it just could be better than i expected it to be. :smile:

Reply 6

Aphasia

Explain to her that it's not her fault and it's happened before. A guy I was with took aaages to come, if he managed to at all, and I felt like it was something I was doing wrong. We both ended up getting really frustrated (not to mention sore!) which just made it even worse.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

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Original post by Aphasia

Explain to her that it's not her fault and it's happened before. A guy I was with took aaages to come, if he managed to at all, and I felt like it was something I was doing wrong. We both ended up getting really frustrated (not to mention sore!) which just made it even worse.

Hmm yes I guess you're right. I'll explain it to her, but only if it happens again with her.

Reply 8

Anonymous #2

A guy that doesn't come is better than a guy who comes too quickly!
However, if you do go on for ages it can get monotonous & very sore so you should experiment sexually to find your equilibrium

Reply 9

thelittleredfox

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Original post by Anonymous

Anon please.

Basically, I've been going out with this girl for a few weeks and we finally had sex for the first time yesterday. It went really well. However, I was not able to orgasm. She had to go back to work, so we left it at that. (We had sex for about an hour.)

I was actually a bit bummed out by my inability to orgasm. It has happened two or three times before but it was with my ex-girlfriend of 3 years and I was wearing condoms. It never happened during the first time with a new partner, and when I was condomless.

So girls, would you find it weird if you were having sex with a guy for the first time and he couldn't orgasm?

If it is relevant at all, I don't drink alcohol that much. Although I did have a few sips of wine yesterday before we did it.

No, I'd just think you were nervous because I know it can happen, and I'd think it would happen for you, with me, in time. Plus better that way than a guy who orgasms far too quickly, with a guy who can't at least I can orgasm at my leisure :tongue:

Reply 10

StephenP91

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This thread looks awfully familiar to one posted recently.

Reply 11

calannra

1

usually it is the other way around :tongue:

Reply 12

OrangeSocks

Most guys have that happen to them every so often so I wouldn't find it weird.

Reply 13

*Lollo*

8

I've never experienced it before, so I'd be surprised yes, and a bit worried he wasn't turned on enough by me. Of course I know it can be due to several things, but if it happened to me, I'll be completely honest, wouldn't be too pleased.

Reply 14

Vohamanah

16

Wouldn't bother me, I'd just think he was nervous. As long as a good time was had all round :wink:

In fact I'm not sure the last guy I slept with actually did. Hahaha. And he appears to have taken the condom with him, which is a bit weird...

Reply 15

greenboy

I've had sex twice in the past few months without coming! Including the first time with my most recent partner, which worried her at first. I can last an hour easily and often have to concentrate hard to come, even with great sex and a super-hot girl.

I think it's strange for some girls of uni age to have sex with a guy who has serious stamina, as before that they have been with inexperienced guys who lack stamina.

Thickness of condom does make a huge difference though. I prefer to wear a super-safe one and knuckle down for a lengthy session personally!

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

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Original post by Vohamanah

Wouldn't bother me, I'd just think he was nervous. As long as a good time was had all round :wink:

In fact I'm not sure the last guy I slept with actually did. Hahaha. And he appears to have taken the condom with him, which is a bit weird...

Yeah we actually had a great time trying out different positions etc. However, it did get a little awkward towards the end when I wasn't orgasming and she had to leave. So I'm hoping she will forget the slight awkwardness at the end and only remember the fun prior to it.

Reply 17

naomidawn

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Original post by Anonymous

Anon please.

Basically, I've been going out with this girl for a few weeks and we finally had sex for the first time yesterday. It went really well. However, I was not able to orgasm. She had to go back to work, so we left it at that. (We had sex for about an hour.)

I was actually a bit bummed out by my inability to orgasm. It has happened two or three times before but it was with my ex-girlfriend of 3 years and I was wearing condoms. It never happened during the first time with a new partner, and when I was condomless.

So girls, would you find it weird if you were having sex with a guy for the first time and he couldn't orgasm?

If it is relevant at all, I don't drink alcohol that much. Although I did have a few sips of wine yesterday before we did it.

It's only ever happened when we'd had sex shortly before we had sex again - and I still felt really really inadequate

Reply 18

Anonymous #1

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Original post by greenboy

I've had sex twice in the past few months without coming! Including the first time with my most recent partner, which worried her at first. I can last an hour easily and often have to concentrate hard to come, even with great sex and a super-hot girl.

I think it's strange for some girls of uni age to have sex with a guy who has serious stamina, as before that they have been with inexperienced guys who lack stamina.

Thickness of condom does make a huge difference though. I prefer to wear a super-safe one and knuckle down for a lengthy session personally!

Usually I don't last that long, esp not without condoms. So yesterday was a surprise. Due to nerves? I don't know. But yeah I was having to concentrate hard to come towards the end but I guess I just ran out of time! :s-smilie: