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    All I want, is to fall in love and get married. Make a life with my husband and do things together; build a home, travel - see the world, and eventually grow old together. I don't want to do that alone, all I want is to love someone SO much, and have them love me back in the same way.

    I've always had the Romeo and Juliet slash Jack and Rose outlook on life. Romantic movies were the essence of my teenage years and it seems to have had a devastating impact on my adult life.

    Why though? Have I been conditioned through fairy tales like The Notebook, to want the picket fence life? Is it realistic? Is it harmful to want something like this so much? Does it really happen, and if so, who does it happen to?

    Just thought I'd ask for some perspectives on other people's hopes for the future and whether or not you've always wanted something throughout childhood and still do into early adulthood?

    What do you want for your future?
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    because you have the v-jay-jay

    I have the magic stick so I want a victoria secrets model who is faithful, always horny, wants sex and let's me treat her like a pornstar,
    invites her equally hot girlfriends over for sexy-times, doesn't want me to tell her about my day and life in exquisite detail

    but alas, one has to face reality.
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    (Original post by Ilora-Danon)
    All I want, is to fall in love and get married. Make a life with my husband and do things together; build a home, travel - see the world, and eventually grow old together. I don't want to do that alone, all I want is to love someone SO much, and have them love me back in the same way.

    I've always had the Romeo and Juliet slash Jack and Rose outlook on life. Romantic movies were the essence of my teenage years and it seems to have had a devastating impact on my adult life.

    Why though? Have I been conditioned through fairy tales like The Notebook, to want the picket fence life? Is it realistic? Is it harmful to want something like this so much? Does it really happen, and if so, who does it happen to?

    Just thought I'd ask for some perspectives on other people's hopes for the future and whether or not you've always wanted something throughout childhood and still do into early adulthood?

    What do you want for your future?
    I've never wanted to get married, I just don't think I could handle the commitment. Well for now anyway. Often it's hard to differentiate between those kind of films and life. You're more likely to get hurt if you're set on having a fairy tale marriage as they're highly unrealistic. In my opinion it's easier just to live day to day, the furthest in the future I'll be thinking about is Uni. Nothing more.
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      (Original post by Ilora-Danon)
      All I want, is to fall in love and get married. Make a life with my husband and do things together; build a home, travel - see the world, and eventually grow old together. I don't want to do that alone, all I want is to love someone SO much, and have them love me back in the same way.

      I've always had the Romeo and Juliet slash Jack and Rose outlook on life. Romantic movies were the essence of my teenage years and it seems to have had a devastating impact on my adult life.

      Why though? Have I been conditioned through fairy tales like The Notebook, to want the picket fence life? Is it realistic? Is it harmful to want something like this so much? Does it really happen, and if so, who does it happen to?

      Just thought I'd ask for some perspectives on other people's hopes for the future and whether or not you've always wanted something throughout childhood and still do into early adulthood?

      What do you want for your future?
      What I want is very similar to what you want. I've never had anyone to love like that, but I want to love, I have a lot of love I can give.

      So I, too, want to get married, have children, and grow ancient with the one I love.

      But I haven't been into the romantic films or books, I think I've probably been conditioned by the feelings I've felt over time, as they've built up.
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      I actually hate all romantic films, because they've made me want so much much than I think is ever possible from any relationship!
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      (Original post by Ilora-Danon)
      All I want, is to fall in love and get married. Make a life with my husband and do things together; build a home, travel - see the world, and eventually grow old together. I don't want to do that alone, all I want is to love someone SO much, and have them love me back in the same way.

      I've always had the Romeo and Juliet slash Jack and Rose outlook on life. Romantic movies were the essence of my teenage years and it seems to have had a devastating impact on my adult life.

      Why though? Have I been conditioned through fairy tales like The Notebook, to want the picket fence life? Is it realistic? Is it harmful to want something like this so much? Does it really happen, and if so, who does it happen to?

      Just thought I'd ask for some perspectives on other people's hopes for the future and whether or not you've always wanted something throughout childhood and still do into early adulthood?

      What do you want for your future?
      :dontknow: Regarding conditioning into fairy stories, I don't know. I've never seen the Notebook and didn't watch fairytales as I grew up. I read them, but they bored me so I read science books.

      I don't want marriage. To be honest, I'd be happy with a job and nice apartment. Through childhood, the only thing I've wanted is to not live in a dump.

      But it's subjective. People will want different things. Whether the movie vision is realistic is questionnable. I don't believe in it, but if you do you probably shouldn't give up hope
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      I grew up reading romantic books and watching similar films. But past relationships and being hurt has taught me that life is harsh and imo, 'fairytales' are hard to find.

      But it does happen to lots of people; lots of people have that happiness, and I do hope it happens to me too in the near future I'm a very academic person who is career focused, but if I never get married or have children then I will be very disappointed with life. I can't explain this need for love and marriage, I just have it. Now I just have to wait!

      So yes, I can understand where you're coming from. I don't think it all stems from 'conditioning,' just that some people just have that urge.
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      My future, enjoy life bit of travelling, no rush to get married or any of that.
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      I think it's normal to have a rosy view of love and to an extent to want the fairytale ending. While I would agree that I would very much like to fall in love and have a great relationship, I'm far too cynical to believe that I will get the ideal happy ending. In short my personal view is that I don't believe that any one person, no matter how much you love them, is all that you need in life. Like I said I'm pretty cynical but if you had asked me four years or so ago what I wanted for my future I would probably have described a blissful marriage. My life experience, particularly my parents' impending divorce, has changed my view. I now don't really believe in marriage but I fully acknowledge that my viewpoint has come about because of my recent experiences therefore it may just be a temporary knee-jerk reaction so to speak.

      Reading this back I realise how jaded it all sounds but I'm independent and honestly the thought of being married and spending all my time with one person makes me feel claustrophobic. I guess what I want is to fall in love but not have it become my life if you see what I mean, though perhaps this is the most unrealistic thing I've mentioned. I know so many people who have met someone then become completely absorbed in their relationship. I'd hate to be one of those people. Obviously I realise much of the above rant might change if I met someone I really loved but hey time will tell I guess.
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      As long as you're grounded and sensible it is possible, but not exactly like that. Anyone you spend so much time with you will take for granted to a certain extent. The problem is most girls go for guys (tossers) that they know wouldn't make such a commitment, and work very hard to convince themselves otherwise.
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      Hah, I know how you feel. I do want to get married, have children and grow old with my partner- but I'm not religious and my mother raised me without the subject of marriage coming up except when she jokingly said she'd disown me if I ever got married.

      At least, I hope she was joking.

      I want a house with a garden, white picket fence optional. I want a husband, some kids, a horde of chickens, a cat or two, baking on Saturday and walks in the park on Sunday. I've put quite a lot of thought into it, particularly the getting married part. If I do marry my partner there will be: no religious references; none of this walking down the aisle nonsense; no fuss, and, of course, no ridiculous expenses. If it weren't for the fact that I'm quite attracted to the thought of making a public vow to each other, I'd just change my name by deed poll after we'd lived together for a couple of years. The most important part to me is having the same surname as him. His surname just happens to be much prettier than mine.

      I always ramble when I think about the future. But, yeah, that's what I want. It's sometimes difficult to reconcile that with the cynical parts of my personality. I grew up without many friends- in fact, I don't have many now- and never thought I'd get into a steady relationship. Before I got into a relationship I thought marriage wasn't for me, to be honest. Too traditional, too expensive. But now I'd ideally like to be married to my partner before the age of about 26 or 27.

      The danger is that if it doesn't work out like how I've envisaged, I'm going to be devastated.

      Falling in love has done wonders for my cynicism. Or not, if you're a fan of cynicism.

      edit: oh, and I'm lucky enough to have a partner who doesn't freak out when I mention these things. Our timeframes, thankfully, are roughly similar.
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      (Original post by Ilora-Danon)
      All I want, is to fall in love and get married. Make a life with my husband and do things together; build a home, travel - see the world, and eventually grow old together. I don't want to do that alone, all I want is to love someone SO much, and have them love me back in the same way.

      I've always had the Romeo and Juliet slash Jack and Rose outlook on life. Romantic movies were the essence of my teenage years and it seems to have had a devastating impact on my adult life.

      Why though? Have I been conditioned through fairy tales like The Notebook, to want the picket fence life? Is it realistic? Is it harmful to want something like this so much? Does it really happen, and if so, who does it happen to?

      Just thought I'd ask for some perspectives on other people's hopes for the future and whether or not you've always wanted something throughout childhood and still do into early adulthood?

      What do you want for your future?
      re-quoted as I had something new to say.

      "Romantic Movies are like Porn for girls. Seriously it's on camera for a reason, the guys are getting PAID to do all that ****"

      and you moan about us wanting anal?
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      (Original post by Ilora-Danon)
      All I want, is to fall in love and get married. Make a life with my husband and do things together; build a home, travel - see the world, and eventually grow old together. I don't want to do that alone, all I want is to love someone SO much, and have them love me back in the same way.

      I've always had the Romeo and Juliet slash Jack and Rose outlook on life. Romantic movies were the essence of my teenage years and it seems to have had a devastating impact on my adult life.

      Why though? Have I been conditioned through fairy tales like The Notebook, to want the picket fence life? Is it realistic? Is it harmful to want something like this so much? Does it really happen, and if so, who does it happen to?

      Just thought I'd ask for some perspectives on other people's hopes for the future and whether or not you've always wanted something throughout childhood and still do into early adulthood?

      What do you want for your future?
      its possible. but most couples hits reality because rom films set the standard up really high that neither husband and wife can aim for
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      Yeah I think a lot of people want those things, especially as it's so ingrained into social norm. At the same time though I think it's best not to let things like that consume you, otherwise you'll seem desperate and consistently unhappy. Live each day and see what happens.
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      I want to get married, preferably young. I don't think there's anything abnormal about it.
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      See, I fell in love and it was the best feeling in the world. I honestly thought I'd spend the rest of my life with him and I fantasized about our wedding - we talked about our wedding in a very flippant way, but deep down, I wasn't joking, I was deadly serious.

      Anyway, we 'didn't work out' and now I'm questioning, whether it's an age thing. My ex was 3 years younger than me, extremely involved in his career (in fact, take away his career and there's nothing to him) and the commitment was too much for him, apparently.

      So, at 24 and single I think I'm beginning to feel like a bit of a Bridget Jones type character. Even a psychic came up to me and told me I'd 'struggle to settle down'!

      People talk a lot about cynicism, but I can't seem to be cynical about love. I've been broken hearted and very nearly ended my life over it, but having come out the other end alive, I want to jump right in and do it again - wiser people I'm sure would be a lot more guarded?
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      I read about one divorced guy who said that if he ever thought about getting married again he'd just find a woman he didn't like and buy her a house instead.
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      (Original post by Ilora-Danon)
      All I want, is to fall in love and get married. Make a life with my husband and do things together; build a home, travel - see the world, and eventually grow old together. I don't want to do that alone, all I want is to love someone SO much, and have them love me back in the same way.

      I've always had the Romeo and Juliet slash Jack and Rose outlook on life. Romantic movies were the essence of my teenage years and it seems to have had a devastating impact on my adult life.

      Why though? Have I been conditioned through fairy tales like The Notebook, to want the picket fence life? Is it realistic? Is it harmful to want something like this so much? Does it really happen, and if so, who does it happen to?

      Just thought I'd ask for some perspectives on other people's hopes for the future and whether or not you've always wanted something throughout childhood and still do into early adulthood?

      What do you want for your future?
      I want success and recognition and awards.

      I also want to have positive influences on many people's lives.

      I also want to be remembered for clever new ideas that continue to be implemented after my death.

      I also want to explore many regions of the world during sabbaticals.

      I don't really believe in love like you though - it is quite literally just a 'state of mind' - like an addiction to a person, it involves overactivitiy in the same brain regions that are stimulated during addiction to alcohol/heroin/nicotine.
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      I think everyone just wants to have that feeling of security, to some extent.

      I'm lucky in that my boyfriend wants the same things as I do, and we want to do them fairly soon... I know I could have a fairly fulfilled life if I didn't do the whole marriage and babies thing, but it would just be nicer to share those kind of experiences with someone else
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      because you want a nice romantic life....
     
     
     
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