date on friday, panic?!

Im seeing someone on friday who ive liked for ages, he likes me, so we go on date. im in a panic, he clearly isnt, what the hell do i do? (other than drink) have i gone off him?

Reply 1

laura789

i dont think uve gone off him, i think ur nervous...

Reply 2

r0manticide17

i am really nervous. im so nervous its stupid since im not used to going out with people. last time i had a date was when i was 14, im 16 now. twas this time 2 years ago and was a complete disaster. no talking whatsoever. i didnt have the sense to have a drink or seven back then. heh. anything that can calm my nerves about it? he came round the other day and i just made no eye contact whatsoever and tried to stay about 30cm away from him lol

Reply 3

spider from mars

I'd go easy on the drink. A couple, but no more. Nothing is more offputting than a vomiting/incoherent date.

Reply 4

r0manticide17

no, i dont mean a lot. just enough to calm me. im not a big drinker. or a social one either. i have one on a saturday after work. but id really like to avoid it at all costs and be calm naturally. any ideas?

Reply 5

frappuccino

Have you hung out much together in groups before? Cos if you haven't that might be why you're nervous as you're not really that used to hanging out wih him? I think that since first dates are potentially awkward it's normal to feel nervous but just relax You have nothing to be worried about..you like him, he likes you..etcc A drink beforehand is okay. Umm jujst keep telling yourself you're jsut gonna talk and eat or wahever no big deal.

Reply 6

SlyPie

Just have a little bit of alcohol before the date to help you relax. It should allow for a free-flowing conversation. A little bit of alcohol usually makes me more loquacious and gives me a nice pinkish complexion!

Reply 7

Poica

Concentrate on being relaxed and making eye contact. Keep and eye on your posture during the date: if you're hunched and have your arms folded/sitting defensively - stop. Lean back in the chair and spread out your arms. It'll make you look more relaxed = him more relaxed = talk flow better = you more relaxed. Also, dress in a way that you're confident and comfortable doing so - if you're wearing something that makes you feel self-conscious it's not going to help matters. By all means dress up a bit though - the preparation helps boost your confidence and calms you by concentrating on something else. Try not to worry about it too much. If something happens, it happens, if it doesn't, it doesn't matter, it may do at some other point.
Try to enjoy it!!!
Hope this helps

Reply 8

r0manticide17

still nervous. Im still pledging for the drink!

Reply 9

CherryGarcia

if you like him for ages you probably got some expectattions, coz u probably dreamed about him and so on..so, get rid of them, beacuse he can turn to completely different person, so, if you dont want to be disspapointed, get rid of all ur expectations...calm down and be yourself!!!! just be interested in him and he will be interested in you ! Show ur interest, ask questions about him etc and good luck!!!

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