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    Basically me and my boyfriend have been together for over 2 years, and we love and trust each other more than anything, but I can't help getting jealous whenever he's with/talks to other girls. He has quite a lot of friends that are girls and there's a few who flirt with him alot via facebook and texts. It's really starting to get to me, I know it shouldn't bother me but it does and I just don't know how to get over my jealousy...
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    Natural.
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    Have you spoken to him about this? If so, what does he say? What makes you jealous, exactly?
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    believe me, He only did that so you would never leave him.
    I did that before xD
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    Breath, move on, the feeling will pass. I wouldn't act on it because I don't think it would ever make things any better - you cant ask him to stop talking to girls/ acting a certain way with them because if he thinks it's harmless he'll resent you for being irational and do it anyway when your not around.
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    He knows I get jealous and I know he gets jealous of me too. I don't know what it is, I just want him all to myself and I don't like it when other girls flirt with him or have like personal jokes with him. And when I see flirty posts from girls on his facebook I just worry about what they could be saying to each other privately.
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    2 Years is a long time, those feelings won't "pass". Jealousy can be a beneficial factor, it shows you care if you want the reassurance. There is a big difference between being jealous and acting on jealousy. Do not act. If he complains about you having any contact with guys then by all means mention it.

    Decide if you are jealous or paranoid. If paranoid then talk about it, if simply jealous then be happy you've been together 2 years and don't read too much into it, focus on that "trust" and "love" line you said.
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    Tell those girls to back off or else!
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    Hey

    Basically me and my boyfriend have been together for over 2 years, and we love and trust each other more than anything, but I can't help getting jealous whenever he's with/talks to other girls. He has quite a lot of friends that are girls and there's a few who flirt with him alot via facebook and texts. It's really starting to get to me, I know it shouldn't bother me but it does and I just don't know how to get over my jealousy...
    While it is natural to feel a little jealous of the fact he's talking to other girls, at the end of the day he is allowed to have female friends and they are only mates. He is with you for a reason and clearly after 2 years he wants you and no one else, I know it's a bit out of order on the girls trying to flirt, maybe you could just ask him about it. But seriously from personal experience, jealousy destroys relationships. If you stop him living his life and having his friends, there's a good chance he will resent you for it.
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    He knows I get jealous and I know he gets jealous of me too. I don't know what it is, I just want him all to myself and I don't like it when other girls flirt with him or have like personal jokes with him. And when I see flirty posts from girls on his facebook I just worry about what they could be saying to each other privately.
    This part would be a flag to me a bit as it may be an indication of (a) they have an interest in him, and (b) how the other girls view the stability of your relationship.

    Most likely it is just fun and games with some trivial banter back and forth. Jealously is just another word for insecurity and a little of it is probably good for the relationship, as it keeps the partners a little more attentive to one another.

    I would discuss my concerns with my partner if I were you. Most likely your anxieties will be relieved.

    Best Wishes
 
 
 
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