I met my girlfriend a few months ago. And, I love her a lot. But, I'm starting to find it hard to trust what she tells me, and not sure if I know who she really is.
This is the problem. I met her, and I can tell straight away that she is in-experienced in relationships and stuff. Or, is she not. Last week, we was hanging out with some of her friends, and I meet one of her friends who is a guy. He is a ****, anyway, we was chatting about some of the girls in this group. And he ses "You see those 3 girls over there, I've been with everyone of them" and I say "including my gf?" And he ses, "Yeh, exactly". I was quite taken back, because my girlfriend has told me, I am her first boyfriend, she has never done anything with anyone. (shes just turned 17). So, I confronted her and she said, "no, its all lies, I dont like that group of people much, they all lie".
So, tonight, we was chatting, and I jokenly say "Yeh, but you like that guy don't you" and she ses, "Nah, he is just an ex, he is stupid"....... *HER EX???*** At this point my stomach dropped, and I just went silent and felt real sad She said it as if it was nothing. Have I reason to be upset and feel sad? I think ive sort of built this image of her, that I am her first for everything.
Also, she has lied to me about drinking and drugs, not that I care, because I drink and have tried drugs but ive told her that, but she told me, No ive never taken drugs, and never drink.
But, that guy said "My a** she doesn't drink" and, tonight I said to her "have you ever smoked tried drugs?" and she said "Yeh, ive done cannabis a couple of times". Not that I care that she has tried it, but why has she lied to me all a long.
I don't understand, and I feel quite upset and, well, sad to be honest. Have I got a right to feel like this?
Girlfriend lying. Reason to be upset? Watch
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Last edited by tekkers90; 11-12-2010 at 02:26.
- 11-12-2010 02:25
- 11-12-2010 02:31
I suggest you ask her exactly what happened between them
- 11-12-2010 02:37
hmmm a very grey area really - I mean she is being honest with you now at least...Maybe when she first met you - she didn't have the confidance that you'd stick around if you knew those things? You could see it, simply as proof that your relationship has developed to such a stage where she trusts you now to this extent...
However tbh if it's causing you such angst, I would just confront her (nicely) about it - not in an accusing manner - just be honest about how it's making you feeling & you just want your relationship to be based on truth, & you'd love her regardless. Sorry I couldn't be more helpful op
- 11-12-2010 03:04
Get rid. She obviously has issues with telling the truth and it'll probably end badly in the future.
I understand she might wanna hide the truth for a reason, but it's still a hard thing to put up with.
- 11-12-2010 08:17